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05-29-2008, 08:56 PM
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Points: 550.22 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 550.22 | Not sure how to ask this but... I have a question that I was hoping to get some feedback on.
But before I ask anything, I just want to say that I have been reading many of the posts on this section of Soul Cysters and I want to say that my thoughts and prayers are with each of you who are coping with a miscarriage or the loss of a child.
To give you some background information, my name is Kerry. My DH and I have been trying to conceive for going on 9 years now but haven't gotten pregnant yet. I have not experienced a pregnancy loss myself but know people who have.... which brings me to my question, which I hope doesn't offend anyone.
When I read your posts or talk to moms who have lost a child or had a pregnancy end, one thing that I hear a lot of is the sense that they want their "angel baby" remembered.
I make jewelry and this concept inspired me to design a memorial bracelet, although I have not had the occassion to actually need to make one yet. I am in the process of starting a jewelry making business. My husband feels that I should offer these memorial bracelets when I do start my business but I feel funny selling something like this.
On one hand, if it was something that was comforting to parents and family, that is a good thing but on the other hand, I don't want to feel like I am profiting on a tragedy.
What do you think?
I would appreciate your thoughts on this. Thank you and God bless you all. |
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05-29-2008, 10:25 PM
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My Mood: Points: 9,003.26 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 9,003.26 | No you are not making a profit from tragedies.. it's nice to remember things, events, people from a small token like jewelry... look at people who take photos of dying children or pregnant women who know that they will lose their baby... memories mean a lot to people and to provide a service to the broken hearted is not a bad thing...
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05-29-2008, 10:29 PM
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| | Grow little one...
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My Mood: Points: 9,766.88 Bank: 182,617.46 Total Points: 192,384.34 | Personally, I think that there isn't enough done to honor and remember babies who are lost in pregnancies. There is still a lot of stigma or ignorance about it, and it seems like many women grieve in silence.
I think that as long as it is tasteful and appropriate, and presented in a way that isn't just a money-making scheme, then it would be a great idea. |
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05-29-2008, 11:46 PM
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| | Rambling Cyster!
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My Mood: Points: 8,600.22 Bank: 2,507,406.12 Total Points: 2,516,006.33 | I actually spent $500 on a ring that has Eric's birthstone. I also have a necklace and earrings with his birthstone, and a couple bracelets that were made for me, plus a charm bracelet. I would definitely buy something else if it made me think of Eric. I always like wearing something that reminds me of him.
I don't look at it as profiting from someone's tragedy. I like seeing people talk about our angel babies. Its nice having someone acknowledge them. I agree with Justagirlgirlgirl, I don't think people do enough to remember our little ones. I think its a great idea. Good luck if you decide to do it! |
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05-30-2008, 12:25 AM
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My Mood: Points: 22,337.29 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 22,337.29 | Yes, I agree. I have an engraved necklace with the name of my baby who lives in heaven. It is one of my most precious possessions and I have worn it almost every day for a year.
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05-30-2008, 01:13 AM
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Points: 86,405.22 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 86,405.22 | Definitely go for it!  There are other products available elsewhere... I just wish there wasn't a call for it, sigh.
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05-30-2008, 02:41 PM
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Points: 12,759.82 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 12,759.82 | I actually think that there isn't enough jewelry, or anything memorial wise, out there for angel babies... I have a hard time finding any online.
I think it's a wonderful thing for you to do. And it's not profiteering, it's rising to meet a need (though I too wish there wasn't a need)
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05-30-2008, 07:06 PM
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My Mood: Points: 2,523.19 Bank: 33,418.66 Total Points: 35,941.84 | I think it's comforting to have something to memorialize our little ones. Personally, having a ring with my angel's birthstone gives me comfort on my bad days and reminds me that miracles can happen.
Best wishes to you, both professionally and with TTC.
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06-01-2008, 12:23 AM
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| | Caribbean Cysters
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My Mood: Points: 13,613.90 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 13,613.90 | I think it would be great to have an item to memoralize. However, I would say this may not be the right forum to earn your living and make a huge profit.
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06-01-2008, 05:36 PM
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| | Jitterbug
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My Mood: Points: 31,388.84 Bank: 131,038.22 Total Points: 162,427.06 | I think it's a wonderful idea. When I mc'ed at 6 weeks, I had no idea how to memorialize that baby. A small bracelet or necklace would've been nice because I would have that memory close to me.
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06-02-2008, 04:43 PM
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Points: 550.22 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 550.22 | Quote:
Originally Posted by SandV However, I would say this may not be the right forum to earn your living and make a huge profit. | It wouldn't be all of my business. God willing, it wouldn't even be a big part of my business. I have all sorts of designs and plans. I just wasn't sure whether or not I should include it at all...
Personally, I would be happy to never have occassion to make one but having had the idea, I was wondering if it was something that I should put out there for people.
I still haven't made up my mind. If I do end up offering this design, I will probably have part of the proceeds go towards some related charity with a hope that we could reduce or eliminate the need for them. |
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06-02-2008, 04:56 PM
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My Mood: Points: 13,613.90 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 13,613.90 | That would be a great idea - for some of the proceeds to go to charity. Like I stated earlier, I would like to have a way to memoralize my recent loss. It would make all the difference if some of the $$ went to help someone else.
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