Oh Boy - How to handle this

Anthony · 03-30-2008, 05:27 AM

Hi,

I don't know how to react or where to start, my girlfriend has just informed me that she has been diagnosed with PCOS, it really saddens me but that doesn't mean i am going to runaway, I've been reading up on the matter and would like to know how can i be of support, how can she get back to what she was, can we look at alternative herbal remedies etc etc, wow - what do i do !!!??? Please advise or guide

thanks

bkaur26 · 03-30-2008, 11:45 AM

Anthony, first of all, your girlfriend is very lucky to have a guy like you. Just telling her that you love her no matter what will make her feel a lot better. Otherwise, keep on reading about PCOS. There are a lot of good stickys on PCOS symptoms and treatments on this website, so definitely check them out. From my experience, weight loss has helped me a lot. It's really difficult to lose weight with PCOS, but it is one of the best treatment options available. It took me a year to successfully be able to lose 15 lbs and keep them off, but just losing 15lbs. has made a big difference for me.

She should definitely visit an endocrinologist and maybe a dietician to help her lose weigt (if that's an issue).

PCOS is definitely not the best experience for anyone, but you have to remember that a lot of women manage to live healthy lives with it and it should never get in the way of who we really are as individuals.
Just give this some time and I think the both of you should be fine, especially with your emotional support.

Good luck and welcome to the website

Feel free to ask anything that's on your mind, everyone here is extremely nice and helpful

~*Heart*~ · 03-30-2008, 02:25 PM

Definitely steer her to this site as well. Lots of information and lots and lots of support from women who know what she's going through!

May I make a suggestion? If you're really serious about helping her, I would let her know that in a special way. Perhaps buying her a piece of jewelry and presenting it to her over a special dinner, letting her know that it signifies your commitment to help her through it. There's a cyster on this site who makes PCOS support bracelets...that might be a place to start. I know I would LOOOVE if my DH did something like this. As it stands, he supports me by just letting me try whatever treatments I feel would help (BCPs, gym membership, diet, etc). But I wish he would do some research and really understand how PCOS works and what he can do to support me. But he's kind of a one-track-minded sort.

She's very fortunate to have you! Welcome to SC!!

Anthony · 04-01-2008, 03:55 PM

Thank u all for the kind words and encouragement, tis really hard for me to accept her condition. I've been reading up on the matter and it scares the hell out of me, i hve mde contact with an ayurvedic practitioner who says he cud help her, and clear the condition. His noted sum treatment which if ok to post i will inform all about, if not i wud be glad to pm to anyone or supplier my email addy, currently she is on sum meds from her doc etc etc

Wow, this is a whole new experience for me

Thanks for your support, hve def booked marked this site and will try and play an active role in contribution of material where possible

cheers, Tony

PBLayzod · 04-01-2008, 04:10 PM

There is a thread for alternative treatments. Many of the women on here have used them both alone and with prescription meds.

An understanding and supportive boyfriend is far better than many women get with or without PCOS. Good for you. Send her our way, and we'll be happy to offer info and support. I'm sure you've been reading some scary stuff, but nearly everyone here leads a normal life and goes on to have a family. There are extremes with any medical condition, but it's much more likely your girlfriend will be fine with monitoring and treatment.

DaniGirl27 · 04-14-2008, 03:51 PM

Anthony;

If there's one piece of advice I can give you it is this:
Make her feel sexy.
Make her feel loved.

PCOS can really affect one's sense of femininity. You have it within your capacity to make her feel like the sexy woman she is...

I wish you both the best.

AboveTheExtreme · 04-14-2008, 04:32 PM

i agree with danigirl.. just do your best to make her feel good.. be there for her and support her when she needs it

soulfulqween · 04-14-2008, 11:16 PM

Anthony you are a wonderful boyfriend you remind me of my hunny.
I agree with what the other cysters have said here.

You're already off to a great start in helping her and being supportive.

Best of luck to you both.

evabear · 04-16-2008, 04:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DaniGirl27

Anthony;

If there's one piece of advice I can give you it is this:
Make her feel sexy.
Make her feel loved.

PCOS can really affect one's sense of femininity. You have it within your capacity to make her feel like the sexy woman she is...

I wish you both the best.

Probably the most simple, but best piece of advice.

Anthony, kudos to you for wanting to be informed about your girlfriend's condition. Sometimes the most important thing that a cyster needs is her DBF or DH's support.

nikbeehubby · 04-16-2008, 08:01 PM

youve made a great effort already, i'd suggest roaming around the site and reading up on all you can. altho this corner of the site is supposed to be for us guys, most threads seem to get taken over. i guess as such there arent that many men that participate in here- maybe some get the "why bother" thing going, i know i do sometimes. you can always PM me a message when and if the need ever arises, no worries.

there is a ton of information in this site. a lot of medically pertinent data to be had for sure and then there is that which should be taken with a grain of salt. nonetheless all of it valuable for its insight.

Anthony · 04-20-2008, 06:21 AM

Hello all,

Thank u all for the responses and support. Truly appreciate all of them.
I am slowly gathering all the info and as time continues i am getting more afraid as to what i got myself into with gf with pcos, how can i run now , when i said i loved her, thru good and bad...... i am here for her, can't tho accept that she has this condition.

GF has started on a low gi diet, says she is feeling good, is on the normal pcos meds, gets exhausted, breaking out into acne with bad scars etc etc. Wow, being a tad bit superficial that i am sometimes getting a bit hard for me to accept all these body changes, i love her nonetheless, how do i deal with these changes..............

I truly am at a battle ............

PBLayzod · 04-20-2008, 01:31 PM

B12 will help with the fatigue. Make sure she's getting that and regular exercise. The other physical changes should improve as she continues treatment. Most women don't get the diagnosis until they start having problems getting pregnant. I'm glad your GF sought treatment early for her symptoms. This isn't a death sentence and doesn't mean she won't be a beautiful woman. It may just take a little while to get the hormones back under control. In the mean time, she is probably having some depression from the diagnosis. Sounds like you are, too. Be easy on yourself and her.

soulfulqween · 04-20-2008, 02:00 PM

She's doing what she should be and will hopefully be able to combat the symptoms. A positive attitude from both of you is key.

It's great that you are involved and helping but don't worry so much...like the pp said this isn't a death sentence you're both getting educated and are both doing what you can and should do to help. Things will gradually improve.

Both of you try to take time away from this some of the time. Remember to be a couple.

lovelyinkedlady · 04-20-2008, 09:25 PM

I'm glad you've come here to get information. Thats wonderful!

Thought i'm curious what are you scared of? Sence you keep mentioning your scared? Just not sure of what?

Two, as to what you got your self in to with a g/f with pcos. A very trying relationship at times and other times one of the most rewarding. Why i say that is because you have so much power to make her day a better one. You have so much power to make her smile by simply being there and loving her for who she is on the inside, and not just her physical beauty.

What any women wants the most with pcos is to be excepted for who she is! nothing more nothing less.

I can tell you now as most other women on her can as well that she will be on an emotional rollercoaster while she is getting treatment for the symptoms. The best thing you can do is just be there.

Anthony · 04-28-2008, 05:26 AM

Hi All,

Don't know if i can post this question here, my gf has not had her periods this month, i know this is part of pcos, is this a serious condition and what are the effects.