I agree with this based on my experience with men... men really just like a girl that is confident about herself... that in itself is sexy... and it's something I'm working on. I am still very self conscious about my excess hair though...it torments me...blah
Well, being a man I can agree with this....I hate it when my baby puts herself down....It about kills me every time, because I know she is better than that....
I went through my teenage years wondering if i would ever find someone to date or even marry. I had a bf and was dating him for a while and then I told him bout my pcos and explained the hirsutism part and well...he never talked to me agian after that then I met my now husband. I met him off the internet lol we met and started dating immidatly a few days after meeting him i sent him an email explaining what i had and he didnt care he loved me for me i then moved in with him a few mnths later and got engaged and within that year we got married. He even helps me find out more information about pcos and ways to help make it better. There are some pretty great guys out there and fortunalty i found one it does suck to know that not all guys will take you for you but there are guys out there who will. I was nervous though that he may not stay with me bc of this so thats why i emailed him bc i couldnt look him in the eyes and tell him what i had bc i didnt want to be judged right then and there but im glad things went the way they did bc after that we actaully did talk bout it and he did research on it so he could fully understand it more;.
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Well, being a man I can agree with this....I hate it when my baby puts herself down....It about kills me every time, because I know she is better than that....
Thanks, it's good to know there are lots of good guys out there. As many atleast as the not so good ones.
My bf is supportive too. I was complaining all the time about my weight and not being able to loose a few. He bought me a stationary bike for christmas to make me feel better. We even tried the low carb diet together. He lost a lb or 2. He liked it until he had problems going to the bathroom. He tells me all the time that I dont need to loose any weight and he loves me for who I am.
My fiance is very supportive, I do not have excessive hair growth but I did weigh around 120lbs when I met him and now I fluctuate around 175. I don't think its the way i look that he has the most trouble with, its the question of infertility. When I told him I had been diagnosed with pcos he looked confused and when i explained what it is he looked concerned.. Since then he has become really supportive of my irritability and extremely painful cramps when AF finally does arrive.
My BF knows about it and doesn't care one bit. I don't have any extreme symptoms except a high libido, a little neck hair, and moodiness at period time (he loves the first one). He is really, really good about dealing with my mood swings, especially when my anger is directed at him. He understands that my hormones are out of whack and I can't control it always. We are long distance for now, so that also heightens my emotions. My weight is actually going down thanks to exercise and diet, but he thinks I look sexy how I am.
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I feel really lame for saying all of these superficial things, but I have to let them out somehow lol
I'm 19, never had a bf or been on a date...I'm very self-conscious about my weight, some excess hair and my dark patches of skin. I've been working on my self-esteem but still, these things just haunt me everyday.
I feel like I'll never find anyone that will look at me and see someone who is capable of beauty. I feel like I'll be alone forever at this rate... :\
Has anyone ever felt like this, and overcame it? if so, any advice?
Should I just try and embrace myself (easier said than done), and whoever doesn't like it can shove it? lol
Who knows what goes on in the deep darkness of the mind of men?
I don't know how men think on this subject. Because who really knows what goes on in thier minds? BUT what I can say is how my hubby treats me. Through all of my miscarriages he was super supportive. Rubbing my back, taking me to appointments, letting me cry on his shoulders... But then after the effects of PCOS became apparent in looks (huge weight can and now some extra hair) I try to manage it. I bleach and pluck, because I want to look good for him, he tells me I'm beautiful. Also I am trying to lose weight and he is super supportive. We take walks, go to the gym together, and both watch what we eat. So my view is do what you can to help yourself. Don't give up on your looks, apply makeup, bleach, wax, keep in style! But even with those efforts if your husband or bf can't see past your physical signs of pcos, than true love is lacking.
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how did you react when your female partner told you about PCOS? how do you deal with the issues that she has to go through? i.e. the extra hair?
Okay, long post coming up:
My wife and I got married when she was 27...I was 25. After we got married, she gained weight (went from 120 to 160) over the next 5 years or so, and we started trying to get pregnant when she was 31, and for the next three years, it never happened.
After fighting with the insurance companies for years, they finally sent us to a fertility specialist. At the first meeting, he diagnosed my wife with PCOS. He did an ultrasound of her ovaries, explained everything, and it all clicked in and made sense.
We talked about it that night extensively, and prepped for the procedures to make sure everything was okay, and to have a dye test to make sure her tubes were clear. In talking things out, everything made sense.
I married my wife for better or for worse, and the weight gain, etc., isn't her fault...she's doing the best she can to deal with everything and improve her health. I'd hope that she'd stand by me if I had a medical condition...that's how I try to look at it. We take lots of walks, we talk, we talk, and we talk more...that's how we deal with it.
Hang in there...
P.S. When we went to our meeting with the fertility specialist, we were already pregnant...go figure. Our beautiful daughter turned 1 last week.
My BF knows about it and doesn't care one bit. I don't have any extreme symptoms except a high libido, a little neck hair, and moodiness at period time (he loves the first one). He is really, really good about dealing with my mood swings, especially when my anger is directed at him. He understands that my hormones are out of whack and I can't control it always. We are long distance for now, so that also heightens my emotions. My weight is actually going down thanks to exercise and diet, but he thinks I look sexy how I am.
That's probably the hardest one to take...the mood swings. When my wife bites my head off for something, I have to understand that it's most likely hormones, and I have to make sure I don't take it personally.
That's probably the hardest one to take...the mood swings. When my wife bites my head off for something, I have to understand that it's most likely hormones, and I have to make sure I don't take it personally.
Very true....I am a "hot head" I kinda get mad and get my feelings hurt when I get my head "bit off", but I just have to know that she loves me and that it is probably just the hormones that are talking....
it does suck to know that not all guys will take you for you but there are guys out there who will. I was nervous though that he may not stay with me bc of this so thats why i emailed him bc i couldnt look him in the eyes and tell him what i had bc i didnt want to be judged right then and there but im glad things went the way they did bc after that we actaully did talk bout it and he did research on it so he could fully understand it more;.
). He is really, really good about dealing with my mood swings, especially when my anger is directed at him. He understands that my hormones are out of whack and I can't control it always. We are long distance for now, so that also heightens my emotions. My weight is actually going down thanks to exercise and diet, but he thinks I look sexy how I am.
