I'm Cathy and I've been really really depressed lately..I am going to be 35 in October and I was Diagnosed with PCOS when I was 13...I am severely overweight..I'm 5'3 and weigh 285...I want someone to share my life with..someone to notice me for who I am not what I look like. Men just overlook me for some reason. Yes I am shy but that is due to my weight problem and the hair on my face which I shave everyday.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I listen to all my friends who have guys falling all over them and wonder..what's wrong with me? Why don't they notice me? Oh well I've rambled too much...thanks for listening.
(hugs) I just wanted to tell you that you arent the only one out there that feels this, I can totally relate to you. I dont have a significant other to share my life with either, but Im not giving up hope... I see lovely ladies of all sizes on this board with beautiful boyfriends/husbands/sig others, so the men are out there.. somewhere. Personally I havent run into them yet
I am shy too, its hard to put yourself out there with all of the things we have going against us. My weight loss has been very very slow and choppy, but I do find myself feeling more confident even with my small triumphs and that feeling seems to project itself to the boys.. and I feel that they notice it and me more. Im still not doing it for them, its for me.. but it seems to be a nice added benefit.
Have you thought about going and getting a new hair style lately? I just had that done this past weekend, pretty drastically, and the comments havent stopped yet I really think when you feel good on the inside it shows on the outside..
Have you seen a doctor about the depression?
btw.. Im not too far away from you, Im just in NoVa.. *wave*
Thanks for the reply...I hate this feeling..yeah I have seen a doctor and I was on Prozac and I HATED the feeling it gave me. I Just recently got a new hairstyle/color....It did help some but I'm still not as happy as I should be...I am on Weight Watcher's and I lost 3.8 lbs last week..which is good. I want this certain guy but he usually goes for small girls.
Don't give up. There are great men out there who want a loving and good woman, and you have to believe that some where out there, a lucky guy will find you.
Wishing you the best.
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Rachel 33
DH 36
PCOS: Diagnose 2004
TTC #1 Since 2001
Metformin 1500 mg July 2004
(((Cathy))) I'm so sorry that you're feeling so badly about this. I can totally relate to how you feel. You described what most of my life has been like, watching my thin, outgoing friends have guys falling all over them, never being the one they were interested in.
Are you or have you thought about going to some counseling? I find that was the single most important thing I ended up doing for myself. It helped me get my life back, literally. After struggling with depression my entire life (and still to this day) it was like a curtain had been drawn and there was this completely different person on the other side, one who was pretty, and confident and sexually attractive. I did end up getting married when I was 30 (I'm 34 now) but there was a time where I truly thought that would never happen for me.
You ARE that person. You are beautiful, smart, confident, important, and attractive. Work hard to find that part of yourself because I know it's there.
How you are feeling is something very close to my heart, if you ever need to talk feel free to PM me!
Also, if Prozac didn't help you maybe consider trying a different anti-depressant such as Wellbutrin or Zoloft, sometimes it just takes a little experimentation to find the one that will work the best.
I feel the same way. I listen to my friends tell guy stories ALL THE TIME. I feel like they have new guys every single week. It is awkward sometimes because I have nothing to input into the conversation. I feel like I am never ever going to find anyone. I am 23 and I have never had a boyfriend... Still waiting. I feel like guys just look right past me all the time. It sucks. I think about it all the time.
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Welcome to SC Cathy! (((HUGS))) to you...I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I met DH before I had PCOS and the weight gain, facial hair etc etc so he's gotta deal with me now...lol!
There's someone for everyone girl! Don't sell yourself short!
Congrats on your weight loss so far! That's alot of weight to lose in one week!
The *right* man will come your way....usually when you're least expecting it. I have alot of beautiful overweight friends that have knockout BF/DH.....so keep your chin up!
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hi cathy,
i know it must be hard, but dont give up i am sure "mr.right" is out there, it just might take some time, maybe you can join some mixed activites that would give you a chance to meet both men and women, even through your new women friends you never know who you could meet up with.
keep your chin up and focus on all the good things you have in your life and the rest will fall into place.
Any man that dismisses the thought of being with you because of appearance isnt worthy of you anyways! I'll bet that you're a gorgeous woman, inside and out!
Dont worry, even with being married, its hard to face myself in the mirror each day. Your not alone (((hugs)))
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