I am not a rainbowed sister. I just found out in this past week that a friend of mine from work is(known her for 2 years). I have a ton of questions to ask her out of curiosity. Is there an easy way to ask them without seeming rude or hurting her feelings.
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I have no problem with questions. Me personally. I would just make it very clear that you are ok with it. And that you are just curious. If she is the type of person that is typically open then i would think she wouldn't have a problem with it. Use your best judgement and don't ask the ever dreaded question though. "Do you find me attractive?" that is the one question i can't tolerate. I don't want to say yes or no for my reasons. Know what i mean. Love Holly
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I'm also ok with questions. Actually I get the weirdest stuff from my friends.. its all good I have nothing to hide. Just ask your friend if she would be ok answering yours. Some people don't mind it, but some people do simply because some of the questions tend to get personal.
If she doesn't mind then don't run around the bush with it. Just be straight to the point, ask straight out. I hate playing guessing games because people are too shy to ask. And I agree, stay away from the "do you find me attractive?" and stay clear of the assumption that lesbians are attracted to ALL women lol .. it gets annoying at times. heh.
Good luck to you! Hey.. if anything, feel free to ask questions here. I'm sure some of us will have answers for you
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i agree i don't mind answering questions either its actually quite funny the things that we get asked from time to time i used to get asked a lot of things in high school from kids that just wanted to know more about us and the things they ask had me either laughing or turning beat red. and please feel free to ask anything here i know i for one would answer anything the best way i can for you.
That's what you need to do is ask questions...I know it took me a while too but my friend (a guy) has become my BEST friend and you know what they are the best friends you could ever have!!! I go to "their" bars and party with "them" but you know they are human like us and they are no different as people "think" they are. I have learned all that over the years but there are people out there that don't have an open mind and that sometimes angers me. But I can't change anyone!! That too I have learned. Now a question for you what kind of question did you have for a Rainbowed "person"?
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I think questions - in general - can be helpful and a good starting place. I only get annoyed when
1) People ask me questions about "gays" or "lesbians" when I am just one. I can only speak for myself and my friends who identify as gay or lesbian. There is amazing diversity of thought and ways of life in the lesbian community just as there are in the straight world. or
2) Ask me to justify who I am. I will not do that. I am who I am and if you don't get it or want some religious justification then this is what YOU need and not me. I'm not the one to give it to you.
3) or ask questions b/c they want to gossip. A "friend" did this to me a few years ago and I was shocked!
So, if you are simply asking your friend because there are things you'd like to know more about to understand her better etc. - which seems to be the case - then I think you should just ask if its okay to ask.
Best of luck
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If you just wanna know, it's usually okay to just ask. But I agree, ask if it's alright if you ask first. I personally haven't been asked, but I'm pretty open and many of my friends also identify as bi, so I'm pretty lucky. If you wanna know, and you friend doesn't wanna talk about it, then ask someone else, like someone on here!
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.. it gets annoying at times. heh.
Now a question for you what kind of question did you have for a Rainbowed "person"?
