Please help me with a tough decision

Leigh2005 · 03-22-2006, 09:17 PM

Hi Everyone.....It's so nice to have a site to reach out to people. You have your friends and sometimes it's nice to hear people's opinions that you don't even know.

I have to decide by the end of today whether or not I'm going to go through with my application for a full time job in town B. I already teach part-time in town B. The problem is I want to move back to town A where I used to teach full time, but where I may not get a job again. My boyfriend and I broke up and are taking a break while he figures out how to live the Christian life that he says he wants to live, but can't seem to get to. He isn't able to give me anything in the relationship and I know the right thing to do is part, but it still hurts. I feel like if I move to town A I will be sending him the message that I don't think there is a chance between us. My thinking is just that if we are meant to be together it'll be no big deal for him to move to town A, which he has admitted would be healthier for him because all town B does is go to the bar.

I'm letting him go and giving him his space because he says he needs to get God in his life for him and he knows he's not going to be able to give the love that I deserve until he does that. At first I just thought it was a cop-out, but he REALLY wants it to work with us. He's hurt that I want to move back, but understands that I need to take care of me first. MY gut feeling tells me to go back, but it's just so scary. I could end up subbing and having no health insurance. I've given up a full-time teaching job and now another part-time job for this relationship. Now I could be giving it all up for NO job. On the other hand...staying here I could have a full time job.

I'm just scared...there are no guarantees that he'll get his life figured out and I don't want to be in town B when I have family and friends in town A. I moved to town B to see how things would go between us.

You know someone wants to change when they wake you up at 1:30 in the morning because they need to talk and cry because of the demons in their life.

Does anyone know of anyone in their lives that turned their lives around by accecpting Christ into their lives? If someone is 28 and they haven't been able to live a Christian life since they were 18 is it too late?

omcv · 03-23-2006, 05:00 AM

No it is never too late!!!! I know a gal in her eighties making changes. But if he needs his space I would give it to him. Distance does help you appreciate what you do not have. You need to lead your life, if he wants to be apart of it then he will find you. I know it is tough, I went through a lot of guys until I found my DH. Do not settle for anything and don't hitnk you will change him. I am so glad I waited to find that one that would except me for who I am and fellow me anywhere and verse versa.

Leigh2005 · 03-23-2006, 05:10 PM

Thank you SO much for replying. Your words are comforting and help to relax and allow God to take over.

Take care!