We went to the Drs today to find out about Eric.
It was most likely ABS!!! They didn't find anything wrong with his chromosomes. Thank God! The genetic counseler took our family history, and we asked questions too. She was really nice, and really optimistic about us trying again. Then we talked to the Dr. I didn't like him. He told me I didn't necessarily have to be high risk, but they want to do a level 2 u/s at 11-12 weeks to check the spinal development, and another at 20 weeks for the anatomy scan. I'll have to get the quad test or whatever it's called, which I rejected with Eric. He said I won't need an amnio unless something comes up, but even then it's our choice. Then he started pushing this high-risk Dr on us, and even gave her card to the geneticist! We made an appt with her, but she's not available til the end of March. We won't be going to her.
He also said that I was in labor for only 2 1/2 hours b/c my placenta was tearing off, which probably had to do with the sac being broken. Like his whole support system was out of whack b/c of the sac. They also think that it might have been deformed in the first place. He said I probably will have a normal delivery with the next one.
We're not allowed to try again until they do some kind of blood tests, and an u/s of my uterus. They want to make sure it's not misshapen. That's why I want to go to my other Dr. I don't have to be high risk, so I'm not going to wait forever for an opening with one.
The Dr. said he didn't see any problems with any future pgs. If you think about it, it takes a lot for a little sperm and a little egg to become a person, and so many things can go wrong. In our case it did.
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I'm glad you finally have the results in. It is a relief that there were no chromosomal abnormalities. I have a mishapen uterus, but apparently it's not that much of a problem. It was only mentioned as a side note during some testing. It was mentioned briefly by two doctors, but nothing was said about it causing me problems. They said it wasn't very bad.
I'm so glad they are optimistic for normal future pregnancies. I would choose to see a high risk OB if I were you, even if it is unneccessary. You get more visits, more u/s, etc. It eases your mind just a bit. You'll need that.
It is amazing what it takes to bring a new life into this world, all the pieces that have to come together just right. I love what you have in your siggy. You have amazing strenght and courage. I wish that nobody ever had to say goodbye to their precious babies. Perhaps they are too perfect for this world.
It's terrible news to lose one baby, but to find out that your odds of losing another are extremely low (as a normal person's odds), is great news. It can be the beginning of hope, and hope is a huge part of healing. Thanks for sharing this wonderful information!
I wish you the very best as you look to the future. (((Hugs)))
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IMO, though, being "high-risk," isn't necessarily a bad thing. It wouldn't hurt to have extra peeks of your little one, and it might reassure you that everything's okay!
I'm having a dilemma about that. The Dr at the hospital referred me to this high risk Dr, but I think it was just to get her business or something. He handed the card to the geneticist too, and she wasn't even pg!! I made an appt with her (the one he referred), and she's not open until March 24, then we have to go see her, then I have to schedule an u/s. I don't want to wait that long!! I'll find another high risk doctor, I don't know why it has to be her. I've never heard anything about her, and I know other people who have been to one that's closer. I don't think I want to trust his opinion on this. He was weird.
He was really pushy too. Like, if there was something wrong with the next kid, I know he'd try to push an abortion. I cannot physically force myself to have one. And he seemed upset or something when we said we weren't going to have a test to see if either of us carry cystic fibrosis. There's no reason for us to have one, other than the fact that we're both white. There's no one in either family that has it.
I don't know what I should do. My sister told me to call my regular Dr, and ask him questions.
I don't know what to do. I'm really starting to freak out. First we talked to the stupid Birthright lady, who (if you read my other post) gave me really crappy "advice," like how next time I'll be high risk, and I might have to go on bedrest, and I'll HAVE to have an amnio. She really freaked me out. And so did this Dr. He wasn't reassuring at all. He kept contradicting himself. "You won't have to be high risk, but I want you to go to this specific Dr." "There was nothing wrong, but we want you to have tests before you start trying again." He didn't really give straight answers. I'm not confident at all that I'll have a healthy baby, and I don't think I could handle losing another one.
Nothing I've read has said it'll happen again. In fact, it said the opposite.
Should I stop seeing this Dr and try another one, one I'm more comfortable with? What would you do? I'm not trying to get you to tell me what to do, but it would be nice to see someone else's perspective and why. Thanks!
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Lovepotatoe- First I want to say, follow the glimmer of hope. With hope we can accomplish anything. Second, this is just my opinion on what I would do if I was ever in your position, I have never been pg, so I'm not speaking from experience or anything just trying to put myself in your shoes. If you don't feel comfortable with him, then he's not the right doctor for you!! I would keep looking until you find one you are comfortable with and who makes you feel confident in his/her diagnosis, treatments, advice, etc!! If you aren't comfortable you won't be happy and you most likely won't get the care you need or deserve! I hope that time brings you peace, and healing. And remember you've got an angel watching over you and guiding you to what is right!! Eric will always be with you!
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I agree! If you're this uncomfortable now, it might be worse when you're pregnant, and you don't need that stress. Hopefully, you'll be able to find a high-risk OB who can handle all aspects of your next pregnancy.
Results are back! 
