Not many posting

ABetterWay · 06-26-2007, 12:27 PM

Doesn't seem like there are many rainbowed cysters here. I'm 24, bi, and not TTC. I've decided to go the natural route with treatments (acupuncture, herbs, vitamins). Any similar cysters out there want to chat? I'm curious to see how everyone else is dealing with this.

MamaBecs · 07-13-2007, 02:24 AM

Hi there! It has been a long time, but I am back! 28/lesbian/NZ, not ttc and needing to use natural remedies due to budgetary constraints! It's nice to meet you.

Tyler531 · 07-14-2007, 03:03 AM

Just wanted to throw my hat in the wring, and ask what is TTC? I see it mentioned all over the postings but since my partner and i aren't trying for a baby yet, I seem to be out of the loop???

stellarnix · 07-14-2007, 04:33 AM

TTC= trying to conceive.

I haven't posted here before, as I am bi, but no longer involved with women. I have been married for almost 7 years. I imagine that most of the issues are the same, except for having a partner that has all the same parts and can probably understand your symptoms way better.

Not trying to hijack the thread, but I was wondering if the gay/bi community is more accepting of the cysters that have "manly" traits? The straight people can be downright rude about body/facial hair, and lack of distinct curves.

ABetterWay · 07-15-2007, 09:40 AM

MamaBecs, I feel like we're in the same boat. I like the idea that there is a "Rainbowed" section on this site, but it seems like we were only talking about TTC. I'm bi and the last long relationship I was in was with a woman. I feel like when I tell people about PCOS, that my periods are horribly screwey and it'll be really hard for me to have children, they say "yeah, so, it shouldn't matter as much for you." No one as ever said anything remotely close, but it always stays in the back of my head.

I am also going the alternative route. I do acupuncture, herbs, and vitamins. It helped with m last cycle (had my first 28-day cycle!), but hasn't worked for this one so far (I'm on day 31). The combination of treatment has helped in so many other places though...I'm going to stick with it. What about you?

ABetterWay · 07-15-2007, 09:47 AM

Wow, I'm sorry you've gone through such a rough time here, Stallarnix. I can, somewhat, understand that from people on the outside. I hope it's not the people on this site that are being rude to you. I can' t speak for everyone here, but I'm fully accepting and would love to put my two cents in.

I definitely have distinctive, very distinctive curves, but also have a problem with body/facial hair. Lately I've been good at keeping it somewhat "tamed." I hate to admit it, but it's all because of social reasons. I didn't care when I was in college a few years ago (a hippie-ish school in New England), but now, for some reason, it's an area of stress and discomfort. Grrrr.

MamaBecs · 07-16-2007, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by ABetterWay

MamaBecs, I feel like we're in the same boat. I like the idea that there is a "Rainbowed" section on this site, but it seems like we were only talking about TTC. I'm bi and the last long relationship I was in was with a woman. I feel like when I tell people about PCOS, that my periods are horribly screwey and it'll be really hard for me to have children, they say "yeah, so, it shouldn't matter as much for you." No one as ever said anything remotely close, but it always stays in the back of my head.

I am also going the alternative route. I do acupuncture, herbs, and vitamins. It helped with m last cycle (had my first 28-day cycle!), but hasn't worked for this one so far (I'm on day 31). The combination of treatment has helped in so many other places though...I'm going to stick with it. What about you?

ABW, I think it is sad that people think PCOS is all about having children too. My symptoms made me hideously overweight at one stage and that held me up from getting the career I wanted. It wasn't until I lost the weight that people would hire me. Therefore, PCOS is of huge concern to any woman, no matter what her goal.

I mean, it can even stop you from having partners. Even now I'm thin, women like me as a friend but don't know why they can't find me sexually desirable. Three in a row have seen me naked and backed off, but honestly, I am not hairy and not fat any more! I just put it down to my thick waist and Darwinian selection. It's a very painful situation, but it can't be helped, and there doesn't seem to be any other logical reason why I would be rejected so often.

To answer someone else's question here, I think the community can generally be more accepting of you if you have a more masculine appearance, but there are no guarantees as to how that will go for the individual. I am quite obviously a 'femme' and have gained more acceptance for being thinner.

In terms of the treatments I am trying, I am an auric/magnetic healer, and so I go to see another energy worker regularly. I also eat a good amount of cinnamon in my food each day and take dong quai as I need it. Since the weight loss, I have had regular 35-or-so day cycles without needing to do too much.

stellarnix · 07-16-2007, 03:22 PM

Haven't had any problems here on the boards, just out in the world. I actually had someone tell me that I am shaped like a chubby boy! How rude! And I had someone ask me if I was a "closet lesbian" because of a short hair cut and too much time between waxes. I had to laugh, as I have never denied liking girls, just not right now.

And now that I am done having children, I feel out of touch with a lot of women here that are primarily focused on getting a BFP.

miss-jelly · 07-20-2007, 06:25 PM

Hey all...Haven't posted here before so I thought I'd drop by! Am 17/gay/UK and not yet taking anything (natural or not =]) and am *definately* not TTC hehe - which kinda seems to stick a giant gap between relating with alot of people here (they're ALL TTC!) I'm more going for the normal life bit lol so it would be great if there were some people on the same track =]

See ya around!

dramatic irony · 07-20-2007, 08:00 PM

haha miss-jelly...we seem to run in to each other everywhere on here

Im really excited that there is a place for the GLBTQ community here at soulcysters. Sometimes a queer identity can make things that much more difficult. I choose to identify as queer. I date people, not gender, which makes many people want to classify as bisexual (but I feel uncomfortable with that term). I am currently in a relationship with a man, which has caused some strain with a few of my female friends. I want to turn to them for support with my PCOS, as usually they are very supportive. However, my ability to access heterosexual priviledge right now (due to my heteronormative relationship) has caused a rift.
Has anyone else here experienced something like this?

miss-jelly · 07-20-2007, 09:45 PM

Haha so I'd noticed! Hope you're not following me

And yay, *someone* other than me who get's the people not the gender blah! It's not really THAT hard to get is it? Im not bi so nerr....but it causes problems between me and gay/lesbian friends when its been a hetro r'ship, and between me and straight friends when its been a gay r'ship....you can't win! Luckily (or unluckily -however you see it) I don't have friends I would ever talk to about stuff like my PCOS so it's not a problem lol..

*smiles*

stellarnix · 07-21-2007, 12:43 AM

Guess I have been lucky in that my lesbian girlfriends dont care that I am in a hetero marriage. And it has never changed our ability to talk about PCOS. My one friend had a hysterectomy at a very young age, but retained ovaries, so she relates well to a lot of my frustrations. And she is the ONLY friend I have that doesn't judge my choice to not have any more children. Seems like a lot of women here think that because you CAN, you SHOULD, before your body decides you no longer can.

I agree that love/dating is about a person, not a part, but I accept the "bisexual" label as an easy out. Less explaining to do.

vickis_mami · 08-01-2007, 07:22 PM

Im 32/lesbian/Canada and I will tell ya, in MHO, most the women in the community are "ok" with the manliness of it all here on the Wet coast, however.....that is only if you are a butch/boi/queer. I am most definately a femme and I have had people GASP at my chin hair! My wife (yay Canada) doesn't mind the hair, though we suspect she too has PCOS with the weight/hair loss/WAYYYYY irregular mentruation but she doesn't mind my EXTRA hair, however, recently I noticed my head hair is thinning in the front! I am a black woman (oh yea, there are pictures on here lol) and whereas being bald for a man or really masc. girl is ok, I like bein a girly girl and I think it bothers me more than anyone else I have ever met (not that I take a poll, but I know it bugs me a lot).

Oooh yea, I noticed as well that there is a lot of TTC here and as I have 2 children already, I so don't care about that part, mind you, when I gained 100 lbs 7 yrs ago and was diagnosed that was my killer...mine wife doesn't want anymore children as she is at an advanced age (older than me a lot).

I have to admit it is cool finding out there is a LGBT forumm on here too! I was diagnosed after having a physical and the Dr. asked me when my last menses was and I said 2 yrs before...he was shocked, so I explained what other doctors told me, it was because I was so heavy, simple as that, now on the other hand I find out that I am so heavy because of this and I dropped 80 lbs (and kept it off for years now) but am still very heavy though my periods are VERY regular now, like clockwork.

**Rachael** · 08-19-2007, 05:28 PM

i'm bi, 16, and not ttc.
my gyn hasn't started me on a plan yet. she was hoping that the provera would work, but it didn't. so i'm probably going to be put on a bcp.

meeko77 · 08-30-2007, 10:22 AM

I am 29/lesbian/USA. I just don't post here much because I don't visit here everyday, and am not TTC at the moment, and fortunately, am blessed not to have near as many problems with my PCOS as I see most women on here talking about, so I don't feel "worthy" of posting, I guess you could say. (Dang that was one long run on sentence). Plus, I feel lost here most of the time anyway, a lot of these newer treatments go way over my head (and I am a nurse) heehee