Hi Guys...I have been married just over a year now and was diagnosed with PCOS only last year. My husband loves me with all his heart and ofcourse he wants kids. But so do I. He wants kids only with me and if God doesnt allow it, we will adopt or find another solution. We are ttc with no luck, and are starting on more and more meds. Thats the draw of the cards we have to accept. What we do however is talk about it so he understands what is happening and take him along to the Gynie appointments. Remember that it takes two to tango. They just want to be involved and keep in control - thats all. If a man leaves you because you 'might have difficulties' having children - he doesnt deserve you. Fullstop! Remember that plenty of ladies have children PCOS or not.
everybody keeps talking about all the things you can do but none of the doctors i have gone to have had anything to say except that i cant have kids and should be glad that i am still thin? what is ther i can do and what can i do to get preg
my fiance and i talk about it a lot. every time it comes out i cry my eyes out because i get so scared that he is going to leave me because of the future he wants. he always reassures me that he will always love me no matter what happens. i dont think i show enough appreciation to him for the support hes shown me throughout all this. im fully greatful for all the things he does for me.
everybody keeps talking about all the things you can do but none of the doctors i have gone to have had anything to say except that i cant have kids and should be glad that i am still thin? what is ther i can do and what can i do to get preg
Honestly, some Drs just shouldn't have licenses.
PLENTY of women with PCOS conceive naturally and heaps more manage to with either natural or medical interventions. There are many, many things you can do to increase your fertility.
How long have you been TTC?
Do you chart your body temperature on waking before rising to ascertain when you are going to ovulate?
May I ask what your BMR is? Are you within a healthy weight range or on the very skinny side? That can be just as bad for your fertility. Are you overly stressed? Again that really kills your ability to conceive. Do you eat regular meals (don't skip too many)?
What have you done/taken so far in order to increase your fertility (if anything)?
What about your husband? Has he had a sperm analysis done?
For your own health, you need to know what your blood sugar and insulin levels are - that will be a good indicator for which direction you need to go in as regards treatment, natural or medical. What symptoms do you have?
If you let us know a bit more about what you are trying to achieve, maybe we can help you.
well we really havent been ttc but we have been having unprotected sex for about 18 months now with the idea that if it happends it happends. everytime i take a test my heart breaks when i see the single line. im not sure what my bmi is i know i am in the healthy range though. I am a stay at home non mom right now and i sleep alot but i do eat healthy i make a nice lunch and dinner fopr my man and i eat breakfast most days. every time i go to the doctor they all seem to think i am prego.... and i have gone to a few the last couple months... i have had my chest swell a whole cup size i get sick to my stomach... i have most of the symptoms of prego but never am. i am pretty sure he has a good sperm count cause he has had 3 preg with his ex however they chose not to keep them. some time i wish he had because i would have a ready made family.
I guess i just want to know what kinds of medications i can be on so that this doesnt hurt my fertility any further... should i be on bc untill we decide that we are activly trying or does it matter?
thanks
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Originally Posted by belrose
Honestly, some Drs just shouldn't have licenses.
PLENTY of women with PCOS conceive naturally and heaps more manage to with either natural or medical interventions. There are many, many things you can do to increase your fertility.
How long have you been TTC?
Do you chart your body temperature on waking before rising to ascertain when you are going to ovulate?
May I ask what your BMR is? Are you within a healthy weight range or on the very skinny side? That can be just as bad for your fertility. Are you overly stressed? Again that really kills your ability to conceive. Do you eat regular meals (don't skip too many)?
What have you done/taken so far in order to increase your fertility (if anything)?
What about your husband? Has he had a sperm analysis done?
For your own health, you need to know what your blood sugar and insulin levels are - that will be a good indicator for which direction you need to go in as regards treatment, natural or medical. What symptoms do you have?
If you let us know a bit more about what you are trying to achieve, maybe we can help you.
As this is a bit off topic for the current thread, I've started you a new one all to yourself so we can help you get a handle on all this without being off-topic (apparently a bad sin on these forum thingies )
My husband has been very supportive with finding out I have PCOS. The main symptom I have is the weight gain and I have been struggling for years with doctors trying to figure out what it was. I was just diagnosed about amonth ago and I am 27. I had put on about 80lbs in the 5 years i have been with my hubby. He is always asking questions about it and is very eager to learn what I am going through and does whatever he can to help. As for the having kids, we do plan on it, but aren't ready yet, so for the time being, not being able is ok, and my gynocologist has also told me that if the metformin doesn't work for that, there is always fertility drugs and if thats the case, we may be blessed with more then one!
My BF is totally fine with all the symptoms of PCOS (he calls me his chimpy ).
He is aware that we might have to wait longer than others when we ttc but he has said he doesn't mind how long it takes.
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This is mak'a DBF using her account to answer this post. Finding out ashe has PCOS is just like findind out any other flaw a person has and if the bf or husband really loves you they accept it AND are supportive. Sure there is shallow men out there only interested in looks and such but not all of us are. Mak is beutiful in my eyes and no matter what she has I will always be by her side and support her in anything and everything
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My ex was supportive but it drove him insane secretly everytime skin issues, weight gain, or hair came up.. I could tell. The bottom line is, men like confident women. I know incredibly curvy women that have men chasing them because they exude confidence and sexuality despite their heavy figures. It's not about being perfect, it's about being happy. We're all attracted to happy people.
Whether your man tells you it doesn't upset him or not, if you're overwhelmed with all of it, eventually he will be too. My advice is to toughen up, and don't be an idiot. If someone loves you or has feelings for you, they're not going to respond with, "Yes it's annoying and honestly it's a little gross" everytime you complain. They'll always sugar coat it, act like it's no big deal when you chirp about your problems and try and make you feel better about yourself. YOU have to make yourself happy, and if you're happy, more than likely PCOS will never be an issue. It's just part of your life, just as his problems are part of his. It's all in how you deal with adversity.
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reversethecurse.....you just summed up what i was going to say about my boyfriend hehe!!....the other day i was having my usual moan bout my weight,hairy face etc and he just came out with...."you know the only thing i dont like about you honey is your lack of self confidence,i hate the way you put your self down etc,you werent like this when we 1st met!" and true enough i was the complete opposite!i was so full of confidence it was coming out of my ears..but as the years have past the hair is getting worse and so is the weight.i want to be the girl i used to be but these days i find it hard......but when i am at a low point i know myboyfriend is always there for me...and that itself makes me feel lucky ..and happy xx
Hi there! I'm a female with PCOS... and I must say that although it hasn't affected me weight wise as I've gotten older... (I'm very small actually) I have excess hair on my body. I remember growing it far beyond my pubic region when I was very young and I was so humiliated I couldn't bare to shower without underwear on. (Even though it was beyond the underwear for sure! I was just very very conscious of my body.) It took me a long time to want to have a guy touch me sexually without shaving.... infact I wasn't able to confront that until I was 23 with my Ex. My ex was very supportive, infact it seemed not to bother him at all.... he was just glad to be sexual with me. Other men have asked why I have so much hair on my arms but for the most part, the men I've dated have thought some of the hair on my body was cute... such as my belly. There was this guy I dated last year who told me I should shave everything all the time and I found it kinda rude of him...
Most guys do care about looks.... yes... but if you keep the hair well kept and clean and shave when you can... than I don't think it's an issue.
I am concerned however... because my hair seems to only be getting worse. It's spreading. I've gotten electrolosis on my face a bit and on my nipples, but I haven't the money to confront all the other hair that I don't like! Jeeeez
reversethecurse.....you just summed up what i was going to say about my boyfriend hehe!!....the other day i was having my usual moan bout my weight,hairy face etc and he just came out with...."you know the only thing i dont like about you honey is your lack of self confidence,i hate the way you put your self down etc xx
I agree with this based on my experience with men... men really just like a girl that is confident about herself... that in itself is sexy... and it's something I'm working on. I am still very self conscious about my excess hair though...it torments me...blah
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