Im not sure how it works elsewhere but in Australia we have Medicare.
When you see your doctor, gyn or have an ultrasound you pay the cost but then go into a Medicare office to get it re-imbursed for some of it (around 60%).
Well I finally got organised and take in a couple of my gyn bills & the 2 ultrasound bills.
So I hand them over she's typing into her computer, tells me my refund. Then says now that your having a baby you should actually sign up for a family card along with your husband and handed me over some paperwork.
I was like huh what baby? Then I realised of course that she was looking at my ultrasound bills and assuming I'm pregnant (it does say obstetric ultrasound so a fair assumption really). Then I'm thinking do I look pregnant? But of course I'm standing behind counter that comes up to my chest.
I was so choked up I couldn't say anything, as she finished processing my claims and handing over the money she says "Good luck with the baby's birth, hope all goes well"
And I just smiled and said yeah thanks. I couldn't say anything. What could I say? There is no baby, it died?
So now I'm just feeling sorry for myself. Im saying to myself we will have another baby. One day I will be a mother. But the fact is, I feel so sorry for the baby I lost. That it will never get the chance to be born. That under 'normal' circumstances I'd be standing at the counter 5 months pregnant and be happily chatting about my baby.
I am so sorry. I had a comment similiar to that. A girl was taking my blood, it was a repeat beta. So she assumed I was pregnant. The test was to confirm my baby had died. They have a hard time getting a blood draw from me and it always hurts, so she said, at least this is for a good cause, you will have a baby in the end. Umm, not really. But I did the same thing and laughed and said, "ahhhm yeah".
Sorry again for your loss, I was checked after two losses and they found I have a blood clotting disorder. I just had two eggs triggered and am on a blood thinner unless I get a negative test in two weeks!
Hugs to you!
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I'm so sorry...It seems as though alot of us encounter this....Health care workers really should be more careful about reading the charts...When I went for a follow up on my last m/c, I was checking out and the receptionist asked how far along I was because she saw that I had an ultrasound and a repeat beta...I stared at her for a second not really knowing what to say...Finally I just said, I'm not pregnant, I had a m/c. She said she was sorry but it didn't make up for making me extra sad for the rest of the day.
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Kristina I just noticed how many vials you had!
I saw my first RE about a month ago, and seeing her for the second time in 2 weeks.
Had my bloods done 2 days ago and I don't like to look but I think there were 8 or 10!!! But 13 shesshhh.
I really don't know what to do. I'm getting the blood tests done so should find out whether I even have PCOS in 2 weeks. I have 'classic polycystic ovaries' but there was a debate between my GP & GYN as to whether I have the syndrome or not - hence the visit to an RE (thanks to this site!).
Also I have a septum which my RE wants me to have a sonohystogram - which I have been unable to get booked into and now have to wait for my next AF. She said this could be a factor in m/c.
Finally when I do actually have AF I have bad pain and heavy bleeding (like changing a pad every 30 - 60 minutes) so they suspect possibly endometriosis.
I'm so downhearted. If its not one thing its another. I wonder if I will ever get to the bottom of this 'thing'. If I really do have all 3 things then my chances of ttc and actually having a baby at the end of it must be very slim.
Oh I can empathize with you. I had something similar happen to me. However, I was mean to the healthcare worker. I shouldn't have. She had no idea. I wish I treated her kindly, but then again, I was a very angry person back then.
yes....13 vials of blood! I was sitting there counting as they were changing them. This is the kicker....They didn't find anything wrong! I have a follow up with the RE on Monday for the rest of the tests and DH's tests but so far everything looks normal except my progesterone. My RE pretty much told me he wouldn't help me get pregnant until I lost 30 lbs. He was very condiscending and I won't be seeing him after Monday's visit.
I hope you have more luck with your tests...
You know, I almost wanted something to be wrong with me....I feel like it's better than not knowing anything.
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I remember when I got back to work after my loss (it was a second-trimester loss). I was feeling very anxious about going back, I didn't want to face my coworkers, and the "pitty" and the memories, since that is where I'd learned I was pregnant in the first place, and where my loss began happening.
My first day back, not even five minutes in the office, and a coworker comes up to me and asks how the baby is doing!?!!? I guess *some* news doesn't travel well in an office. She thought I'd had the baby, and was off on Maternity leave. I'm pretty sure she feels worse about that blunder then I do, because she was sincerely in tears when she found out what happened, and I ended up being the one to console her.
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I think people are usually just excited about babies, but healthcare workers should be a little more sensitive IMO.
When I had to go to emerg with my miscarriage, ironically enough there was a woman beside me who was going to be giving birth that week. So there I was explaining my situation to my check in nurse and right beside me was a very happy mama to be explaining her situation to her check in nurse. At that time, I thought the unverse must have had it out for me in a big way...
HUGS to you, I'm very sorry...
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Every time I had to have betas drawn during my miscarriage, I braced myself for pregnancy related comments... mercifully, they never came. I guess the lab people were professional enough to not make comments on anyone's labs and/or possible "conditions." I think that's how all medical people should be, unless they are 100% aware of the situation...
So sorry you had to deal with that comment. It was unprofessional of her to say anything, IMO. Likely she wouldn't comment on any other condition - "Hope that plantar's wart doesn't come back!" "Good luck with your colonoscopy!" - pregnancy being an "exciting" condition doesn't excuse it.
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"We've tried to wash our hands of all of this
We never talk of our lacking relationships
And how we're guilt-stricken, sobbing, with our heads on the floor
We fell through the ice when we tried not to slip..."
- the verve pipe
I found out i was preg on a thurs, saw a ob on fri and was in the ER Monday morning b/c i had miscarried. I was at the dr's office the following Wed. for blood work to make sure my hgh count was going down. The nurse wanted a urine sample, i told her i didnt have to go she said "Oh dont worry with a little one in there you'll have to go pee soon." The worst part was she was looking at the chart that should have said why i was there, but she just didnt pay enough attention.
Jane as an another Aussie that happened to me when I took my bills in there as well, I had a delievery bill from my obst that stated on it the gestation of 20 weeks but they must just look at the item number. I was escorted over to the family payment area to claim my maternity bonus!!! WTF is wrong with people asking with tact.
I'm sorry for your loss
Bec
Ps I'm also in Vic
Sad "Good luck with your baby" comment 
