I am just curious what you all have done as rememberances for your little ones? As I read through the material my dr. gave me on miscarriage it talked about ideas people do for rememberances. i.e. memorial bricks, memorial funds etc.. I thought about it long and hard. What do you do when you don't have a gravestone to visit and such. I ended up buying a gold band for my right hand. The one I chose has intertwining hearts on it. I had it engraved with the date I lost my baby. It was hard when it finally arrived and I put it on. Brought it all back but I am so glad I did it. This way I feel like my memory of this baby is with me always. So what have you done?
~Debby
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Married to my soulmate 11 years!!
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After 9 years-parents to one precious son
One baby in heaven 4/05
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My son is buried at the cemetery and we are in the process of having his headstone made. But the cemetery is about 45 minutes away.
So as far as home is concerned, i have his little footprints in a frame in our bedroom. Next to the frame, i have little tiny things that i buy for him when I am out doing different things, living life. They are small little momentos and do not take much space. In doing this, I feel as though he is never truly forgotten, even in the good times. Eventually as the stash gets bigger, I plan to purchase a chest to keep everything in. My husband knows that I do this, and he has also contributed at times.
The gold band sounds so beautiful!!
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Our sweet angel, Mohamed Matthew Raymon Illyas,
born and at rest on November 30, 2004.
Lived only 30 precious minutes...(IC at 20 weeks) Forever in our hearts, Together in our dreams.
We now live our life for you. We love you Matthew, our little Angel.
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I couldn't bear the thought of Rivi in the ground all by himself (I know HE'S not in there, but I just kept picturing him all alone). We had him cremated, and we had a beautiful custom urn made. He's in our living room (I hug him often), and he'll be buried with whichever one of us dies first (both names on that headstone).
On my due date, I released balloons (Care Bear balloons - that was our nursery theme). Every year, I'll release balloons on the day he was born. I did WalkAmerica in his name, and I plan to do a lot more with the March of Dimes. When I finally have a yard, I'm going to plant a tree for him.
I just got a tattoo of a blue rose with his name above it (I know, gals, I'll post the pic tonight!). I've written my best poetry for him - while I was pregnant and after he died.
Mostly, though, I just love to remember him. He changed me for the better in so many ways.
Off to cry again!
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Miracle Baby Boy Rivelino, born too early to live on October 6, 2004 at 24 weeks and 6 days. Never to be forgotten, always to be remembered, forever my source of inspiration.
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I also have a scrapbook/journal for each pregnancy.
I know this one isn't for a human, but it's also a way to remember my dog Toby, whom I loved very much. When he passed away, my BIL (the cool one) give us a "stone" that said "Here Lies a Treasured Friend". Early last summer, DH's aunt helped us plant a small flower garden in part of our yard and that stone is the focal point of the garden. I haven't actually buried Toby's ashes there yet though. I keep them on our fireplace mantel so I can pet him and hug him whenever I want. We miss him and his crazy antics so much. He's in my avatar right now (black/white dog) if you want to see him!
Oh boy, I'm crying at work now...I miss all my angels and my doggie.
I know this stuff brings on the tears, but it is actually very good for us. Mary Catherine is at the cemetery, only about five minutes away. Right next to her plot, we planted a sugar maple tree. We have a box of stuff at home and photos on the computer... lots of reminders. And the plants that we were given after her death are mostly still alive. I enjoy them a lot, because they remind me of my baby as well as the love we are surrounded by with our friends and family who cared enough to share our loss. My work for the March of Dimes and her birthday gifts which are given to the needy are also in her honor. I think your ideas sound good so far... it will come to you if you don't feel like you've done enough. As you see your son grow up, you might occasionally remember that the little brother or sister would have been a certain age, etc., and it might give you other ideas.
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First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.
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Second loss March 9, 2004 at five weeks
Third pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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What nice nice things you've all done for your babies makes me teary eyed....sighhhh.....
Aimee and Dana are in an urn in my living room too...Viv i never thought of buriel later on with one of us...thats nice too...i rub it everytime i go upstairs to bed...and have some little dried petals in there too from their memorial.
I'm always looking for things and little momentos no matter where i go...all the time. I wear a toe ring with baby steps on it, i bought a birthstone anklet i wore on their first birthday...and their memory box filled with stuff from when they were born. My biggest rememberance in my locket..it has an engraving of a what looks like a person holding a child...inside i have their pictures. I never take it off except for the shower...
my hubby also did something nice...we got sooooo many flowers at the girls memorial...he took them all and dried them in his garage, and then layered the dried petals in a glass vase and sealed it with wax at the top...i have it sitting on my rack in the dining room...it sort of looks like one of those sand bottles with layers of different colors in it...its very pretty. he spent months doing that...it was very touching when he gave it to me...
okay i'm getting teary eyed now too...god bless all our babies....
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Oh, I have a few more stories. For Mother's Day I received a sterling silver, "Tiffany" type bracelet with a charm with little footprints on it. It is beautiful and I wear it all the time. Eventually I hope to find charms for the birthstone of each month I was due and add them to the bracelet.
Also, my mom bought me a bracelet with the March birthstone on it, and earrings with the September birthstone on them. After the 3rd, I stopped buying jewelry, but I'm thinking adding the charms to the bracelet is the way to go.
I understand waiting to get something. When hubby and I were getting along, we talked about having new wedding rings made with Rivi's birthstone. In the back of my mind, I was wondering if they'd be able to rework them if I lost another baby.
I have a bracelet with amnethyst and pearl for Isaac's birthstones (birthdate and due date) I also have a christmas tree ornament of baby shoes with his name engraved on them. I have a sketch I did of him from one of the photos framed and the christmas ornament sitting next to it in our living room and I never take the bracelet off. We also have a rose and a tree planted in our yard dedicated to him.
Viv, that is normal to think, the whole time I was pregnant with Japhet I found myself thinking of what kind of tree we'd plant for him Its not what you want to do maybe but after you've lost a baby its hard not to think that way.
Aviva
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Shortly after my m/c, my dh & I were in WalMart, and looking at the jewelry, with the idea of some sort of remembrance. We saw a ring there that could be personalized. It had room for a personal engraving (name, due date?) on the outside, with little footprints all the way around it. On the inside of the ring, it said "It was then that I carried you" from the famous Footprints poem. We think we may get one to remember Jordan. It was only about $45.00 for 10k gold.
Rememberances? 
makes me teary eyed....sighhhh.....
