Questions While Waiting to Miscarry

Ber22 · 07-30-2003, 01:23 AM

I found out I was pregnant on July 18 (beta was 20), but is rising very slowly (only 87 today). I am feeling miserable and nothing anybody says helps. For others who have had m/c about this time, what should I expect? My nurse said it wouldn't be much worse than my period??? How long does it take when beta starts to drop before actual m/c?
Thanks for your support. Wishing every one peace and healing.
Amber

NEZA · 07-30-2003, 03:08 AM

I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I went through similar when the egg we fertilized was too late in the cycle to be viable. My experience was like a heavy period without even any abnormal cramping. Many women who are not as aware of their fertility lose a PG so early in the going and to them it is unremarkable.

I tried hard to look at it as a fresh starting place. Also I didn't want to go through my first PG experience, which was keeping me "pregnant" with a progesterone when my blighted ovum had expired 6 weeks previous. I had a lot of hope wrapped up in that little creation by that time.

Here's wishing you better success and baby dust in the near future!!

ChristineInMO · 07-30-2003, 09:32 AM

My experience with all of my miscarriages have been different. The ones that "took care of themselves" were like a heavy period, sometimes with cramping and sometimes without cramping. I can relate to how tough it is to wait for something to happen. I know it sounds kinda cliche-ish, but hang in there.

BelleMere · 07-30-2003, 02:07 PM

No one seems to have any good answers - I am a bit further along than you (10 wks) and my beta went from 3300 down to 2500 or so in two days last week. The goal, I gather, is for it to go back to normal . . . hang in there. My doctor said it would be like a bad period but that if I couldn't take it, go to the ER (how's that for reassuring?)

Ber22 · 07-30-2003, 05:45 PM

Thanks for sharing your experiences. The waiting just sucks--there is really no other way to say it.
I am just going to take it day by day and try to find the positives. It was good news I ovulated and it got fertilized. Plus I think this experience will help me be a better mom when that day comes.
Thanks for the support. Wishing you all well.
Amber

KensRosie · 08-01-2003, 12:40 PM

One of you had mentioned that you had been on progesterone and that it "kept" you pregnant for six weeks with a blighted ovum. I am waiting in agony for my next beta, which was taken yesterday, and so far has been awesome...but the sonogram they took yesterday showed an egg sac, etc., but no heartbeat. I am supposedly 8 weeks, though I know that that puts you at an actual 6 weeks, and I also know that I usually ovulate late. But I'm not having much hope this morning that it's going to be ok. I am on high dosages of progesterone, and am having all the normal pregnancy symptoms. I hope that has not hurt my baby, and I pray that I'm not as far along as they thought, and that this is all a bad dream. I'm sick that I have the whole weekend to go through (and two family reunions) before I know about the beta. I'm praying for everybody who might be grieving right now, and preparing my heart for the worst.
Rose

Ber22 · 08-07-2003, 12:20 AM

Well, the waiting is over as the m/c started on Monday. Besides the cramping, it hasn't been too bad. I am very lucky to have a very supportive husband, family, and friends.

BelleMere-How are things for you?

Rose-How did your beta turn out. Hope you got through the busy weekend ok. I think all we can do is take things a day at a time.

Amber

BelleMere · 08-08-2003, 04:56 PM

I'm glad you are doing well - hang in there. My beta continues to go down and my pg symptoms are gone - so actually, despite what's going on, I feel, physically, better than I have in months. I've been having something like a period for a week but based on the u/s yesterday the placental sack is still there - so there is more to come. The doc gave me antibiotics and a scrip for painkillers and said if I don't get it done in a week I will have to have a d&c. I am rooting for my body tho - go body! go body!

KensRosie · 08-09-2003, 09:12 PM

Thank you for your concern for me...my beta levels were down this week and after another sonogram they decided that my baby died at 6-7 weeks, although I'm supposed to be 9 weeks. I have been asked over and over if I want a d&c, but I am not doing that unless it is absolutely necessary. I had a friend who went through this at 14 weeks, they told her the baby had been dead for 2 weeks...she went immediately for the d&C...and when the baby came out it was pink and perfect, it looked like it was still alive. She had lost two other babies, and the appearance of those was nothing like that. She honestly feels like her baby was killed by the d&c. Not to scare anybody, it's just that we all need to be very careful and keep ourselves informed and in charge of our own decisions. Doctors are not God, and they make mistakes. I have another friend who was told the same stuff, and she refused the procedure and waited. ...after all was said and done, she lost a baby, but there was a twin in there that lived through the miscarriage of the other baby, and he's running around now, making all those little boy noises!
It is so grievous to lose a baby, and I have never lost one before (I am so blessed to already have four children)...but we all wanted this baby so bad that it is hard to explain to anybody. We are waiting, and that is incredibly awful. I'll be having another sonogram on Tuesday if nothing is happening, and it would be an absolute miracle if somehow a baby is alive in there. But I've seen miraculous things and know that God is going to take care of us, no matter what. If my baby is dead, thank God it's already in heaven, looking down at me and wondering what Mom is so distressed for.