I have been depressed on and off since I was a kid. It has never been treated...I tried to commit suicide when I was a kid but my friends called me and calmed me down. When my dh was deployed the first time I thought about taking a whole bottle of pain killers not to kill myself but because I wanted very badly to be numb from the pain I felt. I didnt because I thought about it for a minute and I had promised my dh I wouldnt do anything stupid...
Since then I have gotten pg 2times and lost them both in three months During the last miscarriage dh was deployed for the second time.
So anyhow I dont have time to go see a dr because my boss is freaking about ppl taking off too many days
Plus I dont want to go on meds because I still really want to get pg and I know the first thing they are going to do is give me meds. So I was wondering if there is anything I can do to make it better.
BTW I eat more when I am depressed so I gain weight when I am trying to lose weight.
PLEASE help me if you can
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well the thing is since my dh is in the military we have military insurance and the military drs only work during work hours and no more. So I dont think it would be possible unless I paid for it myself and we cant afford that right now
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I know some people have tried 5-HTP or try St. John's Wart? Let me know how it goes!
But I dont know if you are ttc if its safe! Do some research!
Molly
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I can't take meds for depression due to a serious adverse reaction a few years ago. I now have to manage my depression through a variety of means. It's way more work (in that, when you're depressed, the last thing you want to do is deal with anything) but the only side effect so far has been a nice butt.
1. Working Out
I work out for at least 40 minutes six days a week doing both strength training and cardio. Endorphins are nature's prozac - seriously, they've done studies. Both cardio and strength training have shown to have as positive an affect as meds and therapy in patients with mild to moderate depression.
2. Talk Therapy
I do this in winter only because that is when I am most likely to start really struggling with staying healthy. This was really helpful in helping me to figure out what kinds of situations or issues cause me negative stress and then how to better manage my emotional response as well as put together plans on how to either reduce or elliminate those situations or issues alltogether. Like you, I have access to a therapist through a work plan and they do have talk therapists who meet outside of work hours - call and ask if there are any with alternate hours under your husband's plan.
3. Sunlight
As I said, I tend to get worse in winter, when it is cold and dark. I bought a litebook and I use it until the sun starts to shine again.
Combined, the three have kept me fairly healthy. I did start slipping this fall because we were doing renos and I quit exercising. It didn't take long before I could feel it creeping back. I immediately got back into taking care of myself and it took a while but within a month or so I started to feel so much better.
And about the meds, they aren't the devil. There is no shame in taking them. They have helped many people. Do some research and consider them as a possibility. They do have side effects and it can take a while to adjust to them and feel better (about 6 to 8 weeks). Also, it can take a few tries to find one that will work for you. And, when you go off, discontinuation can be pretty uncomfortable - but they also can and do work and have been a godsend for many people.
well the thing is since my dh is in the military we have military insurance and the military drs only work during work hours and no more. So I dont think it would be possible unless I paid for it myself and we cant afford that right now
With Tricare, if you are stateside, most of the family members are referred off base for counseling services. Some of the off base people have hours in the evenings. Sometimes if you call and explain, they can be quite helpful, but it depends on where you are stationed. You should be able to get a list of providers in your area from the tricare website.
Also, sometimes the chaplains on base do counseling, they just can't prescribe meds.
<----spent four years dealing with the military insurance......it's complicated.
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Only two more years until I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor!!
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Kiersten...yes it is very complicated...I will look into that and see what they say
The bumbler...I am not against taking the meds. I just cant at the moment as most meds are harmful to babies during pg....we are trying very hard to get pg and wouldnt want to compromise the baby in any way...In the research I have done excercise seems to be my best bet but trinng to get off my butt to get it done is a completely different thing...I have NEVER liked it...even when I was a kid I hated to do it...I have always been someone who would rather sit on the floor and play games then do anything that makes me sweat...If I could find something I like to do I would definately do it.
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I have a confession to make - I don't really like it much either. The elliptical is boring and the weight training is hard. But, I hate depression more - the insomnia, the mood swings, the freaky thoughts, the complete feeling of defeat not to mention the memory loss and concentration issues affecting my ability to do my job. The hardest is the first two weeks where the last thing in the world that you want to do is move around because of the exhaustion, lack of energy and the feeling that it's going to be hopeless effort (I know it won't be useless but I still feel that way - weird, non?).
My only advice is to just start taking it in baby steps - try and do just a little bit more everyday and override those thoughts of how much you hate working out and how little you want to do it with thoughts about how you want to feel better and that this will help (that's also a little trick from cognitive behavioural therapy sessions - rewriting that inner monologue).
I will try...I have bought all kinds of stuff to do but I just never feel like doing it especially at the end of a long work day. I dont know how ppl that do it daily learn to like it...like my husband he loves the pain from working out...I HATE it...maybe that is where it has gone wrong with me??? who knows...
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I've recently had to return to my medications after a good 4 years without them. During those 4 years I controlled my anxiety and depression with a good combination of Bio-feedback, Yoga and diet. There is a great beginner's Yoga DVD for round women I found journaling helped me quite a bit as well There have been a lot of great suggests give here You just have to find the ones that work the best for you!
I posted some suggestions on the other thread about finding someone to see you off hours--and there are people who will work for low fees for people in certain financial situations. Please don't give up on getting yourself some help--some medications are safe in pregnancy, and there are other things a professional may be able to help you with that are non-medical.
As for the exercise, play with it, either in groups or with videos (lots of times the local library will have exercise tapes)--some things I've tried and enjoyed include yoga, weight lifting, belly dancing, pilates... there are other women I know who enjoy various types of dance, classes with those big exercise balls (which are pretty cheap at a place like Target), water aerobics... I also enjoy, and benefit substantially mentally, from things that get me outside--gardening, walking the dog, etc.
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I dont know how ppl that do it daily learn to like it...like my husband he loves the pain from working out...I HATE it...maybe that is where it has gone wrong with me??? who knows...
