I apologise in advance but I just need to have a good old rant. Well here it is I will have to give you all the full story so you get the full effect.
On Sunday had a discussion about getting pregnant with my mother and sister in law. Sister-in-law thinks that there is not way that I will ever get pregnant if I have irregular periods!! (and it was said that loudly). Im not sure and now feel like crap as I understand that it will take longer as you don't know when you are ovulating etc.
Now I have to give you her background, she has one grown up son and remarried, tried to concieve, had 3 failed IVF attempts, gave-up, couldn't afford any more, found out it was because of her husbands sperm count. Obviously she is very upset that they can't have their own children and her husband is totally against adoption. Now I don't know whether shes being bitter and twisted or whether im being a *****. It just seems like everytime pregnancy is mentioned she pulls her face and tries to think of something negative and apparently she has been like this since they were trying to concieve 8 years ago.
Surley you would think she would be happy for her brother trying to get pregnant.
What are your thoughts??
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Well, first off she should check out the mommy board here if she thinks no one with funny periods can ever get pregnant! There are hundred of ladies there! Plus, having irregular periods isn't good contraception... plenty of people have had surprises.
Having said that, it sounds like it is painful for her to discuss fertility - we can't judge how painful. Maybe she "should" be happy for you but some people are unable to be. Perhaps you could find friends and relative with fewer issues to discuss your ttc journey with.
yeah I know I shouldn't discuss these issues when shes there but its hard when my mother in law is desperate for us to get pregnant. Shes always mentioning it and giving tips and advice etc.
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It sounds to me like your sister in law is jealous that you are ttc when its possible that she may not have any more and that's why she is being so negative towards you. I doubt she is trying to be malicious but its going to be hard for her to be happy for you.
Have you tried telling her how you feel???
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We just have to accept that some days we are the flies; somedays we are the windscreen
she is just trying to deal with it in her own way, i wouldn't discuss it any further, you are able to fall pregnant with irregular periods, but let her keep thinking you can't and when you do it will be a 'miracle' and she can no longer bad mouth you.
just a thought
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Hell... the reason I didn't find out I was pregnant till 9 weeks was because I was so so used to skipping periods. After two months and nausea started I got suspicious though. As long as you're ovulating during some of those random cycles, then you should be able to concieve. Sure it'll take a while to do.. but it does even for women with normal cycles... keep on at it... or rather.. keep not trying to prevent it... and in time i'm sure you'll be blessed.
It's sad that the sil is behaving in such a manner... there's really no excuse for such negativity just because you're bitter. I know I used to get upset when the subject of my fertility came up because noone seemed to understand that I was scared I wouldnt concieve. But never would I take someone elses hope from them. *shrug* hmm...
Your SIL needs to deal with her problems... talk to her husband and all that... and not dump on you guys...it's just selfish and cruel.
Anyway. Take care and try not to let her negativity get you down. There's so much living proof that we pcosers can concieve and carry to term! Take that as at least some comfort.
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Shall I let you into a secret you can share with your family?
I'm guessing your periods are just 'irregular'? Ever had one period a year (or every 18 mths?) I did - for years! And....
I've got 5 kids (only one with the help of Clomid and that was only one cycle's worth). At the time I conceived the first (and most of the years that followed) I had one period a year. If lucky. She's talking out of her bottom.
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Of course you can get pregnant with irregular periods. It sounds to me like she's just hurting and grieving for the child(ren) she'll never have. For your sake (and hers) I would try and limit what you say about ttc around her...I know it's hard because it's exciting for you.
I know for me (even though I have my daughter) when people announce their pregnancies and throughout their pregnancies I find it really difficult. It's seems so silly, but it's a natural reaction I suppose.
Good luck with ttc - hope it happens quickly for you.
Pregnancy and irregular periods??? 
