Oct 10th must be the day. We have a walk/rememberance that day at a local nature preserve. I'd love to go but it is the day of DS's Baptism, so maybe that is a sign in itself.
Sheri--I don't think you have to let go of the memories of your little one, just let go of some of the pain. Keep her in your memory by thinking of the good things with the PG---finding out, hearing the heartbeat, u/s (if you had one). I just remember hearing my baby's heatbeat at 7 weeks, it was the first time I'd ever heard such a thing. My only regret is DH wasn't there to hear it too

I also have my u/s picture of my little bean. What a symbolic way to remember Mary Catherine with a maple tree, I'm sure the change of leaves will be beautiful.
I will be thinking of all the cysters here next week. I hope the day brings some peace.
Kim