I found out today (at what was supposed to be a normal 10 week scan) that our baby died 2.5 weeks ago. I have to go for a D&C in the morning and I'm pretty scared about it. We had no idea that I was having any problem... I had no bleeding for the last 4 weeks, and we heard the heartbeat at 6.5 weeks.
I'm still in shock - and terrified that I made the wrong decision to have the D&C... I just couldn't stand the thought of having my little baby dead inside of me. I'm sure that there isn't any hope for this pregnancy as I was supposed to be 11 weeks and the baby measure only 8 weeks. There was no heart activity or movement.
I just can't believe it, and i'm hoping I can meet some women here that truly understand...
Hi Jamie~~~ So sorry for your loss ((hugs))...
I hope you find comfort and peace...and know that you baby is playing in the garden of heaven with all the other children who left us to early....
I'm sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience early this year. At about 10.5 weeks, I found out the baby had stopped developing at 7.5 weeks. I had no bleeding or any other signs. Actually, I had been feeling very poorly until 7.5 weeks, and then very suddenly I felt better and my symptoms went away. I suspect my body had been trying hard to keep that pregnancy going, and when it couldn't, it returned my energy to me.
I also had to have the D&C, because there are problems if the baby doesn't come out in more than a month, and we were closing on that point. It took me another week to get in, and even at that point I had barely started to spot a little.
I had the original ultrasound at the doctor's office, and they sent me to a level 2 place the next day to confirm the death. They could see that part of the sac was malformed, although we don't know what caused that. Perhaps you can have the follow-on ultrasound, which can possibly give you the closure that there was no mistake, although with what you've described, it's very unlikely that there would have been a mistake.
*pg mentioned
While you have to decide when you're ready to try again, I will tell you that when I was doing some reading afterward about miscarriage, I found that there is some evidence that there is a higher rate of successful pregnancy if an attempt is made in the first two cycles after a miscarriage. It's as if your body recalls being pregnant and is more likely to be willing to take it on again. On many of the miscarriage boards, I saw many, many responses saying "and I got pregnant 2/6 weeks later". I certainly wasn't ready physically or emotionally to try anything two weeks later (I hadn't fully stopped spotting from the D&C, and doctors will tell you not to do anything until after the bleeding stops), and I had my first period another 2.5 weeks after that. Fifteen days later, I decided "let's try today" and..... he's kicking me in the stomach as I type. I'm almost 30 weeks along now, and it hasn't been the easiest time (he keeps trying to get out but we shove him back in), but I'm well beyond the point of miscarriage and at the point of viability. You have to find the right time to try again, but there is hope after a miscarriage.
Just take care of yourself in the next few days, and whatever you do, don't think you did something to cause this. Everyone goes there for a little bit, but don't.
I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs! I'm praying for you.
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Hello,
I've been silently reading if feels like every post on this site. I had a blighted ovum 4 years ago... And last week as I was going for the nuctual scan at 12 weeks, I found out that the baby died at 9 weeks. I was so reluctant to believe that I'm pregnant,that the only time even now I'm reminded is by the bleeding I still have from the D&E from last Tuesday.
I know exactly how you are feeing... I was super nervous the entire time I was pregnant and ever since my fears have been confirmed, and since the D&E, I have read "the end of the internet" trying to find out why this has happened. ... but still, there are no answers... I still cry everyday, but only becasue I was not able to get close to this baby before I acctually lost it. NOw, everytime I use the bathroom and see blood I acctually feel the loss, when I should have felt a baby a couple of weeks ago.
I hope Fleegle4 is right, and we are some of those ladies who get PG right after, i really hope...
if you need to talk or cry, I'm here, crying and bleeding... maybe we ca lean on eachother...
Alchick I am so sorry for your loss....you to feel free to get support here
Thanks...
I'm hoping this will be getting better? Have any of you who has had a misscarriage after seeing the HB found out why it happened? I was told that the likelyhood of finding out was slim to none, and all I have to do is keep my fingers crossed it doesn'thappen again...
Hmmm.
I'm just curious what are the possible reasons...
I cannot help but remember how the nurses were saying that the chance to miscarry is very low since the HB was seen......
Thank you everyone. I went today for my D&C. I had a wonderful nurse and support staff.... along with the best husband a woman could ask for. I was given a general anesthesia, so i don't remember anything. I just remember weeping before going back to the surgical room. I am cramping a little and of course bleeding, but I am ok. You guys are such a great source of support. God bless you...
Alchik - I am so very sorry for your loss. Nothing hurts in the same way this does. I feel a bit like I've been robbed. I will pray for you, that you will conceive exactly at the right time - when you are ready to try again. I have complete faith that we will both be mothers, and that our hurt will heal. I don't know what your beliefs are, but I will pray for you... That you will find the exact comfort and healing you need. We will get through this!
Hey everyone. I went for my D&C today. Everything went very well, and our nurses and support staff were so incredible. I am in a little pain now, but I'm pretty heavily medicated. It still seems like a dream. I don't remember anything, because I was put under completely. Anyhoo... i'm surviving and recovering.
Alchik- I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know (if you're anything like me) that this is probably the hardest thing you have ever gone through. People have already started to offer their "words of wisdom". Let's stick together to guard our hearts and minds against the inappropriate things people will say. I don't know your beliefs, but I will pray for you. I'll pray that you get the exact comfort you need at the exact time you need it. I know we will all be mothers! We will get through this!
jdubyah,
I'm so glad that your D&C went ok. Do you know if they are doing any pathology testing on the misscarriage tissue. They took mine since this was a 2nd miscarriage. Thanks for praying for me I sure need it. I'll make sure to pray for you as well. We need some support right now...
So what are your next steps of action? I now as soon as I got to the recovery room I wanted to try again ASAP. I still do. I can wait till the 8th of Jan when I see my RE. Hopefully the test on the tissue will come back by then.
Yeah, I signed for the pathology to be performed on the baby. I figured as many answers as I can have the better. My husband and I plan to try again as soon as it is safe. My doctor said to way till my next normal cycle - but my sis-in-law just suffered her 3rd miscarriage in 5 months. Her specialist advised her to wait 2 cycles. I'm no sure what we will do.... but we definitely want to try again soon. Even though I'm scared to.
So, you are going through this for a second time? Have you seen any specialists?
yeah, the nurses at my REs say that I have to wait for one cycle also, but my cycles are soo rediculous, I think I'll induce with BCP after 4 weeks and will get my period back at 6 weeks.
this is my second MS and hopefully they'll do some tests on me once I see the RE on the 8th. It'll be 4 weeks past D&E and 7 weeks pas misscarriage.
Best of luck to you. I think my doc will probably have to induce my period with provera. I just don't seem to have them without it. I hope to go back on clomid ASAP - 100mgs worked for us. I hope you get some answers - this is just one endless waiting game. ugh.
*HUGS* I'm so sorry for your loss. Mine happened in a very similar way in May. I was supposed to have been about 14 - 15 weeks along, and then we found out the baby had stopped growing a couple weeks earlier.
As far as what your nurse said... that you're not likely to miscarry after seeing the heartbeat... that is wrong, wrong, wrong. The chance of miscarrying in the first trimester (first 14 weeks) is relatively high in ALL pregnancies.
As far as finding out why... my most recent miscarriage was my third, so my doctor ordered recurrent pregnancy loss testing. They found that I have a blood clotting disorder (MTHFR) that caused a clot in the placenta and starved the baby.
That's only one of many things that can cause a loss that far along. Maybe you could ask your doctor to do some bloodwork? Many insurance companies won't cover it unless you've had 3 miscarriages, but it's worth a try.
Personally, I regret not just having the test done after my first miscarriage and paying for it out of my pocket.
new to this thread and heartbroken 
