not coping!

mimi83 · 03-02-2005, 12:26 PM

Hi everyone, as you may have guesed I am new!

I have only just been disagnosed with PCOS about a week ago, alough I and some docs have suspected that is what was wrong for a while now!

It all started when I went to the docs about 12months ago with ectreammly irregular periods, they were coming and going at will and mosts months I would only have about a week inbetween bleading. It was hell. I though I was constantly misscarriing as my finace and I havent used any sort of contraception for about a year and a half now! my doc suspected that it could have been a couple of misscariages each time there was exxesive bleeding but couldnt be sure as it would have been too ealry on to tell aparently. Now after going to the docs and quirring why I was consistanly having two periods in the month, every month for so long and not getting preggers even tho we hadnt been using anything, she said that its most likey stress and told me to calm down and go home that their was nothing wrong with me and it would sort itself out in time. well I gave it time lots of infact I continued to suffer my continuous bleeding thinking that it was just something I had to put up with,I did so for about another 8 months then finally my finace told me to go back to docs, they then did some bloods, and when the results came back they said there had been a slight indication that it could be pcos, but never explained what it was, they just said that I should leave it to sort itslef out in time - yet again! i was beggining to get extreamly frustrated by this time and had began noticing other affects,rapid wieght gain, about 2stones in a few months, mood swings, hairyness! pain in my adomen. I went back again and practiacally demanded something to be done so she sent me to the gynea, who was awful he told me that they were going to put me on metaformin to regulate my periods but this may cause some wiehg gain and it was something that I would just have to put up with, I again asked what could be causing all this and he told me as I was walking out the door ' oh i suppose it could be cysts on your ovaries' I was shocked and left promptly as he was not willing to discuss it further with me unitll i returned in 3 months time! I decided to research pcos, and everything sarted to fall into place all my symptons were the ones of pcos, I went back to my doc and asked if the drug they gave me would be ok to take if indeed i did have pcos and asked her to test me further, she told me i could but it would prob be a waste of time. I left frustracted again, and cried this time, I decided to change doctors, and on my very first app my lady doc said it definatly sounded like pcos and was shocked that the gynea hasd percribed metaformin as this would make me gain even more weight which is bad for pcos sufferers, I was angry and she suggested blood tests right away, they cma eback last week to comclude that yes i do have pcos and she is sending y for untra sound to determin the amount of the cysts. I am upset to find out this is what I have but relived also as I now know im not going mad! I have decided to completey change my lifestyle, and folow a low gi index diet and have gave up smoking and also alchohol completly. I have also started the gym and have noticed a wee bit of a difference.

I am extreamly upset though by the though that I may not be able to have children. I dont know weather to just start trying now, or wait and maby spend countless pointless yrs on ivf or fdrugs??? anyone else feeling depressed about or have any remedies?

hopeful408 · 03-02-2005, 12:46 PM

Hi Mimi
welcome to SC, this is a journey of hope and stuggles, you will find that you can receive lots of support from cysters who are going through the same things, and can relate to your situation, best wishes and looking forward to seeing you on the board!

QuiltingAllieKat · 03-02-2005, 12:49 PM

Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone out there. A lot of people do concieve naturally with PCOS and alot concieve with help. It sounds like you at least have a doctor that is willing to help and somedays that is half the battle. I wouldn't rule out metaformin as a medication to take to help though alot of PCOS women have very good luck with it, and many lose weight while on it. Good luck!

CathyWood · 03-02-2005, 06:42 PM

HI Welcome to SC. I am glad you found us. I am sorry this is hard but we are here for you. Contact me if you wish. See you around.

lovelyinkedlady · 03-03-2005, 11:10 AM

Howdy mini,

Well I can say i've been in your shoes. I know the flustration, the best advise i can give you being someone who's now known for 10 months and only been confirmed diagnoses for 10 days is this.; Take the time to grieve, i know that sounds really strange and your probably not sure why your grieving. When i was told the same thing happened to me, the dr gave me the number to the infertility clinic said you have pcos and told me not to call the infertility clinic till i was serious about trying to get pregnant and sent me out the door with nothing. I was angry. I went through the anger, the depression, the baraging with the Goddess, and now i've come to except what lyes before me. I know with positive thinking i will get pregnant at some point. But it's gonna take a hell of a lot of work on my part. But why greive, you've been told something that is life changing. Let it be what it is. Once you greive the news you can embrace it, deal with it , and live with it. It's the most empowering thing i know of.

Blessed be and find the strenght within yourself your still a beautiful women!

CazualDayDreamer · 03-03-2005, 01:05 PM

You are not alone...I just found out 3 weeks ago. I think we have a lot in common on the emtional side. It bites going through this.
I'm just glad I found the board, cuz it seems like a lot of people around me don't understand the emtional part of it.
If you need anyone to talk to feel free to email me...we'll be okay...