Does anyone else have the concern that having a daughter will doom the child to have PCOS? I've been so scared about it that I won't even think of trying to have a baby. (That and the pregnancy and childbirth thing just doesn't sound like fun at all.) I guess, if I could be guaranteed a boy, I might consider it, but I wouldn't want a girl. I just don't want to think about another girl forced to live with this.
My mom has PCOS and I believe she miscarried four times before me, one of the babies was six months along when she had him, living. Unfortunately, in 1976, his hopes of having a normal life weren't good. I know that my PCOS is worse than hers. (More symptoms, greater severity.) Hers seemed to come on full force after she had me and I've had it dx since 14. At the same time, she's been pressuring me and DH to have a baby for the last couple of years.
I cant say as if I share your fears or concerns. I can say however, we have the knowledge to over come this. We know so much more info about this syndrome than our mothers did. We can help our daughters battle this and not have to go through the struggles that we have. I know there are many woman on this board who are concerned for their daughters and that is why they are seeking help/treatment early.
Best of luck to you.
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i agree with Tracy, even at 19, im discovering doctors with more knowledge of PCOS than my old ones who didnt believe it existed "it's all in the mind"....yah..right!
i want more than anything to have kids, healthy kids. Girls with PCOS can be healthy as long as they monitor their weight and lifestyle.
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I also agree with Tracy - I know it can be scary to think you will be passing this on to a daughter. But the fact that there is so much awareness of PCOS, and different treatment options is reassuring. Who knows what kind of treatments or even cures they will find in the future! I wouldn't let your fear keep you from having a baby, if that is what you want.
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I know that if I have a daughter, she will more than likely have PCOS since it's hereditary. However, my desire to have a child is greater than the fear of the unknown. And, getting a boy doesn't really guarantee that the child will be problem free. There is the "male form" of PCOS (I forget what it is now), and doesn't guarantee that your GRANDDAUGHTERS from that boy will be without problems. I got my PCOS from my DAD'S side of the family. I think the key is knowing what to look for, knowing early on how to treat it, and knowing how to help your daughter the way we know is needed. I'm not worried at all...I know that if I do have a daughter, I will do everything in my power to get her early help and get to the root of the problem early so she wouldn't have to suffer like I have. Not that I would WANT my child to have PCOS, mind you, I just don't fear it.
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TTC for 5 years...never pregnant.
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I am also concerned about passing on PCOS, so that's why I don't date overweight men, an indicator that they have blood sugar problems of their own.
I look for men who are lean with a full head of hair, because those genetics are less likely to assist in producing a PCOS girl.
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Not to be a smarta$$, but I know plenty of men that are considered "overweight" that don't have a lick of trouble with blood sugar or diabetes. On the other side of the coin, I know quite a few "lean" men who are insulin dependent diabetics. You can't judge a book by the cover, ya know.
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DH Matt ~ 39
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TTC for 5 years...never pregnant.
Hoping for a miracle...
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Not to be a smarta$$, but I know plenty of men that are considered "overweight" that don't have a lick of trouble with blood sugar or diabetes. On the other side of the coin, I know quite a few "lean" men who are insulin dependent diabetics. You can't judge a book by the cover, ya know.
Of course you can judge a book by its cover. When I see young women who are overweight, with cystic acne and hair loss, odds are good that they have PCOS or insulin resistance.
When I see men who are overweight with hair loss, I know that the odds of them having Syndrome X and prostate problems are higher. Many medical problems are indeed visible to the naked eye, if you know what to look for.
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We knew that having DD meant the possibility of passing on PCOS. We watch her diet, have had her tested for IR and will watch her for any symptoms of PCOS. There are different types of PCOS, so not all ladies with PCOS will have all the major problems. PCOS runs in my family, but when I look at my precious DD I'm glad I didn't let that stop us from TTC for her.
I just wanted to say that I am in the a similar boat as you. Although, I think that I am more scared of having tons of miscarriages. Which is the first fear and my second fear would be scared of having a girl. I just pray that it would skip over any female child I may have so she can live a 'normal' life.
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I agree...reading about how many miscarriages others on the board have had really worries me. I would like to have a child, but it seems that it's almost certainly a path to heartbreak. (And not just when they're rebellious teens!)
Well in my opinion there are far WORSE things we can pass on to our children than PCOS. Sure, this disorder is a pain in the butt, however it is not fatal. I mean, there is Cystic Fibrosis for one. And other genetic disorders that have little to nothing to do with genetics, like Spina Bifida, Downs Syndrome, Cerebral Palsy, etc... If my daughter does develop PCOS at least I will be able to help her understand, cope and seek treatments for it. I dont see having PCOS a good reason to not have children cause we are afraid of passing it on. In fact, no matter what my babies have, I would never second guess whether or not I should have had them.
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