So tonight has not been a good one, dh and I found out my oldest sister is getting married, which is a horrible thing. Her fiance is a drug dealer with a few kids and he and sis have a kid together. He has no job, (sis pays his child support for his kids)she works full time and has to put there son in daycare (he does nothing all day but won't care for their child). My sister apparently made the comment to my other sister that she would love to have me in the wedding however, she doesn't want "fat" people in the wedding or ugly people with hair on their face. This really hurts especially given her situation and that she knows of my health issues. My other sister was no help at all, and my mom told me that when my other sister got married (I was not in her wedding either) that she told her (meaning my mom) that she loved me but didn't want wedding pics of ugly people (in fact there is only one pic of me in all 2000 wedding pics of hers and it was only because my parents insisted that I be in the family pic). And as if that wasn't bad enough, dh's older sister called a few moments ago and announced she is getting married for the third time (she's 35). Dh's sister and I don't get along at all, she actually tried to ruin our wedding, while dh and she were talking she asked how ttc is going and he said we may actually be close this month and she actually hopes we aren't because we are too young and immature and can't handle a baby (i'll be 25 on Tuesday and dh is 27) all dh could think to say was well if that's your opinion keep it too yourself. So tonight i've been attacked and ridiculed for my appearance and because I can't conceive on demand...geeez...sorry for the rant guys just had to get this off my chest.
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Wow!! I'm sorry to read that your sisters could be so shallow and heartless, regardless of your appearance(which Im sure beautiful) thats just pure evil! I could imagine how much this hurt you, I would be devastated probably cutting my sisters off completely. My prayers will be with you if you attend the wedding hun!
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Oh my gosh! Incredible, and don't worry, I bet so many of us here have your back!!!
That sis needs to back off and of course you are mature enough... and just what is with bridezillas.
Mean part of me would try to find some truly ugly pics to send around... if any exist... clearly she can't see the beauty that you are that I'm sure so many others can see without even trying!
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wow, you have a very inconsiderate family. It sounds as though their negativity is not helping your ttc ability. Perhaps distance yourself for a while. Just realize its their loss, and that you wouldn't change what you have for what they are getting.
Karma is a great thing to watch sometimes
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im sorry that you are going through this,why do some family members think that they have the right to treat you this way.i wouldnt even want to speak to them let alone attend their wedding.
people can be cruel sometimes,im sure all of the ladies on here will give you support.
all of this upset will not be helping you with ttc.
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OH MY GOSH. I am SO SO SO SO sorry that this happened to you. I don't mean to offend as they are your family - but that has to be the meanest, most SELFISH, inconsiderate, nasty thing a family member can do to another. If it were me I wouldn't go to her wedding and tell her that she's lost the PRIVILEGE of having you there. My husband's family are a bunch of selfish jerks and we actually have had to cut all contact with all of them but his little sister...I hate how some families think they can treat you like garbage and you have to "just get over it" just because they are family.
I hate hearing about the "you're so young" thing. I am also 25 (will be 26 in December) and people have asked me "why the hell I want to have a baby since I'm just a kid" (even now that I'm pregnant - talk about inappropriate). It REALLY pisses me off. My husband is 28, we've been married for 2 years, together 10 years in total, own our own house, own 2 cars, and both have steady, well-paying jobs. I didn't realize there was some magic number that makes it "OK" to have a baby?? It's not like I'm 19 years old, not married and living on welfare. And I love how these comments often come from people whose lives are in a shambles anyway (i.e. your sister-in-law - married THREE times and she's criticizing you???)
Sorry - I guess my response to your rant turned into a rant of my own...I just want to let you know you aren't alone and you have people here who would never, ever say such horrible things to you.
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I can't believe how rude and insensitive people can be. I am so very sorry that your family members can not be more supportive and understanding. You know you can rant on here as much as you and want and as often as you like. Dealing with PCOS can be such a difficult battle but we can all relate to ups and downs. We are all here to support you and share our experiences! Stay strong and positive, don't let the negative peolpe bring you down To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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Holy cow. Sorry you had to hear such hateful comments! It seems like it may be a blessing in disguise, though, to NOT participate in your sister's wedding to a drug dealer! I'm glad your DH stood up to his sister and defended you.
How AWFUL... They are absolutely hideous inside. They are the ugly people, ugh.
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Thank you all so very much, dh and I both are sick that our own family can't love us through this and understand that no one with pcos has done anything wrong, it's just something that we all deal with the best we can. We both have decided to keep our distance, and not mention our situation to them or discuss anything we are feeling with them, it's said we can't share with some of our family, but in the long run it will be easier not to have the hateful comments. Dh was joking around about how we should just tell them we decided that we don't want kids(ie let them think we have given up lol) and that way when we do get pg it'll be a huge surprise for everyone and we won't have to deal with anyone's "crap" (sorry I couldn't think of a better word to use). Tomorrow night we are having a family dinner for my bday and i'm hoping that my sisters don't show so we can have a happy night celebrating my bday.
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Oh good I hope the sisters don't show for the bday dinner too!!! We decided to tell my husbands family we aren't having kids just so they'd stop asking but we are TTC with only all you soulcysters knowing it To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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I feel your pain. My family sucks and my SIL is overbearing. My family has a rivarly. My dad's side of the family is middle eastern and never approved of my mother. So I'm sort of the black sheep (so to speak) because I don't look like any of my dad's side of the family. Because my dad sent me to boarding school. My mother's side of the family says I"m stuck up and a snob".
I never mentioned to my side of the family that we were TTC, they never knew, they though because we adopted, that we weren't even trying. DH happened to tell SIL we were trying and when we were having trouble, she told us "Maybe God is telling you, that you don't need a baby". I was so upset, but my DH is one that stands up for his family and he put her in her place.
When we found out we were expecting she changed her tune. This weekend we found out it was a boy and she insisted we name the baby have my BIL that died. I was uncomfortable with the request and DH again stepped in and told her if she wanted to name a baby have one. Of course she's 40 with fertility issues herself, but no husband and no relationship. I didn't want to hurt her feelings but sometimes things have to be said.
I guess what I'm trying to say is KARMA!!! It comes right back around.
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I'm so sorry you had to go through that with your sisters. It seems like you still have a positive attitude about it though and that's all that matters. YOU are a good person. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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I guess what I'm trying to say is KARMA!!! It comes right back around.
i truely believe in this!
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