I'm not sure if I need to post this information here. It's not a rant, or maybe it is. I'm just at a loss of words today. I feel so numb and not sure how to handle the news that I was presented today.
One friend, coworker, who is 29 years old came to me today and informed me that her pap she had done several weeks back came back adnormal. I'm like ok, that's alright, we can handle that. She said no, this is my third pap this year that has come back abnormal and she's wanting to NOT make an appt to see a OB/GYN for the other tests that need to be performed. She keeps repeating herself that she's on blood thinners and there's not much they can do for her if she has to have an ablation or other procedures as she'll bleed too much. I'm like, you can stop the blood thinners prior to the procedure just like anyone else that has major surgery and then start them right back up. I'm no doctor, but we do work in a physicians office and I know for a fact that it can be done. She is basically in denial and wants to put it off and I'm like HELL NO, you make that appt ASAP. I just don't know how to make her realise and understand that it isn't something to ponder over.
Next thing that I'm sitting here crying over.... another co-worker (different facility) stated yesterday that she couldn't feel her baby moving. We immediately informed her to call her doctor. She said that she had an appt first thing this morning. Come to find out, her baby didn't make it. Her due date was tomorrow. I don't know what to say to her if anything. I can't imagine what she's going thru and I pray so hard for her and her family.
I'm so numb and I just don't think I can take any more heartache. I feel for both of these women on different levels and I can't get my brain wrapped around the right words to say much less voice them correctly.
I just ask for your prayers for both of these special women today.
Thanks for reading.
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I wish I had some advice besides to just be there for them.
As far as abnormal paps I had them for years. They knew I was TTC so they just did colpsocopies and biopsys to make sure nothing changed. It would go back and forth from ascus to low grade and then finally it just went away and so far I have been having normal regular paps. I still am very vigilent about them but the great thing about an abnormal pap is they can really watch you and as long as you catch it early and keep up with it normally everything will be just fine. I hope your friend will go in for the treatment and follow up she needs.
I dont know how someone can go through that with her due date being so close. I truly cant understand how people can get through it, but obviously a lot of things happen and people do get through it. I wish I had better advice. That is so tragic and hurts my heart.
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The girl with the bad pap.... she's made an appt for consultation next Thursday with her OB/GYN. She's asked me to go with her as I'm off that day and be by her side to understand everything.
The lady that lost her baby.... she was diagnosed as having placenta abruptio. Her family has surrounded her as they all came in for the birth and will be having a funeral. Her baby girl was perfect in every way. Fully developed and weighed in at 6 lbs 8 oz.
Please continue to pray for each of these ladies.
Hug your children, husband, and or other family member tightly and mean it like nothing else in this world!
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Angela - I'll be praying for both of your friends.
I'm not in the exact same position as your friend who lost her baby when it was so close to being due, but I did lose my son Christopher at 22 weeks on July 4th.
The best advice I can give - based on what I'm going through now - is to just be there. If she starts crying, don't turn the other way. Let her cry, and let her know it's okay for her to cry near you.
Don't be afraid to bring the baby up, unless she makes it seem like she doesn't want anyone talking about the baby. Yes, she's liable to cry about the loss, and it will hurt to talk about the baby. The thing is, at least for me, I worry that hubby and I will be the only two people on the planet that remember our son. People won't talk about him or mention him. I want to know that he meant something to someone other than a slight bulge in my stomach.
Pray for her, and despite the circumstance keep reminding her that God has His reasons, even if we never know what they are. Remind her that one day she will meet up with her baby again in Heaven, it's not enough, but that is the one thing that gives me hope. It's the one thing that helps keep me sane, knowing that as much as I hurt now one day my arms won't feel so empty because my baby will be there.
Tammy
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"The true measure of a life and love is not how long the flame burns here on Earth, it's how strong it burns in the heart. - Tammy Doern
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Numb.... don't know what to do 
