Hi. I really need some prayer--I have really been praying alot and just asking Christ to help me deal with PCOS. I am only 19 and I guess the issue of infertilty scares the crap out of me! I am taking Metformin now and I have yet to ovulate and I went 2 years without a period, then had regular periods on BCP, but since going off I have yet to have an AF. It discourages me, yet I have really accepted whatever God has planned for me. The problem is that I have trouble in the dating world. I have dated one guy since getting diagnosed, but it only lasted 2 months and I chickened out and never told him. Well, there is this new guy now that wants to date, yet I am scared to death. I am scared of having somebody and then all of a sudden being alone again. And I know that if the guy truly loves me then he won't leave me, yet why is the fear still there? I somewhat see myself as damaged goods--at the grocery store people always put back the dented can and get one that is unbleminished. Somehow I see myself as the dented can. I know that everyone has their problems, so why is there so much fear? I could really use some prayer--am I being completely irrational and unpractical? I think I am, yet how do you get over this fear? I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life--and I need to get over this fear. Any input and prayer would be wonderful! I don't know if any of this made any sense, yet somehow I had to get it all out and I have no one else that would understand...thanks!
It's so hard when looking for Mr. Right and wondering what he will think of you. The story of how I met and married DH truly shows the hand of God. The man for you will not be run off by your having PCOS. He will love YOU, failures and all just as you will love him failures and all. We don't meet and marry perfect people, so we have to remember we don't have to be perfect to meet & marry Mr. Right. I had had a few problems, but didn't yet know I had PCOS when I met my now DH. I had a talk with him when we started dating, just to let him know I didn't know what the future would hold, but it might not be any kids or maybe adoption. DH was wonderful and so cool about accepting me, health problems and all. All the other women with PCOS I know IRL (except 1) are all married. Don't ever consider yourself damaged goods! I will pray that God sends you Mr. Right and that you see yourself as the beautiful gift of God to Mr. Right as he is to you!
Thanks Jashobeam. That really encouraged me--I have spent a lot of time in prayer and I know that God will provide "Mr. Right" when the time is right. There may still be a tad bit of fear, yet I have more of a peace about it and I am confident that everything will work in God's timing! Once again thanks for the encouragment--it really did mean a lot!
Glad to help! I remember those days of wondering who God was preparing for me, or if He was going to call me to be a single person forever and off to some country as a missionary. Once I told God that I was OK with whatever He decided I felt peace about it. I stopped looking pretty much and my now DH was dropped into my life overnight
My story is much like Jasho's as far as I wasn't diagnosed yet but when I met my DH I knew something was wrong as far as female issues because I hadn't had a period in over 2 years ! I told him I didn't know if I would be able to give him children and truthfully I think part of me actually tried to scare him off because I felt guilty, much like the dented can you spoke of above. I do know how you feel though, I remember all too well, jus a couple years ago praying for God to show me who he had handpicked to be my husband.
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Thanks Countrygirl81. It really is encouraging to know that I am not alone with these feelings. I think I sometimes do the same thing--I think about telling guys to just throw them off and get back. It is definitely hard work trying to find Mr. Right--in college it seems like everyone is getting paired off. I am praying though and waiting patiently for God's timing...thanks for the encouragment though...I'm glad I am not alone
Hi,
First off, you are not damaged. I have had PCOS since I was 15 and I'm now 37. I have been married to a wonderful man for 2 years now. We became engaged one month after meeting each other and all he talked about was us having children. I had to explain to him that I may have problems in that area. I was scared that he would leave me but he didn't. Every month that I am not pregnant, I get depressed and my husband tells me that it's ok if we never have children. When you meet the man who God intends for you to marry, nothing will stand in the way of the two of you having a loving relationship. Keep in mind that God has not given us the spirit of fear-perfect love drives out fear and perfect love comes from God. God will direct your path and He will bring Mr. Right into your life at just the right time. Just enjoy life right now and leave the details to God. You're in my prayers.
Julie
hello i also did what you did about tried to scare him off
he is such a good man i thought why he got me i havent been able to concieve for yrs now and and i told him that i might not be able to have kids,,,and actuallly told him to really think about being with me like to scare him and he said that if we didn't have any kids that it was not meant to be i just started crying and said this is not fair to you its because of me i have pcos and don't ovulate but the rest the doc. check was fine ,,,,,,,,today for the first tme i just wanted to give up on god and feel so bad for it ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
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Originally Posted by Countrygirl81
My story is much like Jasho's as far as I wasn't diagnosed yet but when I met my DH I knew something was wrong as far as female issues because I hadn't had a period in over 2 years ! I told him I didn't know if I would be able to give him children and truthfully I think part of me actually tried to scare him off because I felt guilty, much like the dented can you spoke of above. I do know how you feel though, I remember all too well, jus a couple years ago praying for God to show me who he had handpicked to be my husband.
Annarebeckah- Don't let this PCOS thing make you feel that way. I am sure that if you find the right person, he will stick with you no matter what. Besides, you have age on your side. Even though you have PCOS, you are still more fertile than older women. I want to encourage you by saying that I was infertile for 10 years of my marriage and we did one IVF and I now have a beautiful 22 month old daughter. Most women with PCOS do eventually get pregnant, you just may need a specialist's help.
My pray for you is that you will find Mr. Right and that he will love you so much that everything else will be secondary.
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hello i also did what you did about tried to scare him off 
