I have a BIG problem being physically close to people. At the dinner table, in a crowd, in bed, etc...
I am uncomfortable with hugs (even with family) and even more uncomfortable with friendly/family kisses.
I CAN cuddle regularly with my significant other, but I even get tired of him after awhile and need my own "breathing room"
Is anyone else like this? Sometimes I'll be sleeping next to my boyfriend and if we're facing each other I flip out and have to roll over. It drives me nuts!!
Am I the only one?
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I am incredibly affectionate with a significant other type person, but I grew up in a family where we didnt hug n kiss each other too much. So its awkward being affectiionate with them. I dislike contact with strangers, Im ok with hand shaking, etc.. but I cant stand it when people I dont know come up and hug me.
And crowds? Forget it. I hate crowds, they make me feel claustrophobic and I am not generally bothered by small spaces. But large, looming piles of people freak me OUT!
As for the cuddling at night thing.. I like it for a little while and then I have to break away just so I can get some sleep.. Im a drive by cuddler
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I have a problem with personal space at times. A teacher I know will stand very close to you and it drives me nuts! I feel like shouting and telling her to step back at least 6 inches!
I also have a problem with getting hugs from men. Must be a hang up from when I was a kid and my Dad did not like for me to be hugged by men at church or whatnot. I had to get used to being kissed by relatives although when the male cousins pop one off on the lips it still grosses me out.
But as far as Dh goes, it is snuggle city. But I can't stand to be breathed on in my face when he is sleeping.
So, I am with ya. Funny little hang ups we develop, huh?
I'm with you on this one. I'm okay with getting a kiss/cuddle from my mum as we've always been really close (sometimes I'll give my dad a kiss but to be honest i think it freaks him out too) and it's fine with DF although I too hate him breathing in my face.
As for anyone else touching me - no chance !!!!! When I was 17 I used to work as a waitress in a restaurant and there the asst manager used to alway hae a laugh with everyone and make them waltz through the restaurant with him and pick them up and carry on. There was no harm in it but it totally freaked me out - so much so that eventually I had to say something to him. Even to this day if I meet someone who I used to work with there they always make a joke and move about 10ft away from me before they start talking to me.
I'm a bit of a weirdo eh???????
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Add me in to those who need space. I can do okay cuddling with DH, but he knows to keep it so he's not breathing on my face. He used to get annoyed when I'd roll onto my side with my back to him, but now he's learned to like that position. Most nights we end up sleeping with backs to each other, but rearends touching. It was funny, on our wedding night, we had a king-sized bed, and we fell asleep on complete opposite sides of the bed, not even touching hands!
Crowds freak me out. It was really bad when I worked retail. I worked at Staples, and the worst two days for crowds there were day after Thanskgiving and first day back-to-school. All the schools in the area, it seemed, went back to school on the same day (Tuesday after Labor Day), and around 4 pm, the store would start to fill up. By 6 or 7 pm, it was a madhouse, and I was going nuts. I couldn't take the crowd noise. Every year for three years I got a lecture on my attitude that day. I tried explaining it to my managers on the fourth year, why I wanted to work day-term that day, but they kept saying, "You've done it three years in a row, you're a veteran now, you'll be fine." Yeah, right.
I'm also not a spontaneous hugger (except with DH and furbabies). I get confused. It's hard, because now we're in a large, overly-affectionate congregation. People like to hug, and I get a little weirded out by it. I never really know how to react to it. I'm usually thinking, "I don't KNOW you! Why are you hugging me??"
I've gotten better with friends and family, and like I mentioned, my cats get pounced all the time (including the one who doesn't like being held, heh heh heh), but for the most part, I prefer to be left alone.
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Add me to the list. I like to hug and cuddle with DH, but other than that I need space. I rarely hug any family members (except for special occasions ), and I hate people in my personal space.
I am here too...Sometimes I dont even like DH to be near me ...dont know why ? My family has always been close and we love to hug etc ??
I hate when people stand too close to me in line, like you are next BACK OFF so I generally kick my heels up or turn around and stare at them or move but leave the cart or stroller in the way of them advancing...strange I know
I hate crowds and I dont know why people that think they outta hug you for no reason just a HI ! how are ya hug hug hug...yuk get away ! LOL probly just my own insecurity that they might lay a hand on one of my rolls or something LOL
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I hate the way that so many people nowadays crowd you. As if they have no idea of personal space. I love to hug my little grandson, and I am quite affectionate with my Dad and my younger son, but my older son really doesn't like to be hugged at all, and I respect that completely.
But I agree that it is very uncomfortable when people you hardly know feel it is alright for them to maul you and get up close and personal. I always thought it was just me being stroppy!
Years ago, when I was pregnant with my two, I couldn't believe how many people seemed to think that carrying a child made you some sort of cuddly toy. Strangers would come up and say, "Aw, do you mind?" and try to stroke my belly. I used to say, "Yes, I do, actually" and that really pi--ed them off! I see it happening a lot nowadays too and I think it is really rude.
Add me to the list. I don't have a problem with hugging family members and friends but I do have an issue with anything beyond that. It drives me nuts when my boyfriend is in my face. I can't handle someone breathing on me and I am super claustrophobic in situations where I don't know people. In crowds of friends or people I know, I don't have a problem, but it's the people I don't know that creep me out. I think this "paranoia" started about the time I hit puberty. Maybe the hormones have something to do with it.
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I am fine with certain people - in fact you can't get me out of my best friend's armpit, but generally speaking, I hate being touched and I don't hug or touch people much.
I work with a lovely lady, who is a very nice person - but she insists on touching me all the time. And not just a pat on the shoulder or arm - she'll touch my stomach (usually to tell me I'm losing weight there - but it still makes me want to scream) or face (which I HATE!!!) and stuff like that. And she just doesn't get that I don't like to be touched. We all went out for dinner this week and got talking about massages, and I mentioned that I don't like them, as I don't feel comfortable being touched. She proceded to argue with me that I DO like massages, everyone likes massages! I ended up getting quite aggravated and saying "I DON'T LIKE IT OK??"
How do you deal with people like that? I mean, in all other aspects she's a very nice lady, but she drives me insane touching me all the time. How can I tell her not to do it without being rude?
I've got charisma with people and I love crowds. But I've been living with Bonnie for three days now and I can't STAND being breathed on or touched while sleeping. She just thinks I'm weird.
So this is normal, eh?
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OH MY! I'm glad I'm not the only one. My DH says I'm allergic to him! lol I'm not, I ADORE him, I just like my space. I have 2kids, 2pets, and my DH. All of them want my attention and want to hug and kiss me at all times. I know there are WAY worse things than a loving family, but I still need my space! lol
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!!!!! When I was 17 I used to work as a waitress in a restaurant and there the asst manager used to alway hae a laugh with everyone and make them waltz through the restaurant with him and pick them up and carry on. There was no harm in it but it totally freaked me out - so much so that eventually I had to say something to him. Even to this day if I meet someone who I used to work with there they always make a joke and move about 10ft away from me before they start talking to me.
