How do you deal with your depression when no one believes you??? I don't discuss my depression (which is severe) with my family because they pass me off as being a drama queen and my husband doesn't believe that depression even exists. He says it's all in the mind and I need to get over it. I feel so freaking alone. Zoloft didn't do much for me and my doc took me off it because my daughter is 16 months so it can't be postpartum anymore (I would assume, that's what I figured, not her opinion) and she wanted to see if maybe it was just seasonal. I've been off Zoloft for about 2 months and I feel like I'm sinking deeper and deeper into these feeling of dispare, I get these periods where I just become enraged and then all I can do is cry. My sex life with DH has become non existant and my DD isn't getting the attention from me that she deserves because all I can do is just lay on the couch and feel bad. I think the worst thing is the feeling of anger I get. It's to the point where the stupidest tiniest little thing is setting me off. I feel like I would NEVER strike my daughter out of anger but I'm terrifed that one day it may happen. I think these things and I feel like I'm the most awful mother in the world.
I'm in a dead end relationship that I don't want to end because I can't do any better and I don't want to be alone and I'm not exactly prime realestate...I'm 140lbs overweight and I have a kid.
Now that I read over what I've written I sound like such a stupid drama queen. People have worst problems then me and I don't feel like I have the right to feel bad. I'm sorry if I come off sounding selfish and whiney.
Thank you for reading if you got this far, just wanted to get some stuff off my chest.
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My dad used to tell me in was all in my head too. Well, I wanted help getting it OUT of my head!
Have you read "It's my Ovaries, Stupid!" by Elizabeth Vliet? I found it insightful -- you may want to give it a whirl. She ties problems like libido and anger and depression to the hormonal cycling of menses and more... I'm not explaining it right.
But check it out at the library. I wish I had read it sooner!
PCOS is an endocrine disorder that affects your whole body. If your hormones are not at the right level, all the chemistry that goes on in the human body can get wacky. It's no wonder you might feel "off" in so many ways. Hang in there!
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I'm so sorry you feel like this. I can relate. I had the same thing when DS was born, the cycle of having "bad thoughts", then feeling bad for even thinking them. It's NOT the REAL you. IT IS DEPRESSION. Despite what your husband or family thinks, depression is real, and you should not have to deal with it alone. You might want to see another doctor, or a counselor. There are so many things out there that could help you feel better. I hope things look up soon. Take care.
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I can't tell you how often I have to explain to parents that having mental helath problems does not make you crazy, weird, or broken. I am a counselor, and I work primarily with kids dx with ADHD, but when meds are needed, I often have to use the diabetes analogy. I tell people, that a mental illness is like diabetes, in that the patient did not ask for the illness, though does need some form of help. People are usually pretty accepting that diabetics can't help needing insulin. I find that when I explain it this way, people are more likely to hear what I am saying. Also, I am concerend about what you wrote about not being able to do better. I am sorry you feel that way. We should never feel as if we are at the mercy of someone who we consider superior. Have you considered couple's counseling? Not sure if your DH would go for it, but I am sure that your non-existent sex life, and comunication problems are also dificult on him. Maybe if you put it in a way where you are asking for help, so he doesn't feel he needs to "fixed". It is not about fixing people, it is about fixing broken comunication. Best of luck to you. If DH won't go, then I suggest you get your own help, for your own wellbeing.
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"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"
I would most definately go see a counselor. When I was really depressed, she really helped me. She suggested I get on meds and to my surprise, they have worked. I don't feel I need them now, but you have to go down slowly. Did you go off Zoloft slowly or just suddenly stop?
I'm sorry, but your hubby should be supporting you whether he thinks depression is real or not. He is your husband and SHOULD notice that something is wrong with you, especially if your love life is non-existant all of a sudden. He should work with you on helping you.
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KittiesMom, are you still on a low fat diet for Alli? Did your depression get worse after you started eating that way?
The reason I'm asking is because I cannot eat a low fat diet AT ALL. It throws me into a VERY deep depression. VERY, VERY deep. The last time it happened, I took fish oil, and within hours - literally - I started to feel better.
This might not be what's going on with you, but I know you're on a low fat diet.
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Low Fat Can Make You Low
The physiological effects from some dieting also can contribute to depression. While it’s certainly conceivable that dieting provokes stress, anxiety, and even depression, recent studies conclude that these feelings may also be related to the actual amount and type of fat consumed and that a low fat diet (approximately 25 % of total caloric intake from fat) does indeed promote the symptoms of depression. One reason is that a very low fat diet results in an imbalance in neurotransmitters, particularly a reduced amount of serotonin.
The types and amounts of dietary fat we eat greatly influence how these neurotransmitters communicate and function with each other. This makes sense when you realize that 60% of our brain matter is comprised of fat. Omega 3 fatty acids (see chart, foods rich in omega 3) primarily found in salmon, mackerel, trout, sardines, flaxseed and walnuts have a strong antidepressant effect. They make it easier for receptors on the brain cells to process different mood-related signals and also maintain healthy brain cell activity. Just two servings per week of omega 3 fish sources can boost omega 3 levels in the brain. Plant sources of omega 3 from flaxseed, purslane, wheat germ, walnuts and dark greens such as spinach and kale also contain omega 3 oils. However, the body utilizes fish sources of omega 3 better than plant sources.
The Risks of Low-Fat Diets
Provided by: Psychology Today
Last Updated: April 29, 2003
It's one of the most intriguing discoveries about diet. People who consume a diet low in fats and especially low in cholesterol are at risk for depression and suicide.
The first clue that low-fat diets might have anything to do with depression or self-directed violence turned up a few decades ago, quite by surprise. Large community-based studies of heart disease prevention strategies showed that among persons with the lowest cholesterol levels, there was a increased incidence of death not caused by illness, primarily to suicide, accidents, and violence.
At first, it defied comprehension. And to a considerable degree it still does, twenty-something years later.
But the link between cholesterol lowering and suicide may run directly through brain serotonin pathways, with side stops to depression, irritability, impulsiveness, and aggression. Or it may run more indirectly through metabolic pathways of brain serotonin, the neurotransmitter most associated with depression. Whatever the link is, it's complex, because it hasn't been easy to pin down.
Not that there is a whole industry of people trying to hunt it down. To some degree, the issue pits hearts against minds, or the interests of cardiologists against those of psychiatrists and neuroscientists. Cardiologists, for the most part, along with many public health experts, are focused on the need for much of the American population to reduce their risk of heart disease by cutting their intake of dietary fats. They have lots of evidence to back them up. And they don't seem over-eager to vigorously pursue whether there may be an unusual behavioral hazard associated with cholesterol-lowering strategies.
Several studies have shown that low cholesterol is linked to depressed mood and to impulsivity, although it isn't clear whether the link to depression is as true for people whose cholesterol levels are lowered by diet as in people with naturally occurring low cholesterol levels. Behavior is a very tricky thing to study, and many different factors have to be taken into account.
But some problem in serotonin function seems always to be at the center of the story.
In nonhuman primates, high cholesterol levels enhance serotonin function. They lower levels of overt aggression. And they promote social behavior.
In people and other animals, serotonin dysfunction is implicated in major depression and, independently, with suicide. Serotonin is seen as a "neurotransmitter of restraint." It remains inactive until called upon to inhibit some impulsive command, such as, say, the thought of suicide in the face of some extra stress.
In healthy people, serotonin turns on to suppress impulses and keeps them in check. In those whose serotonin system is not responsive, for whatever reasons, it fails to suppress an impulse, resulting in an impulsive act. Like hostility. Or acting on a suicidal thought.
Low-fat diets are known to alter serotonin function. They might decrease the fats in nerve-cell membranes, impairing serotonin receptors.
Where does that leave you?
With some awareness, hopefully, that there are few absolutes. Dietary fat isn't all bad, and some is absolutely necessary. Did we say moderation? Absolutely.
You would be amazed how much fish oil has helped my anxiety and depression i think everyone should give it a try that is going through anxiety/depression .. it helps in other areas as well (health wise) i take 2 pills that are 1200 mg once a day.try it and see if it helps *HUGS*
Maybe it would benefit you to look into some type of counseling or therapy. If you don't have the resources, then I would get into contact with your local department of family services. They may be able to give you info on a place that is income based or free.
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KittiesMom, are you still on a low fat diet for Alli? Did your depression get worse after you started eating that way?
Actually I've been depressed since I was 6. I've been through sexual abuse and was moved more then 8 times thoughtout my childhood. I saw a counsler when I was about 16 and she just diagnosed me with anxiety and I was put on rispedone which is an antipychotic med. It really didn't do much and after awhile my parents decided to stop wasting money on me because I was being a "drama queen". I was stable for awhile for the next 5-6 years only having a few bad moments and then after I had my daughter and stayed home with her I started to feel worse and worse. I gained 60lbs and didn't have anyone to talk to (except ya'll and I seriously and soooooo freaking thankful I found this support site) so I just kept going deeper and deeper. I just set up an appointment with my primary doctor to discuss trying Wellbutrin because although Zoloft helped alot with my anxiety it really didnt' do much at all with my depression. My insurance isn't that great so DH doesn't want to waste money on me seeing a therapist (again...everyone just feels like I'm a waste of money and a drama queen) so until I get a job and we get stable (we just bought a house so there's even more stress there) I'm just going to have to make due with trying to find an antidepressent that works for me. lol..can you tell I'm desperate for adult conversation? It's getting to the point the Jehovah's Witnesses are passing by because they know I'll talk their ears off.
Anyway, thanks you guys so much for your notes and concerns, sometimes I just really need to know that I'm actually worth something and I don't sound like an angsty teenager.
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No freaking support 
If DH won't go, then I suggest you get your own help, for your own wellbeing.
