ok my follow up is wednesday. i hope we have test results back then from baby. as someone who has never had a loss before this one what questions do i need to be sure to ask beyond why? i don't know what answers will be there waiting or not and i want to get the most out of that visit as possible so i am going to take questions written down as i know it will be emotional and i wont be thinking quite right.
also what are the statistics on a normal couple having a loss and a PCOS couple having a loss, so that if we are given statistics for some reason we have something to compare it to.
thanks for your help
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I don't know about the loss statistics beyond the first trimester. I just know that the numbers are higher.
As far as questions, ask if they know why it happened. Ask them what the odds are of it happening again. Ask them how to prevent it from happening again.
You probably won't get all of your questions answered this time. Once you find out why the baby died (it's so awful to have to type that), do LOTS of research on the condition that caused it. You'll end up with a lot more questions after you've educated yourself, so schedule another appointment then.
Although statistics can vary slightly from one source to the next, here is a general account (based primarily on information provided by the March of Dimes) of the frequency of miscarriages in the United States:
There are about 4.4 million confirmed pregnancies in the U.S. every year.
900,000 to 1 million of those end in pregnancy losses EVERY year.
More than 500,000 pregnancies each year end in miscarriage (occurring during the first 20 weeks).
Approximately 26,000 end in stillbirth (considered stillbirth after 20 weeks)
Approximately 19,000 end in infant death during the first month.
Approximately 39,000 end in infant death during the first year.
Approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage; some estimates are as high as 1 in 3. If you include loss that occurs before a positive pregnancy test, some estimate that 40% of all conceptions result in loss.
Approximately 75% of all miscarriages occur in the first trimester.
An estimated 80% of all miscarriages are single miscarriages. The vast majority of women suffering one miscarriage can expect to have a normal pregnancy next time.
An estimated 19% of the adult population has experienced the death of a child (this includes miscarriages through adult-aged children).
I would ask your Dr. to test you and your DH for anything possible. After my second loss my Dr. did a bunch of blood tests. Unfortunately in my case or fortunately, depending on how you want to look at it, everything came back "normal". Therefore, they have no reason for my two losses. I even took those result to another RE to get a second opinion. I would suggest doing whatever research possible in regards to reasons for second trimester losses and ask the DR. if the reasons you know about could have happened in your case. I hope they can find a cause for you. I wish they had for me. Good luck, knowledge is power!
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Also ask him to copy the report from the pathologist, I was told after my first m-c that the likely hood of it happening was too small to discuss....maybe we should have cause it did happen again. Might be a good idea when you leave to make another appointment (that you can cancel if you need too) to follow up when all the information has diagested.
(Huggs) I hated these appointments...it just seemed so final
Bec
If you aren't satisfied with your doctor's analysis of the situation, please go to a doctor who handles a lot of high risk patients and does preventative cerclages and get that person's opinion. Most OB's don't see enough of these cases to think that you will have the same problem again. You would at least be able to rule out incompetent cervix if you were to talk to someone who deals with it daily, but looking around here, I'd say it's likely to be involved. I wish we had stats on this, because it is an epidemic in this place.
We'll be with you in spirit at the appointment. Don't forget you can ask to wait somewhere besides the preggo-infested waiting room!
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questions to ask and statistics 
I wish we had stats on this, because it is an epidemic in this place. 
