Please pray for my friend! VERY urgent!

Stacie M · 06-21-2005, 05:35 PM

I need to give a little background...

I have a very good friend. She has had what I would call a good marriage. They have one child. After the child was born (close to 10 years ago), the husband decided he didn't want to have any more children. He got a vasectomy. She was devastated and wanted another child. He went thru 2 unsuccessful vas. reversals, resulting in no more children.

Lately she has felt very lonely. SHe feels that he robbed her of what she wanted. She feels that he took something away from her and her child (who wants a baby bro or sis badly). She also thinks he is mean to her. I have witnessed him make jokes about her butt being big, etc, but I honestly think that he thinks its like a game, she just takes it way too seriously. (FYI: she is about a size 6-8 or so). She thinks he doesn't compliment her enough, etc. She feels they are drifting apart.

We have a mutual friend (friends with both of our DH's) who is married to a woman who cannot have kids. My friend and him live in the same neighborhood. This guy is very nice and is a good friend to all of us. However, he has made some comments to her about her being very sexy, etc. Of course, this boosted her ego and made her feel great. Then, he commented that he would give her the baby she wanted. It all goes down hill from there. She thinks she is in love with him and told her DH she wants a separation. HE on the other hand, will not tell his wife. My friend thinks he wants to marry her, but I think he has other motives (SEX!).

I cannot talk any sense into my friend. She is, up until this blip, an extremely Christian and moral person. I think she is going thru a major midlife crisis and is about to throw away a LOT.

PLEASE pray for her. Please pray that God will carry her and help her thru this time when she is so confused. I am afraid she will do something and either ruin her life or never be able to forgive herself.

Lfgd20 · 06-21-2005, 05:48 PM

Stacie; She is in my prayers! I hope that she can make correct decisions

to her!

Tiggamoo · 06-21-2005, 05:57 PM

Stacie, I'll keep your friend in my prayers. She's making some decisions she may regret.

STORMIEYES73 · 06-21-2005, 07:47 PM

She's definitely drifting away from her husband & towards this other man to fill the void of more children. It's obvious what he's really after-- no damn good. I will pray for your friend to avoid all temptation & to reclaim & strenghten the unity in her marriage & family. She has a loving husband who had twice attempted to reverse the vasectomy & a healthy child. Try to remind her to count her blessings & not focus so much on the what-ifs. Could you maybe suggest adoption or volunteering with the local big brother/ big sister program? I would give this mutual "friend" a very sternly voiced, "Back off, buster, you have your own wife! Love her & only her!" Knowing me, I would probably hand him a typed-written note with passages to flee sexual immorality, like in 1Corinthians 6: 18-20. That's just me, I sent that scripture in an email to a married friend who had overstepped the line of friendship. It works!!!

*pEaNuT* · 06-21-2005, 07:52 PM

I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers!! (HUGS)

SuzanneStar · 06-22-2005, 12:00 AM

My thoughts and prayers are on their way

Stacie M · 06-22-2005, 01:44 AM

Thanks so much to all of you! She really needs the prayers. I want her to work things out, AND still be able to look herself in the mirror when this is all over. I am afraid she is on a long road going in the wrong direction. My MIL went thru something very similar to this and it ruined her life. She tried to talk to my friend to, but so far nothing has worked. I don't believe in staying in a bad marriage for no reason, but I don't think she is in a bad marriage. I think she is just resentful and needs to deal with her own issues.

Thanks again!

Stacie M

PeacefulAngel · 06-22-2005, 08:20 AM

I've been where she is. Not with children involved, but I made the mistake. I'm praying for her.
She's lucky to have a friend like you.
Hugs to you both
Julie

Stacie M · 06-22-2005, 11:55 AM

Thanks to everyone! I will update as soon as I hear something.

Thanks again! I sure hope it works out!

Stacie M

his_angel · 06-25-2005, 08:49 PM

It's sad when anyone has to go thru situations like this, but it's especially sad when it's w/ Christians. After all, we are supposed to be the salt & light of the world, be content w/ life, etc. Just b/c we are Christians doesn't mean problems & pain just go away or are kept from us. It all comes down to how we react to these problems & pain.

God has a reason for this, although we may never know what it is. Hug her, pray for her, pray w/ her, encourage her. She is definitely lifted up in prayer.