We found out one week ago that we lost our baby. I had a D & C done 5/9/06. I am an emotional mess. I am very depressed and on the verge of tears all the time. I can't go out because everytime I see a pregnant woman or a baby I break down. This can't be normal. I'm usually a very strong person. Could it be hormones reaking havoc?? I just don't know.
__________________ Me(32), DH Chris(30)
Married 7/8/00
DD Ella Nicole born 1/28/08!!!
Jennie, what you are going through is completely normal. You've got to give yourself time to grieve. You loved your baby, even though he was only with you a short time. The world around you may put pressure on you to "get over it", but the loss of a child is not something you just "get over." Like the loss of any loved one, you have to work through the process. You wouldn't expect to be "over" the death of your mother in a week. Just because your baby was too small to hold doesn't mean that he wasn't precious to you. He was a part of you and he always will be. I'm so sorry you had to say goodbye.
you are not crazy. This is completely normal. all of us here have been where you have been. We understand and if you need to vent/grieve/cry/scream, please feel welcome too. We will not think you are whining or weak.
I'm so sorry for your loss. If you need to talk, feel free to PM
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Oh, sweetie, it's totally normal. I break down every time I see babies. And sometimes I need nothing to break down. I had my D&C on last Wednesday. You need to give yourself more time. This is a real loss, you loved your child, no matter how long it was with you - let yourself grieve no matter how long it takes. My best friend had two losses before her daughter and she assures me it gets better. So one day at a time. Make sure you're talking to people - either people here, or your DH to get your feelings out. THis is something you don't want to bottle up. Take heart, the pain won't always be so raw, even if it is there to some degree forever.
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Normal feelings. It will get better.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You were a fellow Dec mommy with me. I found ouit on April 21 that my baby had no HB. I was 8 weeks.
I'm so sorry..............
((hugs)) I'm so sorry for your loss. Your feelings are valid and COMPLETELY normal. Just cry whenever you feel the urge to cry. Don't keep your feelings in, that won't do you any good. Most of here know how you are feeling so don't forget to lean on us in times of need.
I'm so sorry,
you're feelings are so familiar. They are also quite normal. I felt all those same feelings and sometimes I still break down. It's hard, everyone thiks you should just move on and forget about it. But, your baby is a part of you. You cannot forget and you shouldn't. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks, they've never walked in your shoes.
Allow yourself time to grieve. It also helps a lot to have support. Maybe you can find a local support group,it helped me so much to go to a group of people who understood and didn't say stupid things. You know that we are always here for you. We all understand what you are going through.
__________________ Gina
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"My heart is broken, but not my spirit. My desire to be a Mother is greater than my fear of another miscarriage." Gina M.
I'm so sorry. I can't think of anything worse in the world than losing a child. You are handling the situation normally, with the feelings of a mother. Take as much time as you need to work out your feelings, talk about them as much as you want. It is difficult, and I don't think the pain ever goes away, but life becomes liveable again and hope returns. Allow yourself the time to grieve first.
I'll add one more thing... If you manage to "be strong" and keep your emotions under control you will still go through it later. It is possible to pretend you aren't hurting for a long time, but when you finally face it, it's even harder. We are all strong women and we have survived, not because we didn't cry, but because we did.
I'll add one more thing... If you manage to "be strong" and keep your emotions under control you will still go through it later. It is possible to pretend you aren't hurting for a long time, but when you finally face it, it's even harder. We are all strong women and we have survived, not because we didn't cry, but because we did.
I agree- and I understand your feelings. I have always been the strong one, and when I m/c'd I was lost and the worst part was there was no one to talk about it with.
Your feelings are 100% normal and valid, I am so sorry for your loss. You have to give yourself the time to grieve...
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Jennie. This must be the hardest thing a woman ever has to go through. All your feelings are totally normal.
Lean on the women here for support. We've all been through it, unfortunately, and we can grieve along with you.
Two other websites that helped me a lot are www.silentgrief.com and www.nationalshareoffice.com. They are both specificially dedicated to pregnancy and infant loss and have message boards.
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I have lost 3 babies and now I am blessed with a living child. I love him, but still cry for my lost babies. I will grieve for them until the day I die.
This can't be normal. I'm usually a very strong person
When you lose a child, there is no normal. I want to tell you that when i lost my girls to IC i spent at least 6 weeks on the couch in my pyjamas, staring off into space, crying at every commercial or ranting at every talkshow that mentioned children or baby stuff, i even had a breakdown at walmart in the pharmacy looking at hemmeroid creme...ran bawling through the store...it is an emptiness that pulled at me for months and i so understand what you are going through...as said by all these wonderful cysters you are feeling what you need to feel and there is no right or wrong...its normal and necessary. The key i think is to accept what youre feeling and take it one day at a time, because the wound might heal over eventually, but its always there. It becomes your new normal, i know i will never be the same person i was, but now i feel blessed to have had Aimee and Dana at all...but that took time. Get the kind of support that helps you from wherever you can...SC was my lifeline
i'm coming up to my due date again, and my mind continues to race with the what ifs and the little triggers of 'if only' and why me...it never stops, but it does get more bearable with time. I'm wishing you peace and comfort, as i do for all of us who are missing our angels, especially now
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I am so sorry for your loss. Might I suggest an additional website? www.babygrief.com
It's been almost 3 weeks since I lost my boys and I still cry pretty much everyday. It builds and builds and I have to let it out or i'd explode. Some days I go through all the stages of grief in the same day. Some days I feel guilty because for a while I feel normal again. What you feel is what you feel, don't try to hold it in. On the flip side don't get stuck either. If your grief isn't progressing, call your doctor.
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Not handling this well... 
Jennie. This must be the hardest thing a woman ever has to go through. All your feelings are totally normal.
I want to tell you that when i lost my girls to IC i spent at least 6 weeks on the couch in my pyjamas, staring off into space, crying at every commercial or ranting at every talkshow that mentioned children or baby stuff, i even had a breakdown at walmart in the pharmacy looking at hemmeroid creme...ran bawling through the store...it is an emptiness that pulled at me for months and i so understand what you are going through...as said by all these wonderful cysters you are feeling what you need to feel and there is no right or wrong...its normal and necessary. The key i think is to accept what youre feeling and take it one day at a time, because the wound might heal over eventually, but its always there. It becomes your new normal, i know i will never be the same person i was, but now i feel blessed to have had Aimee and Dana at all...but that took time. 
Get the kind of support that helps you from wherever you can...SC was my lifeline 
