That's not at all what the quote you shared is saying, maybe you're referring to a different study.
Then please enlighten me. I'm a fairly well-educated, medically knowledgable woman...and after reading this article that is exactly what I found it to be saying.
I'm not saying I'm not wrong, but what you said earlier about 80% of gay women don't have PCOS, but of PCOS patients 80% of them are gay corroborates with what I was saying. So I guess I'm just confused about what you're questioning me on.
I have told my mom about other factors, and when I brought up the fact that when I go to the gyno I am going to make him (yeah, not sure how I feel about a male gyno lol) test me for everythign that coud possibly be wrong, including cancer, just to be safe. I have some oft eh symptoms so it can't hurt. She asked me what would happen if I had ovarian or (i dont know the technical word for it) cancer in the uterus. I said "Well they may have to take out my ovaries or my uterus. It all just depends." then of course she freak out again, saying that they can't do that. That I am too young to have something liek that because I need to have kids....then it ties back into the whole lesbian thing again. I am pretty butch, to say the least, and I do not plan on getting pregnant myself. I mentioned to her that I always wanted to adopt, and then she freaked out again. It' like I can't win no matter what. lol at this point, after the initial reaction, I am just letting it go now. She will react how she is going to react, and I think that if she looked up some more information (and I know her well enough to know that she will) she will see that it is not the cause of homosexuality, and if, in the very rare case that I would have cnacer, I think she would not be quite so worried about her future grandchildren as she would be her child.
I just wanted to write YOU and say I think you're doing the right thing in how you're handling your mom. I know it's difficult, and can be nerve-racking to deal with a parent, especially a mom. I know for me, I felt like I had already disappointed her enough with my sexuality. So anything else that I felt wouldn't be embraced, well, it just took a whole lot of courage.
But the thing about parents is that they will always love you. And she will come around. It's harder for some parents than others. And when you are first talking about being a lesbian, or talking about potentially having children I can imagine that, for many parents, it's hard to think of that "hypothetical" situation. I know for my mom, she had this dream that I would meet Prince Charming, have the grandiose wedding, and then have babies. To her, dealing with my sexuality was like dealing with a death of the future that she had entailed for me. Now, on the flip side...I am still capable of love, the grandiose ceremony, and I will have a family (whether I birth children due to PCOS or adopt, etc...who knows).
Bottom line, I think it just takes time. I can only speak for myself, but it took time for me to accept my sexuality. I wanted my mother to embrace it over night, but eventually realized that if it took ME time, then I should expect the same from her. I think ultimately, the best thing we can do is love ourselves, try to be as patient as possible with our loved ones. And know that if they're at least attempting to be accepting and loving, then they will eventually get to the place where we need them to be. And if not, well, I say just cross that bridge when you get there.
I wish you good luck with your doctor's appointment! It sounds like you have quite a bit going on. Hopefully all will be well, and you will receive a happy report! And I know what you mean about a guy gyno....but by the time you're actually in the room it's the last thing you're thinking about! If you're still uncomfortable though, I would recommend switching before you get too wrapped up in your treatment. Seems like the earlier in a diagnosis you make a switch, the more continuity you have in care.
Then please enlighten me. I'm a fairly well-educated, medically knowledgable woman...and after reading this article that is exactly what I found it to be saying.
I'm not saying I'm not wrong, but what you said earlier about 80% of gay women don't have PCOS, but of PCOS patients 80% of them are gay corroborates with what I was saying. So I guess I'm just confused about what you're questioning me on.
This is where we lost eachother I think, because what I actually said was
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Originally Posted by vancouverNicole
saying that 80% of gay women have PCOS is not the same as saying that 80% of women with PCOS are gay.
One version suggests something like "80% of the gay women that we talked to had PCOS"
and the other version would be suggesting "80% of the women with PCOS that we talked to were gay"
I'm not very good at explaining what I mean, but I'm trying to say that: of those 2 groups of different women, the study was talking about gay women, but you said it was talking about women with PCOS, so it changes the meaning a lot (if that makes sense).
Okay, so I think we're on the same page...and just missed each other on the explanation. Thanks I'm not so great at explaining things myself either, especially in print. I do know this: of the sampling of women that had PCOS: 80% of that sampling were gay women. The rest were straight. That is where the study was saying that gay women were at a higher risk of having PCOS. I would love to see more research done on this, as I can only find one study right now. The numbers are astonishingly large, I'm surprised more research hasn't been done. Who knows...
I'm not so great at explaining things myself either, especially in print. I do know this: of the sampling of women that had PCOS: 80% of that sampling were gay women. The rest were straight. That is where the study was saying that gay women were at a higher risk of having PCOS. I would love to see more research done on this, as I can only find one study right now. The numbers are astonishingly large, I'm surprised more research hasn't been done. Who knows...
