I'm still in shock. She died due to neglect. She wasnt sick or anything. She had bilateral (both knees) knee replacement surgery on 11/29/07. 2 days later had to have another surgery on her right leg b/c the surgeon that did the knee replacement nicked a blood vessel and left my mom in the hospital for 2 days without circulation in her right leg. That started the snow ball effect. 2/5/08 my mom died from sepsis. Her leg was ampitated on 2/4/08 to save her life. In a nutshell, my mom had an infection the day she was released from the hospital and they neglected to check her throroughly. She went 2x's a week to appointments and had a home health nurse that came out everyweek to check on her. There's more to this story and yes there's a malpractice suit in place now.
My question is I'm still in shock about my mom's death. Should I wait to the shock to wear off to get therapy or get it now? I feel if I get it now that I'll just be going through the motions.
i'm so sorry honey.....i dont know what to tell you...it's an awful situation, you are in my thoughts and i pray God will comfort you at this time...
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My mom died October 2006 and I am still not over it. Similar to your mom's death my mom died due do medical malpractice. She was healthy and happy when she went for a routine medical procedure and died a few days later from complications.
I miss her so much and I don't think all the therapy in the world will help me right now. My entire life has been forever altered.
Hugs to you for I know what you are going through.
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I am so sorry about your loss. My mom died 6 months ago and though it wasn't a shock is still hard to cope with. I think you should allow yourself time to grieve and seek whatever comfort you need in the meantime. I know for me relying on my DH and family helped alot.
My thoughts are with you.
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I am so sorry for your loss My mother died 10 years ago and I still miss her on a daily basis, so waiting for you to feel "better" or more in tune it may be a while I think if you are thinking about going to therapy now is as good a time is any. I have since lost my dad and last year my 10 year old nephew that was like my own boy died in a freak accident, so in dealing with death a lot in the last 10 years all I can say if you can get help the sooner you go the easier it gets to get passed the pain and the loss and just be able to "miss" her. I hope that make since. Also remember you need to take care of you.
Hi there,
I also offer my sincere condolences. It must be a nightmare.
My mother is currently losing her battle with lymphoma so I am trying to prepare myself for the inevitable.
I am a therapist myself and can only offer you this advice. Interview your therapist on the phone...most good Psychotherapists should offer this option for free.
See if you get a feel for them. Ask them how they will conduct therapy in the inital stages of your grief....and how that will change over time. Tell them that you fear you won't get very far right now while you are still in shock. See what they say.
One of the best things you can do is set up a relationship with someone you trust and see them perhaps once or twice now but keep them on speed dial while you are processing everything.
When your system starts to let everything out...they should be there for you.
Check in over time and let us know how things are.
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I'm very sorry for your loss.
I am not sure if therapy will help this early in the grieving process, but I wouldn't bottle up your emotions. I'll tell you what usually helps me: I write a long letter. You could write it to yourself, to your mom, to the dr, etc. It's okay to cry, because you are pretty much taking all those feelings and putting them on paper, and crying is a natural part of the grieving process. Maybe you could even write multiple letters. I have a friend who regularly writes letters to her father and then goes to his resting place or his favorite park and reads them aloud "for him".
My mom passed 3 weeks ago... 
