November 2009 Due Date Losses

harleymaggiemae · 04-10-2009, 01:40 PM

Hi ladies,

I know a few of us were on the November mommies board together before we suffered our losses. I thought this might be a way to help us cope together. I hope you will join me.

R0xyg4l · 04-10-2009, 06:19 PM

I have an October 08 loss and March 09 loss and just wanted to stop in and give my apologies and condolences for your losses. If anyone needs to talk I would be honored to lend a shoulder.

ready2conceive · 04-13-2009, 10:38 AM

I'm here. I was busy reading the past few days to keep my mind off what happened. I am now a Twilight Junkie even thought I vowed I wouldn't be. It keeps me busy.

How are you girls doing?

harleymaggiemae · 04-13-2009, 12:36 PM

Hey Amanda:

I'm doing okay so far -- I had a slight breakdown on Saturday night, but other than that I'm holding it together and back at work today. I scheduled my follow-up with my doc for 2 weeks from today. And, today I start bcp for a month. I've already stopped bleeding. Either I have a great doc, or my body is recovering nicely. So, I'm glad I get to start the bcp today.

Fingers crossed in a month from now we'll both get our bfp!

How are things with you?

ready2conceive · 04-13-2009, 08:50 PM

Wow, that is awesome you quit bleeding already! I am still spotting! I started bleeding the day before my d&c and that is kind of what tipped me off I was having a m/c. It was heavy. That was April 1st. I am still spotting.

Other than that things are going ok. I faced the in laws over the weekend and picked up the twilight series to keep myself occupied. And bought a treadmill. LOL
I need to keep busy.

Other than that my hcg went from 62,000 to 874 in 10 days. It was 874 last Thursday so I am curious to find out this Thursday what it will be. Once it is at 3 I am ttc again. I am ready.

harleymaggiemae · 04-14-2009, 12:17 AM

Well, I may have spoke too soon about the bleeding. I had some spotting when I went to the restroom this evening, but nothing since, so maybe it was a one time thing. I started the pill tonight because I thought I was done bleeding. oh well, this will guarantee af in less than 28 days and back to ttc.

I'm glad to see you are ready to ttc again. I think it might be a nice distraction for both of us! I have no idea what my hcg was/is. Like I said in a previous post I didn't get an hcg at all except to make sure it doubled early in the pregnancy.

I'll be curious to see what my RE says when I go in 2 weeks. But for now I'm taking a much needed mental break from ttc -- maybe dh and I can even dtd between now and then! He's certainly earned it.

My MIL sent me a 'thinking of you' card today which I thought was really sweet. I'm crazy about keeping these things private (not sure why) and I know she wants to be there for me. Maybe I should open up. I was adamant about keeping quiet both pregnancies bc i didn't want to jinx things, but now I think "what the hell" -- maybe we'll tell them early next time.

blueridge · 04-14-2009, 07:20 PM

Hi, can I join in? I was six weeks pregnant (though I should have been almost 8 weeks according to my dates) and miscarried over the weekend. We never did see the heartbeat, but according to the ultrasound last Wednesday the baby was still growing. It was awful...we had just told my kids (ages 5 and 4) the big news a few days earlier because things were looking okay with the pregnancy. And we were travelling over the Easter holiday when it happened. This was my first miscarriage. Went to the dr. on Monday and from the ultrasound it looks like the bulk of it passed this weekend. I'm still having some bleeding, but the cramping has gotten so much better. The ultrasound on Monday gave me some closure but I feel really empty inside. We are having this cold dreary weather today...and it matches my mood completely.
I go back and forth between wanting to talk about it and wanting to keep it private. Our families know and I let my closest friends know what was going on through e-mail, but don't really want to talk about it too much in person.
Amanda, I read the Twilight series...it's a good escape! I need to find another mindless book or something. Today I was using chocolate, and that's not a good way to cope! We already have a treadmill... maybe I'll buy a Wii/Wii Fit.

harleymaggiemae · 04-14-2009, 07:30 PM

Blueridge -
I think I remember you from the other thread I started about no hb during 6 weeks. I'm so sorry to see you on here -- I had really hoped you got better news. I never saw the hb either. In some ways I think it makes it easier -- I don't know how I could cope if I did see it and then something happened.

We're all here for you if you need to talk. It's nice to be able to say what is on your mind and no one judges you. I truly believe this forum has helped me cope this time around. And, if not, chocolate always works too!

I have a Wii Fit and I love it! Not that I've used it since we moved 6 weeks ago, but I think I'll dig it out.

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

blueridge · 04-15-2009, 10:34 AM

harleymaggiemae--I agree that it made it a little bit easier that we never saw the heartbeat. I was not feeling good about this pregnancy from the beginning. Something felt different about it, so I think I was preparing myself the whole time. My first ultrasound measured over a week behind what I thought I was (although I was sure of the dates). My second one, it actually seemed like things were going okay...the baby had grown a full week and had the beginning of a fetal pole (but was still behind according to my dates). Then two days later the bleeding started. The ultrasound this Monday showed I had passed most of the baby over the weekend, but I am still bleeding pretty constantly and the cramps come and go. Last night I was really crampy and uncomfortable, and then passed something else out. How long does this go on?! It has gotten better, but I didn't know I'd still be bleeding clots and crampy. I don't think I can even start to think about moving on until the bleeding stops because I am reminded of it every time I go to the bathroom.
By the way, we told my family super early this time and I have mixed feelings about it. I feel bad that they had to go through the hurt/pain with me, but at the same time I feel like I had so much support/help/love through the whole thing. They've been pretty understanding that sometimes I feel like talking about it and sometimes I just really do not.
Do you have any of those new Wii Fit games? I think Bob Greene has one out and so does Jillian from the Biggest Loser? Do you really get a workout using it? I haven't exercised in over a week. I'm thinking maybe by Sunday I'll feel up to doing something. Right now I just feel so yucky...and not eating right and not exercising is not helping anything.

ready2conceive · 04-15-2009, 11:01 AM

I have a wii fit too...got it last June and used it like crazy and then stopped when I got pregnant last July and never really got back into it. So after my ectopic last July my new fitness craze was DDR (dance dance revolution) I played that for 2 hours a day just because I got addicted...then I got pregnant again and stopped.

I never lost any weight with either but I never used them enough. I was 152 when dh and I got together 2.5 years ago. I was 135 a year before that. Then I got up to 165...169 and now after 7.2 weeks of pregnancy my weight got up to 175. I am on a mission now. This next month is my time to focus on me and losing weight before ttc again. I am hoping the treadmill will help to see a difference. I am dedicated and did it two days in a row. I was only up to 1.5 miles at 3.0 and I tried running for 2 minutes yesterday at 4.5 and OMG I thought I would die. I am so out of shape!

I am jumping right back on the train to ttc but I found out I have one test my dr wants to do first. So I just have a feeling we will be back in the game late May or early June. But we will dtd in between like rabbits! I can't tell you the last time we just made love without being scared of being pregnant during the 2ww...or ttc...or being pregnant and told no dtd. Tomorrow is 2 weeks since d&c and I am free to dtd and can't wait! I got the whole evening planned out!

Blue ridge~ I hate to even welcome you to this thread. I am so sorry for your loss. I know how awful that has to be to explain to your kids. My neice and nephew knew (7&4) and were so happy. They had to be let down again because there mom had m/c last year at 8 weeks. It is hard when it comes to kids. I am so sorry.
Did your dr. suggest a d&c? That is what I just had. My baby was still in there and they really pushed me for the d&c so they could test the fetus but also so it would end sooner than passing on your own. I started bleeding the day before I found out we lost the baby and it was heavy, and I was passing clots. I thought for sure I passed the baby but unfortunately I didn't. It was so hard to find that out and get my surgery the same day but ultimately it was the right decision.
I told close friends and family too. It is hard not to share the news when you find out. It is so exciting. And given the fact you had 2 healthy pregnancy's before I can see why you would tell everyone. I love the support I have gotten as well from all who knew and of course my online buddies

harleymaggiemae · 04-15-2009, 12:09 PM

Blueridge-
I'm not sure how effective the Wii Fit is. I was pretty active before I got pg in another program called CrossFit. I would do Wii Fit one or two nights a week, just to get some form of exercise in -- I actually really started liking the yoga. And I'm a HULA HOOP lover! That one is a workout and will get your heart rate up. But I haven't tried any of the other ones.

I walked yesterday and I'm a bit sore today. I normally walk about 3 miles and yesterday I walked with a friend and we did about 5. I think I overdid it just a tad. I started bleeding yesterday pretty heavy and after the walk I was cramping so badly. Today's bleeding isn't so bad, so hopefully I'm on the downside.

I hope your bleeding stops soon. With my first m/c it all happened in a day. I woke up bleeding and about 8pm that night I passed everything. I only had light spotting for another day or two, so I think i was really lucky then.

Amanda, I'm so proud of you for getting your spirits up! And I think the treadmill is a great idea. I personally prefer to walk outside, but I do use ours sometimes and I can watch tv or whatever. And, if you're trying to lose weight, I strongly encourage South Beach. When I went to my RE in December, I was getting overweight as well. I am 5'4" and peaked about 175. He kept saying how good South Beach is, especially for people with PCOS and insulin resistance. So, right before New Year's I started it. The first few days were awful and I had a terrible headache coming off of the sugar I was addicted to. But after that I felt much better. I lost about 20 pounds and gained 5 back when i got pg. But it really makes a huge difference. It just started falling off -- I lost 12 lbs the first 2 weeks (the strictest part of the diet) and plateaued for almost a month, then the rest just fell off with diet and exercise.

So, i started back on it this week. I went back to Phase 1 to kickstart my body again. I truly feel it aided in my success last time, so it can't hurt. I'd love to lose another 15-20lbs.

Enough rambling for me. Hope you all have a good day.

blueridge · 04-15-2009, 05:14 PM

I've always been pretty active, too. (usually jogging/walking on the t/m and/or doing tae-bo). And I was loosely following South Beach. I'm thinking of going back on it. I'm only about 10-15 pounds overweight, but definitely a carb addict. I want to be as healthy as possible if/when we decide to ttc again. Plus I just want to feel good again. I feel so yucky right now. So, I think I would love DDR on Wii...that's got to be a good workout, right?

My dr. did not suggest a d&c. From the u/s, it looks like I passed the majority of everything. There wasn't a sac left or anything. So I guess I'm still shedding the lining? It's gotten a lot better, but still bleeding and cramping on and off. Nothing like it was over the weekend.
My 5 year old was the one that was upset. My little one (she's 4), just went back to eating her applesauce. I think she knew it was a sad thing, but just didn't really grasp it. My oldest was sobbing, "I want a baby" over and over. She seems okay now, the thing that helped her the most was telling her that we have a baby angel now.

Right now the hardest thing is realizing that life still goes on...I still have stuff to do for work, laundry piling up, places to take the kids, meals to feed them, etc. etc. when all I really feel like doing is crawling into bed with the covers over my head. DH has been amazing (and I know it's hard for him, too), but he's at work all day. Today's easier than yesterday, so I'm hoping tomorrow's easier than today.

Hope you all are having a good afternoon.

ready2conceive · 04-15-2009, 09:10 PM

I think I may have to try the South Beach Diet thing. I have never truly committed myself to a diet. It is hard because my dh won't eat that stuff so I would have to cook him dinner everyday and watch him eating the good stuff while I ate whatever the diet says. It may be a good idea.

Wow, 5 miles!! That is my goal. I walked 2 today and was pooped. I am so out of shape. I am 5"5 and 175lbs. I am weighing in each Monday and hoping with just walking everyday and building up to a jog or run will help shed the lbs. 3 miles is my goal.

I prefer to walk outside too but have no one to walk with. It is a nice neighborhood, but I am scared of everything so I hate to walk alone. And we live very, very close to Drew Peterson LOL. I don't want to bump into him!! LOL J/K

harleymaggiemae · 04-15-2009, 11:03 PM

Amanda

I can't say enough how glad I am you seem in better spirits! We will kick this thing together and we will be on a new mommies board before you know it.

I would definitely encourage you on SB diet. I've tried all kinds of diets as well and what I love about this one is you are only limited in what you can eat, not how much. I love to "feel full" so I ate tons of veggies. And my dh is a very picky eater (no veggies) but he actually didn't mind what I made. You can still eat lean meat and veggies. The hardest part is the first two weeks, then you can incorporate whole grain carbs and fruit back into your diet. It's really not that bad.

Anyway, enough about diet stuff. I am just so excited you are in better spirits! I am moving through this difficult time and looking forward to trying again. I admit I will be skeptical when I conceive again but just hope for the best!

harleymaggiemae · 04-15-2009, 11:04 PM

Amanda

I think you might be safe from Drew -- I hear he has another girlfriend. And you're nearing 30, you might be too old for him -- he likes them young!