When it comes to guys like you who are keen to learn more and offer a genuine, thoughtful male opinion, you can read/post anywhere!
And assuming any not so positive male personalities can be nipped in the bud by moderators/Kat when need be, I don't see any reason to restrict guys at all.
You're a genuine asset to the Soul Cysters, dear Soul Mister!
Wow, thank you, ladies. I don't know exactly why I didn't receive any notifications about your posts here, or I would have replied sooner!
Violamarie - Thanks, I've already been able to get a good deal of information and support here in just the few short weeks I've been here.
Miss-Meme - Thanks, it's good to see so many welcoming sisters here.
BethUK - "Graphic" things don't bother me here. If we were in the middle of a nice conversation at dinner or something, and out of nowhere came the graphics, then I might be a little uncomfortable, but here it's expected and encouraged. Whatever help can be given in whatever form, on whatever level, is going to be given. We can't help much with a problem we don't understand, you know?
Rebecca-527 - Thanks.
KatCarney - Yeah, that's why I wanted to go ahead and put this here. I don't want to do anything that would drive another SC away, or make them hold back int heir posting. We (men) are known for screwing things up, you know?
Cameryn - Thanks, I like to try to help out and offer my PoV where I can. A lot of the symptoms of PCOS make the ladies here worried and concerned about what a guy's going to think about them. And there are several women here who have DH's that understand and aren't bothered by them, so they are set at ease a bit on those points when they know there are women who have found SO's that care about them and can "overlook" things that the women think would bother the men. But having those kinds of things come from a man, I think, might be even better at times.
JennaBC - Thanks! Two cents is about all I have to spare at the moment, but since I do try to be a giving person...
Cameryn - There's an arcade here!? *looks around*
Jeff's Girl - I'm always willing to help in any way that I can. If you've got a question, just ask away. Post it here, post it somewhere else and drop me a link, send me a PM, or whatever.
One-Hit Wonder - I think it's wonderful that all you gals are getting together to help eachother out!
Yep, there's an arcade. Look up at the top of the page with the SC banner ad. You'll see buttons for vbPlaza, User CP, etc. Third from the right is the arcade--full of retro games we played growing up!
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Personally, I've felt uncomfortable before when a guy posted in some threads. If it's a thread like "Do guys really notice this?" or some generic off-topic thing, it's not a big deal. But the other stuff I definitely feel it's for women only. If I'm the only one, that's cool, no need to change anything just for me. I second what Kat said, whatever you post in the guys' forum WILL get answered.
Sari - I try to pay attention to the general tone of the threads, and keep out of things that I'm sure I wouldn't be welcome, or don't have much to offer in. If I do happen to post somewhere where you'd rather I didn't, send me a PM and let me know about it so that I can stay out of there. Serously.
Personally, I've felt uncomfortable before when a guy posted in some threads. -snip- If I'm the only one...
You're not the only one. A few months back several women left SC because they were uncomfortable with men on the site - in forums other than this one.
The best thing is to post here in this forum. Most of the women who are uncomfortable seem to be ok with the guys hanging out here, and as mentioned, no posts go unnoticed.
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I kinda hope my husband will eventually get up the nerve to come on here and see how to help me cope better. But untill then i believe that any man who wants to post here is more than welcome. I know that i would like a mans input on some of my issues so i guess i'll have to come post in here to get those opinions. (I have no problem with yall (men) posting anywhere on the site as long as you have something constructive or helpful to say)
I would love to have a guys opinion more often!! I think that it is great to have the support of all the wonderful women on here, but at times it is nice to have a guy agree (or disagree) with what is said to see what men think about things!!! So post away Fyn Hubby!!!
KatCarney - I'm sorry we make some of the women here so uncomfortable that they feel they have to leave. That really sucks. I don't really have very many questions, and when they do come up, I go to my DW first. If she can't answer, it's usually her that does the asking. I'm really only here for the support role.
cjboo1 - If what I've got to say isn't constructive and/or helpful, then I generally don't bother posting anything at all. If you want to drop us a link in here to something you'd like our input on, or if just want to post in the basic thread itself, I'm sure you'd get what you were looking for. I'm not sure how many other guys frequent this site, since we don't really do anything to talk with eachother on here, but I'm sure I'm not the only one that comes here every day.
Miss-Meme - I check the Rant board every now and then and scan the titles to see if there's anything I might something that I could help with. I don't find them often, but I try to give my input when I do. I don't get too into the serious topics in the Getting To Know You boards, I usually just stick to the games that go on in there since it's just playing around, and nothing serious.
ajhyer - I'm not that hard to find if you're ever looking for me in particular. I'm willing to give my oppinion on just about anything you're willing to ask about.
Fyn....you are a sweet guy. I wish my DBF would come on here and learn about what I'm going through....but he's a bit squeamish..so there isn't much chance of that. I would appreciate your input anywhere you feel its acceptable, you seem to be a intelligent, and rather sensible, considerate man, i think you know the threads you should steer clear of. I personally get along better with men, always been one of the guys myself, so I look forward to seeing you around.
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i have to ask. i was hoping to find a guy to ask this to. but are you familiar w/ the symptoms of pcos and does it bother u at all? im very insecure about it and my boyfriend only knows some stuff but it bothers me that he will find someone else that doesnt have all these problems like me. i hope no one is offended by this question but its been killing me to a point of self-loathing. i think it would b easier to deal w/ if people didnt make me feel bad about my weight all the time but its bad enuff i have to deal w/ everything else and no one even knows or cares and when i tell them i have pcos they act like its an excuse. and i worry that someday my bf will wake up and start seeing those things that everyone else had been saying about me and i worry hes going to not love me anymore bcuz of my other symptoms. anyone's advice here will be appreciated....
i have to ask. i was hoping to find a guy to ask this to. but are you familiar w/ the symptoms of pcos and does it bother u at all? im very insecure about it and my boyfriend only knows some stuff but it bothers me that he will find someone else that doesnt have all these problems like me. i hope no one is offended by this question but its been killing me to a point of self-loathing. i think it would b easier to deal w/ if people didnt make me feel bad about my weight all the time but its bad enuff i have to deal w/ everything else and no one even knows or cares and when i tell them i have pcos they act like its an excuse. and i worry that someday my bf will wake up and start seeing those things that everyone else had been saying about me and i worry hes going to not love me anymore bcuz of my other symptoms. anyone's advice here will be appreciated....
ditto... although my DBF has said that he adores me and that I could be as hairy as a gorilla and he would still love me and see me as gorgeous. My fear is that even though he adores me, my little PCOS quirks will turn him off to me in time...the way it did my exhusband.
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i have to ask. i was hoping to find a guy to ask this to. but are you familiar w/ the symptoms of pcos and does it bother u at all? im very insecure about it and my boyfriend only knows some stuff but it bothers me that he will find someone else that doesnt have all these problems like me. i hope no one is offended by this question but its been killing me to a point of self-loathing. i think it would b easier to deal w/ if people didnt make me feel bad about my weight all the time but its bad enuff i have to deal w/ everything else and no one even knows or cares and when i tell them i have pcos they act like its an excuse. and i worry that someday my bf will wake up and start seeing those things that everyone else had been saying about me and i worry hes going to not love me anymore bcuz of my other symptoms. anyone's advice here will be appreciated....
I think this will be a good thread for you to look over and read through. There are several cysters here that talk about how their SO's react to the symptoms of PCOS. every day I shaving
I honestly have absolutely no problem at all with any of the symptoms of PCOS. My wife doesn't have all that much trouble with the excess hair, which seems to be the BIG symptom that makes the cysters here self concious and doubt their self worth and their worth to their SO's.
Here's another link that might give you a better outlook: My DH.....
