I am new to this section of soulcysters--I usually make use of the ttc board or the pregnancy board, but I am starting to wonder if I belong here. I am 7 weeks pregnant now, and I am going through one of the low points in my life. I am so excited about being pregnant again, but I am in graduate school with ton of young, very attractive, witty, smart people right now, and I feel like an alien amongst them. This happened to me when I was in college, too.
I feel like the most boring, flavorless person around all of this vitality, and even my sister (who has always been my best friend) has been accusing me of being a hormonal witch recently. I just feel so down about myself that I dread being around anyone other than DH. I feel inferior to nearly everyone in terms of my ability to interact in social situations. I guess these feelings could be more social anxiety than depression, or maybe it's a bit of both. So, recently I have been realizing that these are issues that are never going to resolve themselves, and I need some help. Since I am pregnant, I won't be able to take any drugs, so I feel like therapy is my only option. But, the thought of just talking to someone and that magically making my problems go away seems so unrealistic that I am terrified to even try getting any help. I worry that any therapist will tell me that my problems are too severe, and that drugs are my only option.
Does anyone have any experience with treating depression and anxiety without drugs? Is this even possible? Sorry to ramble...
TIA,
Aud
__________________ Aud, 29, DH, 29
DS, Noah, born 8-5-03
DD, Anya, born 5-19-05
Now pregnant with #3 thanks to Gonal-F and Crinone!
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Congrats on your pregnancy!! Send some of that baby dust my way!!!
Back to the topic, I have had therapy with and without meds. Both have been useful. There is no med that can cure you of depression anyway. Well, that is my thinking on the matter anyway. They are just there to keep you calm while you get better. Anyhoo, talking to a therapist really helped me. No, you can't just tell them and all of your problems just magically go away. But, getting a fresh , and unbiased opinion on your situation will help you. Just venting my problems and someone there to care that I'm in pain helped me alot!! Even if I'm paying them to care. LOL! I hope this helped, even if just to encourage you.
HUGS
T
__________________ Tanya, 25
Married 11/15/1997 to Steve (33)
PCOS 5yrs.
TTC #1 5 1/2yrs.
currently taking 1500mgs. Glucophage
Furbabies, Jack (yorkie), and Prince Alfred (persian cat)
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I am on meds, but even so, one of the things that made the most difference is a book I read called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle.
It changed my outlook on life, and I've had a huge turn around. It really got me to see my life with a new perspective. This might not be *the* book for you....but have a look and see what you think.
For me, I needed to stop trying to make my life fit a preconcieved notion that I had of what my life should be. I needed to just go with the flow. Accept things for what they are, and welcome the unknown.
I also found that writing really helps me sort through my frustrations, or thoughts. Once I realized the root of my problems, I could start to work through them.
__________________ -diagnosed October 2002
-Meds: Alesse, metformin, Cytomel, Wellbutrin
-light therapy with a goLITE for seasonal depression
-yoga & meditation almost daily, because it makes me feel good
Aud, sometimes all one needs is a person to listen and understand. A therapist can bring things into a different context and help you see things from another perspective. I would give it a shot and see what happens.
Hi,
I have a 20 month old son Noah. I developed terrible anxiety/depression during my pregnancy and resisted medication but eventually went back on it. I went to therapy too but the anti-anxiety medication really helped. Now, my anxiety is coming back as Noah gets closer to 2 and I am going to start therapy again. I figure I should just accept that I will need it, and possibly medication, for my whole life. I'm really afraid it is affecting my ability as a mother and I just want to do what is best for my family.
If I were you, I would talk to your doctor and see about therapy. There are medications that are possible to take during pregnancy, if necessary.
I wish you all the best and keep us updated on how you are doing. We care.
not sure what to do.... 
Mom of a Noah 
