Need someone to talk to

krucker · 08-07-2003, 04:08 AM

Hi I am new to this web and I am about to lose it. I am 24 years old. My husband and I want a baby so bad. We have been married for 2 years and right after we were married I was diagnosed with pcos! This has been and is a difficult ride. We used to be so happy and now I can't stand to look at myself and I don't want him looking at me. I have gained so much weight that I don't like to go outside anymore. I don't like sex or anything anymore because after sex it hurts me. I don't mean to be so graphic but I just want someone to know what I or we are going through. I have not been happy in a while. I feel as if my husband is with me and I don't have anything to offer him anymore. I can't give him a child of his own. How did I get like this? I am need help. My doctor is no good and I am lost. Please give me some advice.

TracyW2 · 08-07-2003, 09:10 AM

WELCOME TO SOUL CYSTERS.

First off, know that you are not alone!! It isn't your fault that you have pcos it is somthing you were born with. You will be able to have a child it is just goign to take longer than most. But you do need to find a better dr. One that is going to listen to you and help you through this.

Best of luck to you.

~tracy

KatrinaAnne · 08-07-2003, 03:35 PM

Hi hun!

Welcome to soulcysters

This is a great place with a lot of great people...and I am so happy you found us.

I am so sorry you are going through this hard time. I know many cysters can identify with what you are going through...and they will give you guidance, support, advice, and friendship. I hope you find a good doctor that will help you. Please let us know how things are.

Take care...and once again WELCOME

*Hugs*

krucker · 08-07-2003, 05:44 PM

Thank you for the encouragment. I see already that I am going to love this site! May God Bless You.

CathyWood · 08-08-2003, 02:00 AM

Welcome to SC. I am glad you found us. DO you have instant messaging? If you do...feel free to chat with me. See you around.

TinaH · 08-13-2003, 10:26 PM

Hey Sweetie,
As everyone has told you you are not alone. My husband and I went through the same thing. It took us awhile to conceive our son, it took a lot of clomid, many many tears and lots of miscarriages. At the time I had not been diagnosed with PCOS. So I just thought I was broken. I even started to think my husband would be better off with someone else. And proceeded to put my thoughts into action. But this dear person I fell in love with told me he did not marry me to have children he married me to complete his life and children, even though he too despartely wanted them, were simply icing on the cake.
That may seem easy for me to say now since I have a child but I never thought I would have any less than four kids. Now my son is six. And we started trying to have another baby right after our son was born. We've been married ten years and at this baby business for eight. It is a long and sometimes very disappointing process. But, never again have I thought he'd be better off without me. Without him and God I could not make it through a day. I learned he completes me too. One day my son will be all grown up and this loving man I fell in love with before I even knew what PCOS was will still be by my side. For better or worse!!

TinaH

Leecy · 08-15-2003, 03:06 AM

I am not married but from my experience from being in a relationship is that when i was constantly depressed my boyfriend didnt want to be around me and that hurt , maybe becuz he couldnt handle me always talking sad and crying all the time but this is your situation and u just need to deal with it THERE IS NO CURE ONLY TREATMENT. at least try the Low Carb diet it worked wonders for me and try doing some excersises with ur Husband, look the last thing u want to do is shut out the one person that loves YOU.
Next is remember YOU ARE NOT INFERTILE, the condition you have is that SOMETIMES your eggs dont get released into ur uterus so it just stays there and becomes a cyst.... it will just take you longer to become pregnant with the help of your doctor and hormones this will be possible

Lets just hope your husband is a loving and sensitive man that will support you with all his heart... showing such severe deperession that will make him wonder where is the woman that he married, this might make him "stray"

DaraRocks · 08-15-2003, 03:40 AM

Wow! What a lot to be dealing with! Have you given yourself any credit for being as strong as you both have been so far??

Take a breath cyster and congratulate yourself for getting this far! You are a smart lady (hey you found us didn't you? ) things are being heaped on us all. Breathe! Take it all one step at a time. You can't do everything all at once. It seems like everything that's getting you down is related! Great! This means if you get to the root cause it will all fall back into place! It seems that the root cause is this damned disease! Okay good...we know a lot about it! Do your reading! Look up all the info you can get your hands on, go in prepared! Here is a great place to start! There is tons of info on this site and there are lots of other sites out there! Get the info! Talk to your doc, make sure you mention the depression...there is help for that! Maybe a counselor, there's a lot to be said for someone spending an hour just interested in you! I hope you find your answers and get a renewed sense of strength and courage from the all resources here!

Welcome cyster!!! We're here for you! Best wishes!