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Isaiahsmommy · 08-30-2007, 01:04 PM

Hello.. I'm Bi/25 and engaged to a man.

I'm not TTC.. I have a three month old daughter and a seven year old son. I was really excited to see this forum! There is a thread in another forum that talks about sex but the people there seem to be VERY traditional in their views on sex and relationships.. Not really the place for me. But having a forum with people who understand not only PCOS but our individual preferences is GREAT!

newfiecyster · 08-30-2007, 07:05 PM

I think i beloong in here as well. I am 31 and i am pretty sure i am Lesbian. Glad to see i am not alone. I think i always knew but never admitted it but now i am and i am much happier.

lahdeedah · 09-24-2007, 07:44 PM

Dramatic Irony,

I had to laugh when I read you post because that is me. Well minus the current boyfriend.

Anyway, I am so glad to find this part of the site. I am not TTC and am not sure that I will be. I have a particular passion for foster care-however it is hard looking through all these posts and not really feeling like I had a place because I'm not TTC.

Oh-24/DMM (Depends on my Mood) :-) or PNG (people not genitalia). LoL.

ABetterWay · 09-25-2007, 11:47 AM

First off, I'm so glad lots of people are continuing this thread. It's great finding people in your same situation, right?

Ok, here's my issue...I'm bi and have not been in any serious relationships in over a year. I was diagnosed with PCOS about 6 months ago, so this is all still a little new. I have recently started dating again. When do you think is a good time to bring up PCOS? From my experience, it's easier to talk about with women; men just don't seem to get it. With women, they understand that PCOS causes a HUGE range of problems that effect so many parts of our lives. Some of the men I've dated only see it as me not being able to have kids. Needless to say, those relationships don't last for too long. For those of you who are dating, when and how do you bring up this issue?

Hope everyone is doing well!

dramatic irony · 09-25-2007, 12:16 PM

lahdeedah

Its nice to know that other people can relate to these things. I fully understand what you are saying about TTC. I do not want children, I never have. Sometimes, when I find people in my area to talk about PCOS with, it ends up not beinghelpful because they are all TTC, or just worried about whether they will be able to get pregnant later and what not.

I fully respect women who are TTC, I can imagine that it is extrememly frusterating, however sometimes its hard to feel part of the community when having children is not something on your plate.

utgrrl82 · 10-03-2007, 05:37 AM

Hi gals. Its nice to find people who wont judge me. For the gals that dont know me I have Endo. Possibe PCOS. I have been told yes and no so looking for another doc out here who can give me straight answers. Anyhow, I have been trying to conceive since 2001. Late 2001 I had a miscarrage and since then I have not been able to get pregnant. I had a friend who was my sperm donor until about a year ago. I am a bi woman. Right now I am with a man and we are not trying to get pregnant but we are not preventing. I am testing in a few days is AF does come to be on the safe side as my ovulation is the opposite of what it normally is. I'm sure I am not pregnant.

In the past when I was trying to get pregnant I planned on doing everything on my own. I work at a job where I make enough money to where I can support a child on my own.

So I have a question for you gals. This comes in my mind so much and I know how it sounds. I want a child so bad. Everyone always tells me that it will happen and to not push it. I love the guy I'm with but his chances of having kids are small and I dont think it wil happen. Plus he is not ready for marriage or anything serious. We have talked about the future a little and both agree that we are not yet ready to be serious but he has said he would love have a baby and then sometime he says no but I really want to have a child. Granted since it didnt happen in the past I know it would take work but here is the thing. Me and him are not serious at the moment. I have thought so many times about getting another sperm donor and trying to get pregnant again but of course that would be the end of me and him. I wouldnt get pregnant and lie to him and say its his as some people have mentioned to me because that would kill him as would me if someone did that to me. And thats just downright wrong. So I am torn. He would be an awesome dad and take care of me and a child 100% but he doesnt want to actually "try", rather if it happens by mistake he would be happy. I dont really get that but that is how it seems to be. Aahh!! Its driving me nuts and I cannot get it out of my head. Can anyone help in any way with advice or anything?? Its really weighing on me.

Betwixt · 10-04-2007, 08:18 AM

Hasn't been a post in awhile, but thought I'd throw my 2 cents in.

I am/was(?) bi, I'm married to a man. I almost left him for a woman a year ago, if just for a chance. (I don't think he knows how close it got- I actually came out to my mom type close.) The woman I would have left him for really likes athletic bodied or thin women- of which I'd never be because of the PCOS. I think because of this I never really explored all the things I wanted to.

utgrrl82 · 10-04-2007, 05:56 PM

There was a woman I dated and awhile back and at the time there was a guy who I went out with once or twice but he new that I like women more. I dont think he beleived me though because I took her out to dinner a few times and she got more of my attention than him. The guy I am with now knows and beleives me, but also beleives that since I am with other women, he should be able to join. Haha. Maybe but he is with other girls and he would never invite me into his fling with other girls so why should I invite him into mine?

angieluvsrhinos · 10-04-2007, 08:21 PM

I am just becoming more active in the forums..... I am no longer TTC. as a matter of fact had laproscopic surgery yesterday to find out that I prob need a hysterectomy with removal of at least one ovary.
Anyhow, I am bi. I have had a hard time finding either sex to be attracted to me, or at least that is how I feel. I have the PCOS belly, extra hair, balding, bad periods, you name it. Most doctors I see say I am the poster child for PCOS! I just wander how you all get along and find the people that will see you for you and look beyound the crappy exterior.

utgrrl82 · 10-04-2007, 11:17 PM

Well I was lucky in that department. The guy I am dating knows all about it. His father owns a business building medical equipment for hospitals and places like that so while not a doctor, he is more aware of health issues. He likes me for my personality and I the same. I now what you mean though!! One thing that I have noticed... I used to be really quiet and when I would see a cute guy they wouldnt look at me or if they did they wouldnt say anything. Well with my guy I ran into him like twice and decided the worst he can say is no. So I asked him if he wanted to hang out sometime and to my suprise he said yes and gave me his phone number and asked for mine. Since then (almsot a year) we have been hanging out and dating. He has a lot of money, mustang, into really nice things and I am not. I am fine with the basics and I can were sweat pants and be fine so I never thought a guy like him would ever even look in my direction. But he likes me for me even though he can be an *** sometimes but you will find the right one. I just started approaching people and although some turn me down some said yes

angieluvsrhinos · 10-04-2007, 11:35 PM

Well i have found a great guy.... he is the father of all my angel babies, but it seems the rest of the world looks at me funny. Even children look at me wierd. He tells me that I am gorgeous and that the kids just like to see pretty peopple, but i know thats not true.... man i hate this thing!!! It is heart breaking when a child looks at you then takes off running to his or her mommy side. i dont know maybe i just exude the fact that i wanted kids so bad and couldnt, and maybe that is what they see.

Betwixt · 10-05-2007, 12:02 AM

I was actually on a website called OKCupid for awhile, which is how I met the women I went on dates with. (All 2 of them...) So I've not been wildly successful when I've been more available.

I'm not TTC, in fact I am decidely against for myself, but it still stings to think of the miscarriage.

lighthouse · 10-19-2007, 05:36 PM

hey,
31 lez from uk. don't talk to anyone bout my pcos. find it embarrassin. 'cept my ex had excess hair too so it was ok. not doin much about it right now but that's cos im short sighted so don't have to face my true face most of the time - just see a blur. like it better that way.
xxx

PcosGirl20 · 10-28-2007, 02:03 AM

Guess Ill jump on board...

Yet still on the fence, I to am going all natural. Keeping active and an ok diet does the trick.

Feel free to chat with me anytime.

lighthouse · 11-01-2007, 08:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PcosGirl20

Guess Ill jump on board...

Yet still on the fence, I to am going all natural. Keeping active and an ok diet does the trick.

Feel free to chat with me anytime.

still on the fence ? you mean as to whether you like girls r guys?

or about pcos?