Not doing so great

fluff · 04-02-2003, 01:38 PM

Just really need some comforting! sorry that sounds selfish.

After the great news of getting pg finally, i'm really angry that it's all been taken away. I was 10 weeks went for a 2nd scan ( the first one was inconclusive ) only to be told that it was a "missed miscarrige". Had a D & C on monday 24th March.

It's even harder cause none of my family or friends want to talk about it for the sake of upsetting me. Iknow they all mean well but it does not help. Just feel very lonely, angry all the normal feelings i expect.

I so so wanted this baby but i am so scared of trying again just in case it happens again.

Fluff x

heathrow · 04-02-2003, 02:33 PM

*hugs*

I just went through this myself.

It's such a hard thing to go through.

I can just offer you support.

Louie · 04-02-2003, 02:46 PM

((((fluff)))) sorry. I know that feeling all too well. Be really kind to yourself, tell your family that you need to talk/cry, and just know that it really will get a bit better with time. It's hard not to be afraid of it happening again. I am so afraid of that too. All you can do is be sure that you have an excellent doc, try to find out what may have caused the m/c... but then take comfort in knowing that most people go on to have a healthy pr after a loss. I am so sorry that you've gone through this terrible loss. I hope you will start to feel more at peace in the days ahead.

tallybarry · 04-02-2003, 02:55 PM

**hugs** i cried when i read your post. that could have been written by me. i am so sorry for your loss. i can only tell you that there will be good days and bad days and someday the good days will come more often than the bad. please feel free to grieve the loss of your baby and dont ever feel selfish for needing comfort. we are all here for you when you need to talk. i wish i could tell you not to be scared but i am struggling with that one myself but we must try really hard not to loose hope. it will happen, we will become pg and finally hold our precious babes in our arms.

Sapphire Spirit · 04-03-2003, 01:13 AM

Hi fluff
[[[[[[[HUGS]]]]]]]]]]. You have come to the right place for comfort and support. My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry for the loss of your little one. The devastation and heart break is overwhelming. I also know the fear that you are experiencing about trying again. It is such an emotional struggle you have with yourself and I found that ultimately if I gave up trying it would be like giving up hope.......and without hope there isn't much else.
Let yourself grieve for your baby. Feel angry, lonely, sad........whatever you need to feel. Be kind to yourself and seek out support and comfort when you need it. You will always find a shoulder to cry on here.
Take Care

Amy

MaLee · 04-03-2003, 02:34 AM

Tell your family you do want to talk about it. Also, I too am afraid of naothe rm/c, but I want a baby so badly - that that fact is giving me the desire to continue on the TTC process. Whenever you are upset, we are here for you. Just let us know when you need (((Hugs)))!

*DesertRose* · 04-03-2003, 03:04 AM

Fluff, I am so sorry for your loss ... unfortunately I know just too well what you are going through right now ... if you need to talk, we are always there for you *hug*

Shaima

kis95 · 04-03-2003, 01:12 PM

I also know what you're going through. I had a "missed abortion" in '97. Despite 1 chemical pg, I have not successfully conceived since then.

My heart and my prayers go out to you. Truly.

Huggies · 04-03-2003, 02:05 PM

So sorry to hear what you are going through. I hate that anybody has to go through this. I know what you mean about friends and relatives not being supportive and not wanting to talk at all. Actually my friends and family totally stopped calling and coming over. Didn't return my calls, etc. I was so hurt. Still am. Thankfully, my dh was very supportive and so are the girls on this site.

And also, I met a new friend when I was going through my miscarriage who went through the exact same thing a few weeks prior and she called me like 4 times a day and brought me flowers. Gosh, she was a blessing!!!!! I am good friends with her now.

I am thinking of you. I wish I was there to hug you right now.

airforcewifeynva · 04-03-2003, 03:05 PM

I'm sorry you are going through this. I have been through 2 miscarriages and losing my son at 37 weeks. No one in my family wants to talk about any of it. Its very tough for me. I go through so many emotions. I get mad, I get sad, I get upset and I get confused. I wonder why I was picked to go through this. I am pregnant again and although I am thrilled to be 10 weeks along, I wont be able to stop worrying my whole pregnancy. I feel like the ability to be able to enjoy my pregnancy was taken away from me. My only choice is to take it one day at a time. My advice to you is take your time and grieve however you want. You have that right. I hate that anyone has to go through losing a child. It is the worst thing in the world in my opinion. I will keep you in my thoughts. You are definitely not alone. Hang in there.

KatrinaAnne · 04-03-2003, 04:07 PM

Fluff,

Hun, I am so sorry. I wish that there was something that I could say or something that I could do to take the pain and the lonliness away. I can not say I know what you are going through, but I can definetely sympathize

I am truly sorry for the loss of your beautiful little one. I will pray for you and I hope one day soon you will be able to feel the sunshine shining on you once again.

Your friend and cyster,
Katrina