please help

Beth S · 04-19-2003, 03:14 PM

Hi
I just found out my second beta was only 7 and that i will miscarry. Im only 4 weeks and 5 days so what can i suspect?
This is my first miscarriage.

BethS

packerfan · 04-19-2003, 09:00 PM

Beth,

I am so very sorry for your loss. A m/c is a very hard thing emotionally to go through.

What I can tell you is I started bleeding so lightly on a Friday (I wasn't even sure I was seeing blood, it was so light). Things got a little heavier by Wed. I went in for an u/s, we saw a heartbeat, and was told we should be in the clear. Well, the bleeding continued on and off, brown/red, light/heavier for one more week. The following Wed. I m/ced. My cramps were the worst I had ever had, I bled VERY heavily for 1 day and lighter for 4 more days. I guess I was lucky to have a nutural m/c and not need a D&C. I was 7w4d. All in all, it was 17 days start to finish. AF didn't return for 9 weeks.

Since my doctor wasn't expecting me to m/c, they didn't tell me anything about what to do. I never went to the ER, I knew what was going on and was more comfortable being at home, crying. After, my doc's nurse said they recommend saving some of the tissue that passes for testing. Some doc's don't do testing on the first m/c, mine apparently would have. I also had to go in and get a blood test done since I was not sure if I was Rh- or not. I was not Rh- but if you are, you can develop antibodies if the baby was Rh+ and you are Rh-. I don' t know at what fetal age that becomes important to be checked.

These are just the "lowlights" of my m/c. For as devastated as I was, today I am MUCH better. I never thought I would get over losing that baby, take one day at a time and don't blame yourself or think "what if" Unfortunately m/c's happen and usually can't be prevented.

You'll be in my prayers.

Kim

cystermoon · 04-19-2003, 10:00 PM

(((HUGS)))Beth I am sorry for your loss. My first indication I was suffering my first m/c was when I started to spot. I went through the first one naturally it was the worst pain I have ever experienced in my life. Some people equate it to having a very bad menstrual pain although mine was far worse than that. I had a D&C done on my third m/c so I would never have to endure that kind of pain again. But everyone is different.

I do advise that if you don't get a D&C that after the m/c you still do have one done. I didn't have one done the first time and as a result my tube still had some matter in it and five months later after I got pg again I had an ectopic pg because my tube was blocked. No one ever advised me of this back then and I really wished they had.

The emotional pain will also be great especially knowing how badly you were TTC. But don't let anyone deny you the chance to grieve. It is important that you do. Take care,

Beth S · 04-21-2003, 11:35 AM

thanks for the replys.
I have had some cramping lastnight and this morning and very little spotting so far.
I still have really sore bbs and urninating alot and am tired.
Shouldnt these be going away too?
Thanks
BethS

cystermoon · 04-21-2003, 12:58 PM

Yes, as your hcg levels start to drop, and this is the saddest indication of all, your bbs will eventually stop hurting and your urges to urinate will decrease. You will remain tired for a while, at least I sure did. I don't know if it is the trauma of everything or just your body trying to recover or a combiantion of both. Just remember to take good care of yourself and allow yourself the right to grieve. It is very important in order to be able to move past the pain and hurt.