jekaiser

I was just wondering how people keep their faith in God (or other higher power) and religion while having a hard time TTC. Any advice would be helpful. I am not a super religious person but I do belong to a church (haven't gone in a while though), have faith and pray.

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Jen & Scott
Avani Mae - 11/15/08
7lbs 3oz, 20 1/2 inches

mtm71401

I guess everyone has their own theory on this. I struggled with this very much after my losses. I do not believe that God has his hand in all we do(I believe he could but that he chooses to let life happen). If he did, and bad things never happened then EVERYONE would follow him (faith no longer needed) just to make sure nothing bad ever happens. I look at him as a Father. He hates it when bad things happen, cries with me, and holds me close. But the bad things sometimes just have to happen.

Coastal

I just gave up all of my fears and frustrations to God and one night, instead of begging Him to let me get pg, asked him to please give us a child when He knew it was our time.

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mom2jamie

I did the same as Coastal... nothing yet, but still keeping the faith

TTCMona

I'm a Christian and the Lord is my personal Savior so when this happend its been a struggle to feel ok with it. I believe the Lord does have a hand in everything. This world is crazy- we are not puppets on God's strings... he can't make you love Him or make you follow His plans... so in saying that its just praying for God's will for my life..... I am having the hardest time in my life right now but I know that what the Lord has planned for my life is better than I could have ever imagined for myself... the fact that I want a baby...the Lord knows it and knows the perfect time for the baby to come. I know its hard.... it is...but the Lord would never give you anything you coudn't handle.... My days are tough at times.... my 15 year old sister got pregnant... wasn't planned at all...and I've asked myself why????? And the reason is that she wasn't following what the Lord wanted for her life... but in that hard situation the Lord will bring good. I on the other hand am a married woman who is ready and willing to be a mommy but since I trust the Lords plans...He is gonna give me a baby on His time...not mine.... I will pray for all you ladies on this site... I know its hard... mona

sarahgmac

This is something I have struggled with. I believe in God, but I am not sure how much faith I have anymore.

Wow, I cannot believe I wrote that.

I am sick of hearing when God wants you to have a baby you will. I just want to scream WHY! What have I done (or anyone in the same position) to deserve this. I know people too young who have gotten pregnant, someone who abused there baby and abadoned another. I am a good mother and it is just not fair. And I just am having the hardest time believing that a merciful, loving God would do this.

I have been through a lot of things in my life. I just lost my 49 year old mother to lung cancer in Nov. I just don't understand. I know what your responses will be....when God feels it is right he will give you a baby, God already gave you two miracles, God has a plan, just give it to God....I just feel like if this is God's plan for me, then how can I give him my whole heart and soul. I am hurting so much and for what? To make me stronger, to make me more humble... I just don't know.

Sorry, I am just having a lot of problems with my faith right now and I needed somewhere to talk about it.