I'am so confused right now and feel kind of silly for it but I just can't help it.....I just recently got out of a long term realtionship, due to the issue of having a child (I'm challenged in that area), anyways he left me, moved on and is now having a child with someone else....Fast forward to now....i met this great guy who treats me really well however he has a child (6 months old) and it bothers me and I don't know why..Actually I think it's because I don't know if I will experience the joy of having a child and I must admit Im a little jealous he already has. Am I being ridiculous??? I mean I do like him its of course to soon to tell if he is the one but Im confused.
If you two got married would the child live with you? How do you feel about being a step-mother? How does he treat the child's mother? When a child is in the mix, it's best to take things slow and make sure you are both on the same page.
thanx a bunch for replying every lil bit of advise helps. The child wouldn't live with us as far as know, right now she lives with her mother, they have a good relationship as far as their daughter goes. i have yet to meet her myself though (the mom) I agree about taking it slow so i try to take it day by day and let it unfold to whatever it may be.
When my parents married, my Dad already had three, and it took decades before my Mom was called "mom" by any of them. Now when we go out for Mother's Day they give my Mom a gift and card and hug her. As long as you understand that the other child may or may not accept you and any future children, then you are looking at things realistically.
As for not being able to have kids, at your age it seems with some cysters infertility is more a problem. There is a link on the articles board about how as women age thier PCOS symptoms seem to get better. Just having tried to have kids in teh past and not being able to have them doesn't determine your fertility in the future. Are you on any meds? What are your symptoms?
WOW that is a hard one I think you should just play it by ear and if it is meant to be it will happen! You just have to have faith. I am trying to have faith but I know better than anyone that that is hard to do. So just see where your relationship with him will go. ((((HUGS))))
that msut be hard for you but no your not being ridicolus! I would find it hard in that situation. Im sure that if explained he would hopefully understand or at least be a bit more sensitive to your needs and feelings. Take things slowly and see how it goes you never know you may be lucky! Given time i think youll find the situation a bit easier to handle. Just let nature take its course dont rush into anything you will know what to do when the time is right. I wish you the best of luck and of course much happiness. xx
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i don't think you're being ridiculous. ridiculous would be if you tried to stop the father from seeing his child. it's a tough thing, being reproductively challenged, so many issues and feelings to deal with. it's a very big thing to deal with, i think (imo) that it's natural to feel jealous, especially if you'd like one of your own. for the longest time i couldn't be around little ones without feeling hurt or sad. it takes time but it will get easier being around wee ones. best of luck to you!
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