I've noticed in the various threads some of us struggling with coping, feeling like we're the only ones to keep our child's memory alive.
I thought it would be beneficial if we had a place to commemorate our children.
When I lost my child, a counselor told me give him a name. I felt at first that I couldn't, because I didn't know the sex. My counselor helped me see that I had been with this child every minute for three months. So I prayed about it, and I prayed over what the baby's name was.
So here it is:
My son's name is Luke.
I loved him desperately, though I never held him.
He died on April 13th, 2002.
I wish him joy.
__________________ Lorilee
I believe that I shall look upon the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living!
Wait for the LORD;
be strong, and let your heart take courage;
wait for the LORD!
Psalm 27:13-14
I think this is a wonderful idea Lorilee...i'm so sorry for your loss...
But remembering is the only thing that got me through...i think of my girls every single day...its been almost a year...i cant believe it. But i talk to them...in my head...just to let them know i'm thinking of them...and when i got to the point of ttc-ing again...i prayed to them to help me...to bring another baby into my life.
I found out the other day that my due date for this baby i carry now...is the same date they were born...the 8th. I feel like its a message from them that they love me too...
sighhhhh.....
Aimee and Dana
perfect in every way
born feb 8 2004
too early and too little to stay.
they'll always be my baby girls...and i'll always wish they were here with me...
__________________ Kim 40 PCOS/IR/IC/PIH/PTL
DS6yrs-preemie-30w)Twins-Met,Prometrium, Puregon Injectibles DS3YRS
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I feel that in my grief, the spirit of my dear son Matthew keeps me on the right track. My mind has not been what it should be lately, and i find that i call out his name often. Somehow i find my way.
Mohamed Matthew Raymon Illyas
A beautiful Gift from God
Mommy's little angel
November 30, 2004
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Our sweet angel, Mohamed Matthew Raymon Illyas,
born and at rest on November 30, 2004.
Lived only 30 precious minutes...(IC at 20 weeks) Forever in our hearts, Together in our dreams.
We now live our life for you. We love you Matthew, our little Angel.
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I keep Rivi's urn on a table in our living room. It's actually a beautiful vase, you can hardly tell it's an urn. Everyday when I get home I rub it hello.
Every night before I go to sleep, I kiss his picture on my nightstand.
I even kept the clip that held the balloons we released on my due date last week. We have a memory box and a memory album (with all of the poems I wrote, pics, etc.).
I feel this incredible need to hold onto everything that reminds me of him since I can't hold him anymore.
BTW, I had a dream about him playing with the balloons we released. There were other kids with him - I hope they were my cysters'!
__________________ Dominici was born May 2006!
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Miracle Baby Boy Rivelino, born too early to live on October 6, 2004 at 24 weeks and 6 days. Never to be forgotten, always to be remembered, forever my source of inspiration.
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I like the idea of giving my angels a name. I don't know their genders either, so I will figure out unisex names for them. I have to talk to DH about it though, I want him to have a say as well.
I hate how people don't seem to "remember" our losses. There is one woman I work with who is really good about coming in and asking "how are you doing" every week or two. She went through 3 losses herself, before finally having a girl, and then her body went into early menopause. She is now in her late 40s, but you can tell she still feels pain about it. I am glad I confided in her because she has probably been the most considerate person of anyone who knows about my losses.
I'll post later when we have the names figured out...right now I have 2 picture frames, one with the "March" birthstone and one with the "September" birthstone. I'm going to put either pictures of angels in them, or possibly pictures of my ultrasound (from the first PG) or my BFP (from the 2nd PG, a chemical one) in them. Also, I know a dog isn't a child, but I miss my dog SO much and I touch his urn (which is on our fireplace mantel behind a picture of him) and say hello to him all the time. He died on March 9, 2004, and my first child was due March 9, 2005. That's going to be a tough day!
I am so sorry for the losses of everyone on this thread. I hope our children are playing together somewhere, looking over us.
__________________ Lean cyster ~ M/c @ 10 wks after seeing heartbeat 8/04, m/c @ about 10 weeks after seeing heartbeat 8-09. 2 chemical PGs lost @ 4.5 wks 1/05 & 3/05. 4/05: Dx w/antiphospholipid antibody syndrome.
I just wanted to add to my post from 2/6. My DH doesn't want to give our angels "human" names. He just wants to keep calling them Mooch and Bean. That makes me kind of sad. But at least they have their own little "pet" names that I will keep close to my heart.
__________________ Lean cyster ~ M/c @ 10 wks after seeing heartbeat 8/04, m/c @ about 10 weeks after seeing heartbeat 8-09. 2 chemical PGs lost @ 4.5 wks 1/05 & 3/05. 4/05: Dx w/antiphospholipid antibody syndrome.
I lost my angel on 10/29/05. I give my baby the name of Jamie. It is a unisex name and it is a combo of my name Aimye and my Dh name Jason. My dh and I went the Build a Bear store New Year's Eve and stuffed an angel bear together. Inside we place the picture of the embryos we had implanted during IVF. I have the angel sitting high atop of my armoir in the family room. I love seeing the angel bear everyday.
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[font="Comic Sans MS"]Aimye (35) married to Jay (35) my hero
One IVF/FET,IC miracle JT born 8/18/06
1 perfect Angel Forever missed 10/29/04
WLS 4/14/2008
Start weight: 280 Current: 176 Goal:130
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My son's name is Gabriel. He was born on Nov. 15, 2004 at 8:18 pm, at 19w5d. He weighed 1 pound and measured 9 inches. He was perfect in every way, but only lived for a little while. I will miss him for the rest of my life.
His footprints -
__________________ Adrianne 31, DH 44 - married 6/01 - 2 DSDs (13 & 15)
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Not Forgotten 
