Does anyone have an open adoption? Can you tell me your positive and negative experiences w/ it? How often do you allow contact w/ birth parents?
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Sorry it took so long to respond, I've been very busy with my new little one. Yes my family and I have a open adoption with the BP's. We have 2 children by the same BM.
We send pictures and letters when we can and she's allowed to contact us when she wants to by phone. Although it is totally up to us when she calls, if she visits, when we send pictures etc. We do the most we can that we feel comfortable with. I've had some bad experiances with the first adoption that I really don't want to go into on here but there are forgotten as are labor pains because we did end up adopting from the same bm again. I just tell myself that I'm the parent, I'm their mother and I will do what I feel is best for my children and not confuse them. I am open, I don't have a problem with that really. But I also realize a open adoption is not for everyone. It depends really. My children's BP don't live in this state, if they did I can say it would probably be a lot harder on me and especially in the begining with bonding. But that is just my experiance. My first daughter is 2 1/2 and my son is 2 weeks old. I've had them since birth and I know that they are mine but I will never forget what unconditional , unselfish thing their bp did. I have a special place in my heart for them. They also have a child they are parenting and I send that child gifts, clothes etc. I plan on having a open relationship always unless for some reason in the future it isn't what I feel is best for every one.
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