ok without really going into details but Im needing support..
A friend loss her baby at 16 weeks (that was novemeber) she didnt know she was pregnant and loss it that night she found out she was..
She has pcos and dietbetes and she is very depressed, she has a 8 year old little girl..
How can i help her through this? she thinks its all her fault that she loss the baby and just my bubbly friend anymore..
I want to help her get through this but everytime we talk she just closes u and says its her fault...
because I have being through a miscarriage doesnt mean I know how she feels,
"I just know what it means to lose a baby that I never got to hold.."
Life is so unfair why does this happen?
I hope this makes sense!
additional :
where do i go for more help?
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I think just being there for her is the best thing you can do. Call her often, take her to lunch, bring her family dinner one night. Just let her know that you're her lifeline, and when the time is right for her, she will grab hold of that.
Perhaps you could find a counselor in your area that specializes in infertility?
Good luck to both of you, my thoughts are with you.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend. Just spending time with her while she's going through this is probably the best thing for you to do. When I lost my baby in August and my daughter was in critical condition with her heart problem that she had, my best friend stayed by my side in the hospital with my little girl and me for 3 days-- she slept on a chair becuase there was no bed for her-- looking back I praise God that my friend would do such a thing for me. Just her presence helped me so much to get through the tough time.
Seeing a grief counselor might help your friend too or if she goes to church, perhaps sharing her story with a minister there.
I pray that both of you get your miracles you have been waiting for.
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PPD happens to women who bring home babies....i would think its even more prevelant for those who dont.
Guilt is a major part of loosing a baby....
I did seek group therapy and perhaps you can seek a group out for her and go with her to a few meetings....
Even though my husband went with me, it was different talking to other women who felt the way i did...
You are good friend and I wish your friend well...
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend. Just spending time with her while she's going through this is probably the best thing for you to do. When I lost my baby in August and my daughter was in critical condition with her heart problem that she had, my best friend stayed by my side in the hospital with my little girl and me for 3 days-- she slept on a chair becuase there was no bed for her-- looking back I praise God that my friend would do such a thing for me. Just her presence helped me so much to get through the tough time.
Seeing a grief counselor might help your friend too or if she goes to church, perhaps sharing her story with a minister there.
I pray that both of you get your miracles you have been waiting for.
i have spoken to my pastor and he said that find all the support I can for her..she is non christian so which it makes it even harder...
Oh that is so sweet what your friend did for you, im so sorry for your loss, its so hard losing a baby I honestly think its very hard to go through it.. I still grieve for my little angel after 13 years..
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I think just being there for her is the best thing you can do. Call her often, take her to lunch, bring her family dinner one night. Just let her know that you're her lifeline, and when the time is right for her, she will grab hold of that.
Perhaps you could find a counselor in your area that specializes in infertility?
Good luck to both of you, my thoughts are with you.
sorry im just reading them indivually and answering them one by one..
I talk to her often as i can and talk to her on the internet as much as i can becuase i have personal things hapening at home its hard for me to get out with her...
I reassure you that i let her know im here for her.. I would never turn away from her.. .. thank you
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PPD happens to women who bring home babies....i would think its even more prevelant for those who dont.
Guilt is a major part of loosing a baby....
I did seek group therapy and perhaps you can seek a group out for her and go with her to a few meetings....
Even though my husband went with me, it was different talking to other women who felt the way i did...
You are good friend and I wish your friend well...
thank u..
yes its very hard.. I'm looking around to find one..
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Lee i started to search until i see that you are oversees! I wish you well...but try this website and see if they can help you overseas! http://www.unitegriefsupport.org/
THANK YOU!
yES THINGS ARE DIFFERENT HERE IN AUSTRALIA!!! bUT THERE IS SOME PLACES WHERE SHE CAN GO i HAVE A BOOK FROM BONNIE BABIES I HAVE FOUND IT HELPFUL! IF YOU WANT ME TOO i CAN UPLOAD IT AND POST IT!
ONCE AGAIN THANK YOU HEAPS!
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Post natal depression after loss 
I honestly think its very hard to go through it.. I still grieve for my little angel after 13 years..
