Question for Thin Cysters???

Piscesmomma97 · 10-02-2003, 07:47 AM

My ILs are all very obese. I have PCOS with borderline diabetes, and I am thin. I have been marathon running for 10 years and running in general for 15. The thing that's bothering me, is my ILs make fun of me being thin. They call me anorexic, they make jabs at how much weight I have gained during this pregnancy-- either I'm huge, or I have not gained enough. My MIL even jabbed at me, because I gained weight evenly throughout my pregnancy, and my SIL lost weight-- she's 400+ lbs. They also make fun of the fact I have PCOS and they are fat and don't. Am I right being bothered by this?

Soncee · 10-02-2003, 12:52 PM

Does the word "JEALOUSY" ring a bell? Don't react - it's what they want!!

Son

Joanne cira 1973 · 10-03-2003, 07:52 PM

My words to describe them is "Intelligence Deficient!"

eija.cait · 10-05-2003, 06:59 PM

I can definitely see why you would be bothered by this.

I'm no marathon runner, so probably not as thin as you are, but I am not overweight at all and within a couple pounds of the "ideal" for my height... I hatecomments about my weight, though.

It does sound like your inlaws are jealous, but that doesn't make it right for them to keep up with this issue. Maybe you should tell them how much it bothers you?

Eija

ironsweetleaf · 10-09-2003, 11:04 AM

it doesn't matter if you are light as a feather or weigh 2 tons . . . NO ONE will ever be satisfied with it. the only person you can satisfy is yourself. if you're happy with the way you look, then that's all that matters.

Perpetua · 10-13-2003, 03:27 AM

Unfortunetly people who feel intimidated & self concious of others try to make fun of people who they wish they could be like. My MIL has made several comments to me about my having small breasts b/c she has plenty but she is overweight & all her sons married tall thin women & I know it has made her feel badly. I try to simply love her for her other qualities & understand that she says it because she is jealous & show her that I love her & that it isn't about how little or much you weigh or how big of busted you are that matters.

zelda · 10-13-2003, 06:26 PM

jealousy!

you're right to be bothered about it. nobody should make fun of your weight, regardless of whether you're 100 or 400 pounds. and why do they make fun of your pcos? they're just trying to bring you down. don't let them.

krsball · 10-16-2003, 03:59 AM

Where is your hubby when these things are said? Have you mentioned it to him before? I think he should address them being disrespectful and hurtful to you rather than you trying.

I'm sorry your in-laws are awful. Do you live near them? Have you tried limiting your time with them?

I am thank God every day that my in-laws are far far away.

Piscesmomma97 · 10-16-2003, 08:21 AM

It's funny, because they always say these things when he is not around and when I approach him about it, he confronts them and they deny it. Another example was the pregnancy, my MIL swore I was pregnant while I was home for a visit. I went to a shower and all the people present at this shower believed I was pregnant. Well, when I announced the pregnancy, they told me they just knew I was pregnant at this shower-- well I couldn't have been pregnant. I was on Clomid and having my period. Anyway, they will not believe me, even though I have the u/s pictures. They actually think I am lying about when I got pregnant. I told DH about this insistance, and when he confronted his mom-- she said I was making it up. The problem is when I was younger and first dating DH (I started dating him in High School), I wanted to impress him so much that I would tell stories and exagerrate things, well he told his mom that, so now she thinks all she has to do is tell him that it is another one of my "stories", and he believes her. The only mistake she made is she told my mom that she thought I was pregnant when I was at this shower. My mom said, then it isn't your son's child if she was.