Hi ladies
Mike and I are doing the MOD walk again this year.
Last year, we decided only a week before the walk....and raised a ton of money from family, friends, coworkers, etc., in memory of our girls. I couldnt believe how supportive and generous everyone was!
Fast forward to this year. We now have a living son. We started MONTHS ago posting signs at work, calling family, mentioning the walk to friends, etc......we thought we'd raise a nice bit of $$ to donate to this very worthy cause that is obviously very important to us. HOWEVER, we barely received anything. I mean, we did raise some money and are very thankful to those who donated, but nowhere near our goal. Coworkers who donated $100 last year donated nothing this year. No friends donated. Family were reminded several times and said they wanted to donate and then forgot all about it again and again. I'm not posting this to get donations.....my walk is tomorrow and I already have my sheets and everything printed out. I just wanted to vent a minute........did they all just give donations last year for sympathy? Because they felt bad for us? And now we have Micah they dont have to feel bad for us anymore? Does having a baby take away the fact that we lost our daughters? Do they think everything is "all better" now? And forget about me personally, dont they see that I wasnt just collecting for the memory of my girls, this is a very very important charity for many many families....but I guess that's not what they took into consideration when donating. I guess I just cant believe that my own family isnt more supportive of this walk and everything it stands for...not to mention what the $$ could potentially do in the future for so many women and babies. My own MIL didnt even donate...and my mom didnt yet (but I think she might today). They all think that I can have babies "ok" now (with cerclage)....and that prematurity isnt an issue. How do they know? Maybe I just got very lucky this time around. Ugh...you get the point. Anyway, just needed to get that out.
__________________ Becky
~Miscarriage, March 2004, 5 or 6 weeks~
~Angels Marissa & Gabriella, 9/4/04, 20 weeks, due to IC/PTL/PPROM/Incompetent Doctors~
~MICAH BORN SAFELY AT 8lbs11oz AT 39w4d, DECEMBER 2005 AFTER SUCCESSFUL PREVENTATIVE CERCLAGE!!!!!~
~MALACHI BORN SAFELY AT 8lbs6oz AT 39w1d, OCTOBER 2007 AFTER SUCCESSFUL PREVENTATIVE CERCLAGE!!!~
~MAKAIO BORN SAFETY AT 8lbs13oz AT 39w, SEPTEMBER 2009 AFTER SUCCESSFUL PREVENTATIVE CERCLAGE!!!~
I'm sorry Becky that people are forgetting your girls. How sad. Sometimes I think it's easier for others to forget our lost babies.
Viv had a similar incident with her MOD walk this yr. I'm sorry you feel bad.
((hug))
A similar phenomenon happened with mine the second time. It's one of the harsh realities of this cruel isolation that grief can be. I'm going to stress in my email (yes, I haven't requested donations yet, and our walk is next Sunday!) that it is in honor of ALL BABIES!! The way you phrased those statements is not the way people consciously think, but subconsciously that's exactly what is going on. I hope you are able to find other ways to meet your goal in the future.
__________________ Metformin 1500mg, Yasmin, managing IR/pcos with lower carbs
First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.
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Second loss March 9, 2004 at five weeks
Third pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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Becky, the same thing happened to us this year. We raised less than a quarter of what we raised last year!
It's like everyone thinks that now that Dominici's here (well, almost, anyway) and fine, we don't need to think about Rivi anymore. Which just ticked me off.
Sadly, the only true repeat donations we got this year came from others who have had losses...they understand that we do this for Rivi.
((hugs)). I'm sorry you ran into the same thing. I know how much it hurts.
my MOD vent (twin loss, sub. living child ment) 
I hope you are able to find other ways to meet your goal in the future.
- Viv mentioned having this same issue too. 
