MsVay

I haven't worked since July of this year. At that time I found out that I was 3 months pregnant, my baby was born (still). I am now ready to go back to work (I am a social worker). I need to get my mind off of the pain and start to "live again". I feel like I have lost "me" in all of this.

I know that during the interview the question is going to be asked, why haven't I worked since July. How do I professionally answer this question? I have had very few interviews because I normally stay at jobs for long periods of time. I do not want to go back to my previous employer I want to work at someplace different. So please give me your opinions on how I can answer this question without saying too much or too little.

Thanks,
Vay

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Phoenix Rising ^^^

MsVay, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

I would answer the question by stating that it was a personal, family issue. Maybe, even say there was a death in your family that affected you greatly. Most people will back off at that point but, if the interviewer persists and asks who died I would just look him or her in the eye and say "my Daughter." At that point I would not offer an explanation and I would try to move the interview along to do my best to keep it professional.

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saluki_fan

MsVay, I think Gina has summed everything up perfectly and I wish you the best of luck in your job search.

levacy

you really haven't been out of work that long. i don't think they'll push it if you just say that you had a death in the family and needed a little time to recover. i've had friends who have been out of work for longer and they don't really get pestered as to why so much. you will want to find an understanding employer anyway. good luck hon, you have been in my thoughts.

SheriKCMO

I like the above suggestions. You could say that you had health concerns (the pregnancy) and needed to be off until they were resolved. I wouldn't say anything more if you have already gotten a bad vibe from the place.

Good luck with the job search! (((Hugs)))

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VivC

I like the suggestions you've gotten. I was in the same situation after Rivi died. At one interview, I just spit out that my son died and I needed time to deal with it. I hadn't prepared an answer, and I was sure that I wasn't going to get the job, since I obviously made the interviewers uncomfortable.

Come to find out, that's WHY I got the job. According to my boss, I showed that I can get past problems and that I can dedicate myself. Funny, huh?

jlbrown122

Since my husband owns his own business, I know a little bit about what makes him decide to hire someone or not. I know that he prefers honesty and I would make sure that if you don't want to go into to much detail that you do say that there was a death in your family. DH has said that when someone tells him they had personal problems he tends to assume that it was either mental problems or drugs. Even though he may be wrong, he can't help that those thoughts come into his mind. I hope this helps and good luck with finding a job.

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