I'm having a D & C today...its my first m/c and it really sucks. I balled my eyes out yesterday and while I'm completely not over it, I'm concerned now with my next pregnancy. I'm going to be worried if I'm ever going to get past this stage.
__________________ Catherine (27) Photographer & Scott (30) Engineer
Proud Parents to two yorkie babies!
BFP on 8-13-07 ....Miscarried w/ D&E 9-17-07
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We all have our fears the second time around, and those hurdles are especially hard... for me, it was getting past 5wks, and now it's getting to the heartbeat that worries me. Most women go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies after a m/c, not all of us... but many women do all the time. I hope you get to be one of them.
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m/c's: 5/08, 3/09, 11/09 To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
three inject cycles 7 clomid
TTC +2 years
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"If you're going through hell, keep going." Winston Churchill
*hugs* I truly wish we didn't have to meet this way.
I lost my Christopher on July 4th at 22 weeks through the pregnancy. It was, and is, the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. It still hurts, and every time I close my eyes I can see his face, and I miss him so much. I lost Chris to an incompetent cervix - something that will still be wrong with our next baby, and something that is going to be scary as hell.
At the same time I've learned that every single heartbeat your baby gives you is special. Chris wouldn't want me to spend every second of my next pregnancy in fear and forget to take the time to enjoy just being pregnant. It will be so easy to get so lost and scared during things and to forget that I'm pregnant, that I have a beautiful life growing inside of me.
All we can do is set small goals for ourselves. It's what I did after I lost Christopher, and what I still do some days. It's small goals. All I want to do is make it to the next breath of air, then the one after that, and then the next one. Take it day by day, and don't forget to enjoy things.
It's going to be scary, and it's going to be hard, but honey when that times comes love that little bean with everything you have. Getting past the day you lost this baby will be tough, but you have to have faith you will pass it. Take each moment as it comes and enjoy it to the fullest. All of us here have learned all too well that every heart beat counts.
*hugs*
Tammy
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~Christopher Allen Doern~ Born July 4, 2009 @22 weeks to incompetent cervix.
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"The true measure of a life and love is not how long the flame burns here on Earth, it's how strong it burns in the heart. - Tammy Doern
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Not ttc. DH has had a vasectomy. We have 2 gorgeous boys, 2 and 4. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
I'm very sorry about your loss! I hope that you can take some time and just take care of yourself while you grieve. The next pregnancy is always a big stressor. If you can get with a doctor before you conceive again and really trust that person to take the best care of you, it can help. If you read some stories around here, there are lots of us who need metformin and often progesterone supplements to get through the first trimester. Many of us need blood thinners or other treatment as well or instead. Take these ideas to your doc and see what the best plan will be in your case. I hope this is the only time you'll have to deal with loss. (((((Hugs)))))
__________________ Metformin 1500mg, Yasmin, managing IR/pcos with lower carbs
First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.
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Second loss March 9, 2004 at five weeks
Third pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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Fourth pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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Hey Catherine and Jordan... my April 2010 buddies... I'm very sorry to have to join you on this side of the boards. (My Story)
I hope you guys are healing well. It's so hard. Big HUGS.
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Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in Your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. ~Psalm 139:16
One of the hardest days EVER! 
