Hi ladies,
I desperately need some prayers/positive vibes! Our situation is different from a lot of the situations I've read about because we're doing a national adoption in Mexico (we're both Mexican citizens, although I have dual citizenship). We're super nervous because we live in a very politically conservative state and the social worker and psychologist have both reiterated the importance of "family support networks." While my family is very close and supportive, they live in the US and so they aren't given as much weight.
Meanwhile, my MIL suffers from extreme depression and a whole range of physical ailments and is not supportive of the process in general. She just refused to be interviewed by the social worker citing health reasons. We are feeling so frustrated and yet of course respect MIL's fragile health. However, to be honest, she is always looking at everything in the most negative way and drags the whole family down. I've always tried to connect with her (not very successfully) and the last time I called her she yelled and cried in my ear for an hour before hanging up. DH's reaction has always been to keep a reasonable distance between us and his family (even though they live just a 10-minute walk from our place) which in my mind seems to be the healthiest way to manage a very complex sitch. We were totally honest with the social worker and psychologist about this situation from the start and YET they still insisted in trying to interview my MIL. This made DH angry and though he hasn't expressed his feelings to the agency, we both feel as if they are being very invasive and not at all trusting. So as you can see, it's very hard for us not to slide into despair as we wait for the agency to make their verdict.
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! It's one thing when your body doesn't want to get pregnant but a whole other thing when other human beings are deciding your fate. I never imagined adoption could be this stressful.
Nervous about final review... 
