In the process of m/c at 8.5 weeks

TTCcheer4xu · 07-01-2005, 02:49 PM

My husband and I went to the dr. yesterday excited to see the baby's heart beat for the first time and it wasn't there. The dr. said the baby stopped developing after 6 weeks. I now have to wait for a miscarriage. I can't believe it. He said at most it would take 3 weeks and if not by then he will do a D&C. I can't stand waiting for it to happen. I don't plan on doing anything for a while i just want to stay home and not get out of bed unless i have to. i am trying to stay positive and keep in mind that the medication I took worked and i did get pregnant so that is a good thing. I will have to wait a few months before we can start trying again. It was a happy and sad day yesterday. My brothers fiance delivered their baby at the same time i was finding out. Their baby is healthy and i am thankful for that. DOes anyone have experience at this stage and how long it will take to happen and what to expect when it does? The Dr. said cramping, clotting. Is it horribly painful physically, i know it will be emotionally. I am a wreck now just waiting. Did anyone send it away to be tested to see why you m/c?They said it is probably chromosonal, but should i do it anyway?

BeetleGirl · 07-01-2005, 03:20 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss.
I had a simular experience when I miscarried last year.
Weeks went by & I didn't pass the sac, I was given meds to induce contractions and even that didn't work. My RE wasn't kind enough to offer a d&c though I wish it would have been an option.
Finally a month & a half later it was finally declared over but that time in my life was definately one of my most difficult.
I hope things happen quickly for you so you are able to move on & heal.
It can be reassuring to know it happened once & can therefor happen again.
If you need someone to talk to or have any questions please feel free to pm me.

deblynnc · 07-01-2005, 03:30 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there.

My 2nd m/c was similar to yours, except I was a little over 7 weeks and all they saw was a sac, which is what they would expect at around 5 weeks. Once I stopped the progesterone I was on, I m/c about 5 days later. As far as they physical side, it was only a little worse than a heavy period, with some mild cramping and clots. Emotionally.... well, we all know how that is.

I pray that your body can handle this naturally and quickly. You're not alone in this.

{{HUGS}}

Debbie

sugarbug · 07-01-2005, 03:31 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have been exactly where you are, and I know how awful it is. If you ever want to talk- feel free to e-mail/pm me.

Here's what happened to me.... (from my notes)

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Saturday night I had gotten really uncomfortable. I couldnt' go to sleep becuase it hurt to lay on my side, back, and definitely my stomach. I felt a little sick &shaky. When I went to the bathroom there was brown cm when I wiped. When I looked into the toliet there were blood clots, bright red, about a 1/2 dollar in size. That was it... On Sunday, it started again. I spotted some more, but only when I wiped. On Monday I had some really bad cramps and a pressure up high in my uterus- I slept really great though. Tuesday morning I woke up and "finished" the passing of everything in one big gush on my bed. I then had a heavy period. It's now Thurday, and I consider this "normal."

I had to wait one month before TTC again.

(((hugs)))
Bug

saluki_fan · 07-01-2005, 03:43 PM

Hi,
I am so sorry for your loss. The women on this board are great and always lift me up when I'm feeling low.

Something similar happened to me in August. there was a faint HB at 7.5 weeks but the baby measured 2 weeks "small for dates" and then at 10 weeks I started spotting, went to the OB and learned the baby had died shortly after my first u/s. I was given 3 options: wait for a natural m/c, have a D&C, or take a drug called Cytotec, which causes the uterus to cramp and speeds up the natural m/c process. I was too freaked out to take the Cytotec, and after waiting 6 days with nothing happening but more spotting, I opted for the D&C, which was scheduled for 3 days away. The night before the D&C, the bleeding became heavier and the cramps were worse, but I still had the D&C and the doctor confirmed that it had been necessary.

I did not get chromosome testing done because it was my first loss. In retrospect, it may not have been a genetic problem, because after 2 more losses since, I've been diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder. In fact, what happened the first time (faint heartbeat and intrauterine growth retardation) was a classic symptom of antiphospholipid antibody syndrome but my OB either ignored the signs or didn't realize what it meant. I have since changed OBs.

If you ever want to talk/chat or opt for the D&C and have any questions, please feel free to PM me and I'll answer as best as I can. Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Meghan

mellygirl21 · 07-01-2005, 03:46 PM

Last October, I went through a 3 month miscarriage. It was the 2nd one that I have experienced. It was soooo painful, mentally and physically. I was on alot of pain meds, and in bed for a long time. It took FOREVER!! But, everyone is different. Your's could go by really quickly or last longer. I am soooo sorry for your loss. ((((hugs))))). My thoughts are with you and DH!!

SheriKCMO · 07-01-2005, 04:01 PM

I'm so sorry about your baby! It's good that you and DH were together when you found out.

Good luck with your wait... my early loss was earlier than yours and was like a long period (about two weeks).
(((Hugs)))

TTCcheer4xu · 07-01-2005, 04:04 PM

Thank you so much for all of your responses. It is comforting to know that people care and know what it feels like. I wish no one else had to go through this, but since we do it is nice to have each other to talk to. Thanks again.

VivC · 07-01-2005, 04:23 PM

TTC, I'm so sorry. I don't have any experience with early losses, but I know the pain you're going through.

I had a thought - the M/C may have been chromosomal (25% of pregnancies end in M/C). Were you on progesterone supplementation/had your progesterone been checked? A common cause of M/C in cysters is low progesterone.

I hope you have answers soon. I don't think you need to have lab tests done for the first (and I pray the LAST) loss.

Hugs to both you and DH.

nani · 07-01-2005, 04:39 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I still remember vividly the sadness, confusion, and pain I felt after my first MC. I scoured the internet to figure out what was going on, what I should expect. My NP told me that I should expect a "heavier than normal period." It was much more than that.

Here's my experience, if it will be of some help to you... Only read this if you want detailed information though, some of it may be TMI.

After finding out that my pregnancy was not viable, I was told that I had that I could let "nature take its course" and let the MC happen naturally. I chose to do so, my clinic monitored my HCG to make sure it was declining in the expected pattern. The waiting was very painful and I was highly anxious about what would happen, as I'm sure you are now. In about a week, I started to have some spotting of dark brownish (prune juice type) blood and ocassional cramping. Then the next week, exactly 2 weeks after finding out I'd be having a MC, my uterus started expelling its contents. I was not at all prepared for the amount of blood/clots and the pain. In a matter of 2 days, I had three major episodes of cramping with steady red blood and large clots expellings (each one lasting about 1 hour). My mom was with me at the time and told me it seemed just like a mini version of going through labor. I took ibuprofen, but they weren't much help. After two days, I went back to having a regular period. The bleeding took longer to stop than usual. I think it was about 2 weeks from start to finish, but the beginning and ending were very light and not too painful. After the MC happened, I went back to the clinic for a check up to make sure that nothing was left behind in the uterus. This can happen sometimes. I was spared this, thankfully.

It was physically very painful, but we manage somehow when we have to. Many women choose the D&C, which is perfectly fine to do also. It's your choice. If you want to go that route, your health care provider should offer you that alternative. The other option is also to take a drug that can induce the MC, if it's not happening as it should naturally. If you go the natural route, I would recommend asking for some pain meds. I didn't have anything stronger than ibuprofen and I kept thinking when I was going through it, I wish I had asked for some. However we choose to deal with the physical pain, it does end. It is finite. The emotional pain is much much more complicated. And the hormonal rollercoaster can wreak havoc on your emotions also. You have to let yourself mourn, go into hibernation for a few days, if need be, as you are feeling the need to now. Take a few days off from work. But also keep thinking the positive thoughts as you are already doing.

You are in my thoughts. Hugs.

Nani

TracyW2 · 07-01-2005, 04:43 PM

HUGS I am so sorry for your loss!!

~tracy

SweetPea76 · 07-01-2005, 04:49 PM

I am so sorry for your loss.

I had a m/c last year. I didn't know about it until I started spotting at 11 weeks. I went to the ER where an u/s showed that after having a good heartbeat at 7 weeks, my baby stopped developing around 8 weeks. So in my case, it was three weeks from when my baby passed to when I actually miscarried.

I had a natural m/c. I woke up the day after I started spotting with painful stomach cramps. They proceeded to get stronger, and for about 30 mintues I had what basically were contractions. After those 30 minutes, the pain subsided and when I stood up (until this point I was doubled over on the bathroom floor) and went to the toilet I passed everything. I then had what could be called a heavy period for about 8 days.

I chose not to have my baby tested. My doc gave me a specimen cup and told me to save what I could, but when it came down to it, I just couldn't deal with searching through things to look for the grey tissue my doc told me to look for.

Seeing that our losses occurred around the same time, if you have any more questions, please feel free to PM me.

thing1 · 07-01-2005, 08:27 PM

My losses was earlier than yours, all of them btwn 4-6 weeks. Some were more bloody and some more clotty and others crampy. My first one was painful, i felt like I was passing something and my legs shook and cramped. The others have not been so bad. Physically, that is.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, it looks like you too have been trying very hard for a baby. (((hugs)))

Mich831 · 07-01-2005, 10:41 PM

I am SO sorry that you're going through this and for your loss.

I too had a MC at 7w3d. We had just seen a flicker of the heartbeat three days earlier. All along my beta numbers weren't rising like they should have. The night of my MC I felt fine. I just had a huge gush of blood with lots of clots. And then the bleeding tappered off. By the next day it stopped. I went to the RE's office and he did an US and confirmed that the sac was collapsing and I had lost the baby.
He gave me the option to wait and let it happen naturally or do a D&C. It was 5 days before Christmas and I just couldn't handle having the baby still inside me knowing it was no longer alive. So I opted for the D&C. It was over quickly and I didn't have much pain from it at all. Infact I hardly bleed from it.

I had to keep going to have my blood checked to make sure the numbers were going down.

That was the easy part. Emotionally I was a wreck for months. It was and still hard. I still think about my baby everyday.

We're here for you.

Michele

missyanne · 07-01-2005, 11:48 PM

I am very, very sorry for your loss. I lost my first pg at 6w2d, and it was very much like a strong period. I had some pretty severe cramping, and they gave me some vicodin...it knocked me out, which thankfully took some of the pain away.

I hope you get through this quickly, as I know it is not easy. The women on this board are wonderful, wonderful people.