We had our first u/s yesterday and the doctor found no heartbeat. She said that the baby is measuring at about 6 weeks although I should be about around 9-10 weeks along. My doctor said that if the fetus was only 6 weeks I would have conceived on 8/17 which wouldn't make sense because I got the positive test on 8/8. They took some blood yesterday and I have to go back in 48 hours to have more blood taken. If my levels don't increase I will have to go in on Monday for a D&C. My husband and I are devastated. There doesn't seem to be much hope. We are still praying for a miracle though.
I am just a mess right now and I can't stop crying. I know it is not my fault but all the thoughts of "what if?" keep running through my head. I can feel the baby inside me and the thought that it has stopped developing just makes me feel terrible. This is the first time this has happened to me and I hope it is the last.
I was just wondering if there is anyway that this could turn out positively. I am running out of hope and could use a little inspiration.
Thanks
Samantha
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I don't know enough about it to help you with the medical side of things but I just wanted to say I am so sorry this is happening to you. I really hope everything turns out ok, and that there was just some mistake made. Take care.
So many hugs coming your way!
It doesn't sound good, but I would certainly get a second u/s if you have doubts. Often they will do one before doing a d&c "just in case", so definitely talk about this. And remember, you have the choice to go through a natural m/c if you do not want the procedure. Most cysters who have had a d&c don't regret it because it brings things to a close physically so they can start the emotional healing. It would be great news if somehow there has been a mistake, and I hope that happens. I just don't know enough about this to suggest hoping or giving up, know what I mean? Time will certainly tell.
I'm so sorry,
Sheri
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I'm so sorry. I hope there has been some mistake in timing. I'm the type to hang in until the end, even when I know the truth. I have never had a D&C. All of my m/c were natural. I really don't recommend that b/c it is torture waiting. (((hugs))) If you need someone to talk to you can PM me anytime.
I'm so sorry. I can't help but hope there is some mistake. I would ask for one more u/s, just to make sure. My doctor graciously allowed me one more u/s after the one where we learned I would m/c. It really made me feel better to know for a fact what was going on.
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Most cysters who have had a d&c don't regret it because it brings things to a close physically so they can start the emotional healing.
This is me, to a tee. I have no regrets about the D&C. Well, one - that it took me so long to decide to have it.
Please keep us posted on things...we are all thinking of you...
Meghan
Thank you all for the support. It is so nice to have a place to come and feel comfortable letting your feelings out. I am feeling better today. I have to go get my blood taken at around 4:00 this afternoon. I should know the results within a few hours after that. My level was around 13,000 and they are looking for it to double. The only problem is, if it does double, while it is a positive sign, it still doesn't mean we are out of the woods. We will then have to do another u/s next week to make sure the baby is growing. There is just too much waiting... That is the hardest thing to deal with.
I am definatly going to go with the D&C. If we find out that the baby is not developing anymore I just want to get it over with as soon as possible. I hope that doesn't sound cruel in any way. I just want to be able to start the healing process as soon as possible.
Thank you all for your support. I really need all I can get.
Samantha
I got the results back and it dropped from 13,000 to 9,000. So now I just have to wait. If I do not m/c on my own this weekend I am going to have a D&C on Monday hopefully. I am glad however that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. The waiting game is almost over and then we can move on and start healing. I am also grateful that the m/c happened now and not later in my pregnancy. I have the greatest amount of sympathy and admiration for those of you who have been in your second and third trimesters having to deal with this loss. My heart goes out to you all.
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Samantha, so sorry for your loss. Well, it is Monday (I've been out of town) and I'm guessing maybe you are having the D&C today? Keep us posted on what you decide to do. We are all thinking of you.
No Heartbeat....feeling hopeless 
