I just finished miscarrying at 6 weeks. My Dr told me yesterday that it would be 4 to 6 weeks before af arrived. Then I needed to wait until the second time af came before ttc.
That's mid-Dec at the earliest. I have been trying non-stop for over a year to conceive. I don't know if I can wait!!!!
I'm more depressed about the wait than the m/c I think. M/C was hard, but at least I had not heard the heartbeat (it was blighted ovum) and I've coped with that.
But, if we wait until Dec or later to ttc; DH and I will both be 34 when baby is born, that's IF things work out well. We wanted to have more than one, but if we don't have the first one for over a year; we won't have another one. Uggh...
Did Anyone Here NOT Wait?
Thanks,
Anna
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I'm sorry that you're going through the most frustrating, sad thing I can think of. One of the main reasons that we often should wait one or two cycles is that our lining might not be thick and nourishing enough for the implantation, and our hormone levels might not be adequate to sustain a new pregnancy. Many people have succeeded though, so it is worth going with natural ovulations if you can until the doc is willing to try again. By that time you might have a surprise for him! Are you charting to look for ovulation? It can happen as early as two weeks after bleeding STARTS, so it might be a good idea to get a temperature chart going. It's good to know how you're responding to the metformin, anyway.
Lots of babydust!
Sheri
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My dr told me the same as yours with my last m/c and I waited. I wasn't feeling quite right anyway so I didn't think it would be good if I got pg again. I was still a little sore and my first "regular" AF after my m/c wasn't normal (TMI but really heavy and clotty) so I knew it wouldn't be good if I got pg that cycle anyway.
I know how hard it is to wait. For me being on a forced break due to m/c is 10X worse than the 2ww. I also know for me the wait was necessary. On the other hand, I have heard of a few cysters getting pg right after a m/c and carrying to term. Everyone is different and you need to do what your heart tells you. GL and I wish you all the best.
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Sheri - Thanks (I'm originally from Lake of The Ozarks!) and you too, Lots of Dots....somehow what you're saying helps. It's like a prison sentence of sorts! But, I knew someone on this board would understand.
I haven't done temp posting, just fertility monitor. I suppose I should start temps. Dr said it was too much trouble for what monitor could tell you, but that was months ago before all this.
Thanks again, ladies! Always nice to have cysters that care!
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My doctor told me to wait 1 complete NORMAL cycle after my loss. My first AF was not normal, so I ended up waiting for it to come again before starting to TTC again.
I would wait til you get AF at least once, and see if it seems normal. They want you to wait to make sure that you have an adequate lining in your uterus, and that your hormones are back to normal.
I understand the impatience, but if you miscarry a second time, you might wonder if it was because you didn't wait...and that would be a pretty lousy feeling.
I'm a little LOL at your worry that you will be 34, since I'm 37 now, and assuming that we make it this time, I am thinking we will try for another. But I know everyone has their limits.
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My RE told me to wait untill I had one period after my miscarriage. Since I pretty much never get a period I was given Provera to induce my period and was able to start at the begining of my period as though it were a fresh cycle. My body on the other hand was not ready to begin a new cycle. My lining wouldn't respond to meds no matter how much they were increased my lining shrunk. So I took it as my body's way of telling me I wasn't ready. I know how hard it is to want to move on when there are so many obsticles. Maybe if you or someone can find a link to any scientific studies that prove that there is no reason that you should wait you can show them to your doctor and express your concern for waiting.
Hello! My doc told me to wait until after first AF. I got my first AF a month after my m/c and it was totally normal. I went back to the docs 6 weeks later (after not getting 2nd AF- wanted to talk about BCP to regulate things.) Doc ran a pg test just to be sure before giving me BCP, and much to both of our surprises it came back positive! He said that the m/c may have somehow kicked my hormones into gear.
That being said, I'm still very early in the pregnancy and hoping for the best!
Thanks ladies! Your posts help me realize that the dr knows what's best and that I need to let my body prepare for a sucessful pregnancy.....wait is just so hard though!!!
With great cysters like you all....the wait won't be bad. It's just very strange after focusing on ttc for over a year to be taking a few months off. VERY HELPLESS, but I can do it!
Thanks so much!
Anna
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2 m/c in 5 months using Clomid.
One month of Femara, conceived on a rest cycle the next month!
2000mg met b/f and during pg
GD & Bedrest last month of, C-section week 38,
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I m/c at about 10 weeks, starting 8/17/04. Had a D and C 8/26. About 3 weeks later, I ovulated naturally, possibly for the first time in my life (cervical fluid started showing up on 9/12, egg burst through on 9/16 while I was taking a tour of a customer's facility - talk about timing!) Yesterday, AF came to visit after an 11-day luteal phase. I feel that I would have gotten PG between 9/12 and 9/17 if we had been able to try.
My doctor told me that they generally recommend waiting 3 months, but more for emotional than physical reasons. Since I don't have regular cycles and had been on Clomid and Metformin, she wasn't going to have me wait, except for one problem: I had to get a rubella immunization. So now I HAVE to wait until mid-November before I can try again. Only 7 more weeks till we can try again now... I HATE waiting and completely sympathize with you.
Anyone who is considering TTC, my advice is to make sure your immunizations are up to date first! That way you won't have to go through a pregnancy worrying about exposure to rubella, and if you m/c you may not have to get a shot and then have to wait to try again.
I am sorry about your loss. I didn't get my cycle back till after 6 weeks. The doctor said that we could start TTC anytime. I know how you feel. Contact me if you wish.
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I am sorry about your loss. It is very frustrating to have to wait. My RE made us wait three cycles in between miscarriages. I am not sure that I think it makes a difference. We had to wait three cycles after the first mc and when I still mc'd. We then had to wait another three cycles, and now we have Colin. I believe that if it is meant to be then it will. Good luck to you.
Kim
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I am sorry about your loss. I always hate to see someone else going through this.
I guess I don't really have any advice. That is something that you will have to decide on your own. After my first m/c my ob-gyn told us to wait three cycles. I was going through so much at the time, obviously, and thought that if I was TTC, that somehow it would make it easier. SO I called my RE and he let me start trying again right away. I was so excited about getting my way. And that very next cycle back I got pg again. Unfortunatly that pg ended in a m/c also. I often wonder if it was because I didn't wait. I will never have the answer to that.
My RE saw no reason to wait to try again, but emotinally I wasn't ready, so I took a self imposed rest cycle. Now I am in my second cycle since the last m/c and I am trying again.
Whatever you decide it will be the right choice for you personally. Just know that whatever happens that you made the right decision for yourself.
Necessary Wait B4 TTC after M/C?? 
Thanks for the info 
