scared about TTC

glowingpurpleaura · 05-20-2006, 11:08 AM

Hi there

we have latley been considering TTC (some people would say we are too young) but i'm i guess i'm scared not because i dont want kids but i'm kinda scared that its going to make this whole thing (pcos) real... My doc has told me its almost certain i will need fertility drugs has anyone else felt like this / has felt like this? Just wanting to know if theres anyone else in my boat i guess... thanks girls

Jdixon2 · 05-20-2006, 04:00 PM

I know the feeling of ttc and being scared. I have been off bcp for almost 2 years with only 3 periods since then. I want kids so bad butg nothing yet. they way i look at it is if it is ment to happen then it will.

Good luck and hang in there!

the1tracey · 05-20-2006, 04:27 PM

I know this feeling, i was 17 when i came off of BC and i am still trying at 25. I have had a lap, had ovarian drilling, clomid, metformin etc and nothing worked.
I had to have a break from it all, before i drove myself into the ground, i became depressed, and fat!
But during my break i went on a diet, focused on getting myself sorted and from losing the weight, i gained my AF again!! First time ever she's been arriving everymonth on her own!

So...Now i'm back TTC (this time armed with my periods + hopefully ovulating though i'm not sure yet). So even though i'm scared of the drugs/disapointment i am optimistic and have my chin up!

I wouldn't worry about people saying you're too young, it's been 7 years so far (and i was young), i still am young at 25 but add another 7 or maybe 10 years of TTC (hopefully this won't happen) but if it does, i'll be pushing my 40's.

Anyway, Chin up, Do your research on what drugs are availiable/suitable for you, so you can see your Doctor with some knowledge and here's hoping we Concieve in the near future

glowingpurpleaura · 05-21-2006, 10:38 AM

thank you both for your replies

*Shellie_Star* · 05-21-2006, 08:02 PM

Good luck with your decisions

Just to let you know, what the docs say isn't always gospel. I was told I wouldn't get PG without treatment if I had any at all. My ovaries are knackered, I've seen the scans of them and it ain't pretty lol. Anyway, I got PG by accident so some doctors really do talk bollox!

x

Leigha789 · 05-21-2006, 09:44 PM

Don't worry about people thinking you are too young! My husband and I (he was just my boyfriend at the time) started ttc when we were 19, about 5 months before we got married. Everyone thought we were too young to be trying to have a baby but I knew I had pcos and my periods were always so irregular that I figured it would take a while. It did take a while, finally 4 years and a month after we started trying we had our son. And if I hadn't had weight loss surgery I still don't think I would be pregnant, unless we did some other fertility treatments. (We did do two rounds of clomid before my surgery which didn't work.) So anyway, I'm just saying that if you feel ready than I think it's good to start early when you pcos b/c you never know how long and hard the road will be. We are going to start ttc again in two years (or one year if my hubby agrees!

) and hopefully it won't take as long this time.

polly-pcos · 05-21-2006, 09:47 PM

I can really relate to your apprehension about ttc. I know a few women whose lives have been overtaken by ttc.

My circumstances are a little unusual, both times I got pg by accident, but we were prepared for it and were just getting used to the idea when I m/c.

The second time i was pg i had a horrible feeling i would pg but my dh would't even consider it and just kept saying he thought it would never happen again.

Now he says he doesn't want children, has gone of 'proper' sex in case I get pg. When we discuss it he says its mostly because he doesn't want me to mc again because it devastated me both times.

I just want to get pg without worrying about it, and would like not to know until i give birth!

libchick · 05-22-2006, 10:31 AM

Hi!

I'm also scared to ttc.

I'm getting married in dec and my df and i haven't had sex yet (we both want to wait 'till dec) so i'm not sure if i'll have problems. But my endo and GP thinks i will and have referred be to an ob/gyn that specialises in infertility.

I also feel scared to go bec then the whole pcos/infertility thing will be REAL! But at the same time i'm scared that if i don't go soon and start treatment, they'll end up telling me "well, if you came sooner we could've helped you..". Also infertility treatment is v v v expensive in south africa and the medical aid doesn't cover it.

Anyhoo, just wanted to let you know you're not alone!

hunnybee · 05-22-2006, 04:41 PM

I know how you feel too. I'm getting married in December and DF and I have discussed when we will start TTC. I have to say that I really want children so much, but for some reason I keep wanting to put it off a little longer. Ideally, I would like to start ttc at 30 (I'm 26 now) but then my Mum starts on at me saying "the sooner you start trying the better, especially with your problems". Early menopause also runs in my family, so I have that to contend with as well! I'm beginning to think that I'm putting it off so that it doesn't become "real".

You are certainly not alone!

guineapig · 05-22-2006, 07:14 PM

I'm 29 going on 30. Yeah, our docs (two different ones) told us IVF was our next step after failing just metformin (and one round of Letrozole). We did not have tubal/blocked/endometriosis problems either. It was an ovulation issue, and a slight male factor. I started on DCI (see sig) and got bfp the third month. Don't let the doctors scare you too much, until you have actually tried and given several different meds/herbs a chance....they make a lot of money off of IVF, 100% of what they charge since most insurance won't touch it. I'm not saying it's not the answer for some women, I know it is, but I also think docs rush into it without trying much simpler, cheaper treatments. Either that or they don't know what to do when their favorite, preferred drug won't work for you.