Well ladies, DH and I have been TTC #3. We have been trying for a few months and it is not as easy as I had hoped it would be. I realized after the last negative home pregnancy test, that I don't think I could go thru the heartache of not ovulating and seeing only negative tests. So, after much thought and prayer, Rey and I have decided to adopt. After the time and energy we put into having Talia we were so excited that Max was easy to get pregnant with and had hoped it would be easier this time around. Now, I just don't think I can go thru all doc visits, blood tests, HPTs, OPKs, not to mention the worry and stress.
We are looking into adopting older children in a sibling group. At the moment, there are 2 sisters that are 9 and 7 that we are considering thru Texas Department of Family and Protective Services. The girls are absolutely gorgeous and we think they would fit wonderfully in our family. We will be attending our 1st informational meeting on Saturday, May 31st. We have a call into our connections pastor at church, asking if he can put us in touch with other couples that have adopted. We also have contacted a social worker that does independent home studies at a great price. So, we are going forward with full steam.
I was hoping that if any of you have any info you could share about the adoption of older children, that you could let me know. I about to go thru every website I can find on adoption for tips. We would really appreciate any thoughts and prayers you can send our way. Thanks in advance.
__________________ Shelly 30 DH-Rey 31
Diagnosed November 2002
1500mg Metformin
Mother of two beautiful children. The Princess Talia Jean is 4 1/2 years old and our Prince Maxwell is 3 years old.
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Starting the adoption process 6/2008
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If you are going to go through the state, they are going to do their own h/s, (and they are free...). I think that you have to have your h/s done through them, as I am pretty sure that they will not accept independant h/s by other sw than their own. You have to go through the h/s the PRIDE classes....and then you will be licenses as foster parents and you will have the option of doing foster to adopt...or straight adoption. If you are doing fostering they will pay you for the child's expenses until you are able to adopt them. Also we it does being finalized they will have free insurnace, and they will be able to go to any state school that they choose to at a reducted rate (or even free...idk which)....
Good luck on your journey through adoption....it is not a breeze...it is long and hard and emotional....but once you have your kids you know that it was all worth it!
calches, thanks for the info. After doing more research we found out that the state did the h/s, so that is good. It seems like it costs less money to adopt older children from the public agencies. We are trying to be very realistic about everything and know that this will take lots of time. At the moment, it seems easier than we expected and maybe that's just because we don't know a lot right now. We are hoping to get some answers from the info meet next week. The adoption resources thread helped a lot. All day I have been digging and digging for information, questions to ask, who do I talk to, what is the first step. I think I am done for today, however, I am pooped. Thanks again.
__________________ Shelly 30 DH-Rey 31
Diagnosed November 2002
1500mg Metformin
Mother of two beautiful children. The Princess Talia Jean is 4 1/2 years old and our Prince Maxwell is 3 years old.
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Hi Shelly - I think I might be a good resource for you. My bio daughter is 4 and we are in the process of adopting a 5-year-old little boy. He is 16 months older than my daughter and we are adopting him from the state of Utah. It's been super hard...that's all I will say for now. But, I am really glad to hear of another family that is willing to take in an older child because they are harder to place. Feel free to ask me any questions that are on your mind and I hope everything goes according to your plans and desires!
__________________ Andrea(32) and Shawn(40) married 12 years Mom to Leon (age 7, adopted in June '08) and Anna (age 5, born the EASY way in Jan '04)
Baby boy on the way!!!!!!! Due 3/10/2010 I couldn't feel more blessed.
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